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re: How many of you believe in "The One?"
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:33 am to Will Cover
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:33 am to Will Cover
People change over time. Like you said she was, The One for that stage of your life. We grow into diffrent people, our needs, wants, values, may hit a fork in the road and just arent wanting the somethings in life.
It sucks but its true and divorce is a bitch, to much $$ and time go into it. Entrace and exit fees are brutal
It sucks but its true and divorce is a bitch, to much $$ and time go into it. Entrace and exit fees are brutal
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Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:34 am to Will Cover
They are all the one----------until they're not.
My first wife was the one-------not.
Second wife was the one-------not.
Third wife is the one, and so far we've been together since 97 and still going strong with no end in sight. Maybe if I'd have found her first, she would truly have been the one.
My first wife was the one-------not.
Second wife was the one-------not.
Third wife is the one, and so far we've been together since 97 and still going strong with no end in sight. Maybe if I'd have found her first, she would truly have been the one.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:36 am to Will Cover
Had two "Ones". Would it be "The Two's" then?
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:39 am to Will Cover
maybe you're not...
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:42 am to Will Cover
I think there are people that are so strongly drawn to each other that that keep coming back to each other even after breakups, divorce, etc. you could say that they’re “ the one” to each other.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 8:46 am to eitek1
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I may have found the “One”. The most completely random series of events happened or we would have never met each other.
That's great, I'm in a similar boat, but with a completely different story.
As far as there being a "the one" though, it just doesn't work that way and has nothing to do with why people get together.
Statistically speaking, there's someone out there somewhere that each person would be just as happy with as their current "the one". Realistically speaking, most will never meet that, or those, other persons or even know any better of their existence.
It's not to put down what anyone has, but it's just not probable that all those that are happily together have found their true "the one" and more likely they all found one of their "ones".
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:03 am to Will Cover
It’s called “The One” because there ain’t no way a man can put up two women’s BS at the same time.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:08 am to Will Cover
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the false conditioning that there’s one person who will complete us
Will, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce but am happy it has been a blessing. Learning that women love differently than men love is something men sense but have difficulty understanding, until something like your story occurs. What we believe about love and marriage in this culture is overwhelmingly from a woman's point of view.
This feminized Disney/White Knight version of what American men of a certain class are supposed to be is drilled into us. So, believing in "the one" is just the reassuring self-deceit we have, it gives the relationship a sense of nobility and inevitability. Maybe we should be a little more rational and a little less romantic, right? Which is difficult when we have been raised as men to be romantic and chivalrous. I think we have to deprogram ourselves and give up these little stories we tell ourselves and face the fact that two people in a relationship are always at the mercy of the behavior and psychology of the other one.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:08 am to DesScorp
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I think there are people that are so strongly drawn to each other that that keep coming back to each other even after breakups, divorce, etc. you could say that they’re “ the one” to each other.
Nah. That sounds like a toxic loop of a relationship.
Now, they can choose to fix what’s broken there and have a great relationship, but that wouldn’t make them “the one”. The would be two people choosing to work through hard things, which is the hallmark of nearly all long term relationships.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:30 am to Will Cover
When I first met my wife, I was freshly broken up with a woman that I thought was the one. I loved this woman but our relationship wasn't a perfect fit.
When I first laid eyes on my wife, I knew instantly that she was actually the one. A voice in my head said that this was going to be my wife. Been together for 20 years now
When I first laid eyes on my wife, I knew instantly that she was actually the one. A voice in my head said that this was going to be my wife. Been together for 20 years now
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:37 am to Will Cover
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The sooner we reject the false conditioning that there’s one person who will complete us, the more we have a chance of a relationship that fulfills us.
Sorry you live such a miserable life.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:40 am to Will Cover
I thought we were going to talk about the underrated Jet Li film. This post was edited on 3/15/24 at 9:41 am
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:40 am to Will Cover
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How many of you believe in "The One?"
Myth/doesnt exist
You find the best one that turns you on and can put up with your shite long term. And you can put up with her craziness and shite too.
Works out about 60% of the time if both people make the effort and she doesn’t get too fat or crazy.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 9:57 am to HattiesburgTiger5439
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People change over time. Like you said she was, The One for that stage of your life. We grow into diffrent people, our needs, wants, values, may hit a fork in the road and just arent wanting the somethings in life. It sucks but its true and divorce is a bitch, to much $$ and time go into it. Entrace and exit fees are brutal
Going through this now. Getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage. We both was faithful during this 17 years but she hit a point she just wanted to go in different directions.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 10:23 am to Will Cover
There is no one. For some there are none.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 10:35 am to Will Cover
Unless you go on a date with each and every person on the face of the planet, there is no way anybody could definitively know if their spouse is “the one”
Posted on 3/15/24 at 11:08 am to Will Cover
Inb4 all the all the boomers and OT moderates call you an "incel" or "not all women are like that, I did fine" comments.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 11:11 am to Will Cover
Cool that things are going well for you and good luck on future evolution.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 11:16 am to Lsupimp
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This feminized Disney/White Knight version of what American men of a certain class are supposed to be is drilled into us. So, believing in "the one" is just the reassuring self-deceit we have, it gives the relationship a sense of nobility and inevitability. M
You basically hit the nail on the head. For the work we put in, American men for the most part don't get reciprocation in terms of looks, personality, or respect. I think that's pretty much the premise of Red Pillers when they first started coming up in the 2000's before it got labeled as an extremist movement.
Posted on 3/15/24 at 11:25 am to Will Cover
I took two years off after my divorce and started actively searching for "the one" 14 months ago. I dated over 25 candidates and found ONE that I would be friends with even if sex was off the table. I'm going to hang on to this one.
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