re: How long did it take your parents to get over their divorce?

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parents have been faithfully married for 41 years

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You don't know that.

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Get your mom a boyfriend. Or a vibrator.

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I think your mothers been through enough that she doesn’t need you thinking of her sexual needs.

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She obviously needs some Dick I’d she’s still so pissy about your dad 12 years later in her 70s

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Dude. You are the last person that should give advice about this. Your wife jumping on another dick wrecked you so bad, you took up serenading and writing poetry to a site full of guys ever since.

My parents have been married for 36 years. I’m so glad I was raised in a home that ran the way it’s supposed to run.

I’ll give the benefit of the doubt to folks on spouse #2, but people who are on spouse #3 and the first two aren’t dead are just trashy af.

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Pretty much have cut off communication with her since.

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The best move you could have made.

I have analyzed the heck out of this. Analyzing is what I do for a living so I suppose that is why. But I have diagnosed her with borderline personality disorder. You should look up these symptoms and I bet you will see many, if not all, in your mother. They sound like the same person.

parents divorced 25 years ago and still can't get along. i've pretty much been their mediator since i was in middle school.

My parents divorced when I was 14 and couldn't really be around each other much for a few years. If the sink needed to be fixed or something at my mom's house, she would leave the house and leave a 6 pack for my dad to come over and show me how to fix whatever needed to be fixed. My 21st birthday party was the first time they ever really actually hung out and could talk like normal people. My dad died at 49 of leaukemia, but I honestly don't think he ever got over my mom; he would be with women but he never really seriously dated anyone until my mom was remarried.

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I got divorced and I’m completely fine with my ex. I’m much happier not being married. It’s not all perfect with everything but I’m not sure what would cause someone to hold on to that much anger.
That’s just gonna make your life miserable

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I agree. The anger and resentment and bitterness are just poison that toxify everyone attached. The kids sense it, it must be miserable to hang on to hate for so many years. I know it took a while to process and swallow it all, but in the end it’s so much better to just get it out and move on.

Kids pick up on that stuff and your number one priority should be making sure that they aren’t feeling like they are in the middle of a battle. I know a lot of people don’t have that luxury but being able to get there is a good feeling. Getting to the spot where you can really say you’ve moved on is cathartic.

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Women are nuts but If you build your life with someone and raise kids for 2-3 decades and get divorced, I bet you never get over it and I totally understand that

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my wife and i almost split 15 years ago when we had a 1 year old and had been married 2.5 years. we counseled and came out of it and have been very happy since. it would have sucked at the time, but i would have gotten over it and remarried.

now after 18 years of marriage and 2 kids? i have no idea WTF i would do with my life. the idea of dating after reading horror stories from some of you haunt me.