How many of you believe in "The One?"

I admit, when I was younger, I thought there was only "one" person for me. Chalk it up to being naive, a believer in fairy tales, or simply conditioned from hearing others and their beliefs, I have learned having only "one" is horse shite. Divorce has a tendency to change a person's beliefs, and really force oneself to reexamine many of the things that I used to believe were true.

I don't say this from a bitter place. I say this from a place of being divorced has been one of the best blessings of my life. No, it sucks splitting custody of our children, coming home to an empty house after work on the days they aren't with me, and losing your best friend --- all these things continue, but I have learned that with time, things get better. And life truly does go on. Finding myself again and realizing how much I can count on me, I am blessed -- with my health, job, friends, and family.

I've learned that someone, i.e., my ex-wife, was "The One" for a certain stage of my life and not for another, as she chose to leave our relationship.

Life, as fast as it goes, is long. The sooner we reject the false conditioning that there’s one person who will complete us, the more we have a chance of a relationship that fulfills us.