re: How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?

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How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?

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For the woman, she stops connecting with her man because he no longer connects with her emotional and mental needs.

For the man, he stops connecting with his woman because she no longer connects with his physical needs.

All that, plus many women forget how to perform a "girlfriend like" blowjob experience once they walk down the aisle.

The key is for each person to keep their own residence. When you need space, you have it.

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Because people don’t want to put in the work it takes to keep a happy marriage. There are ups n downs, it’s difficult at times. People are lazy and want the easy way out

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This. Marriage requires a lot of work.

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What would it matter if they weren't married but still together and living in the same home?

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That's just marriage without calling it marriage. Unless it's one of those things where daddy and mommy can bring home their side pieces, then I doubt you're doing the children much good in the long term.


Fact is, monogamous married couples are overwhelmingly better at raising functioning children than children raised in single parent homes.

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Lack of sex with one another. Sex is like a reset button for 99% of people. If there is tension just frick it out and then after orgasm you forget what you were mad about. I think it really is that simple.

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“When I was a child, I thought like a child”

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When I was a child, I thought like a child”

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Some things aren’t that complicated. I realize certain people are doomed and sex after a year of infidelity and physical abuse won’t do much but if married couple made love at least every other day the divorce rate would plummet.

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You're right, but I think many women can't get to that point because they feel as if their male partner isn't connecting with them emotionally and mentally. Plus many couples often forget to "date" each other. This can be due to children, work, health or Chad issues. Simply put, a couple's priorities get out of balance.

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Sure but more sex will make emotional connections more substantial, it’s in the chemicals released during orgasm.
I agree we forget to do it and therein lies the problem.

The sex thing becomes less important over time. It’s important, but it’s not the most important. If it is, you need to grow up.

But people are constantly evolving. Thing I’ve noticed in 17 years of marriage has been how those changes challenge the relationship.

Because they forget that putting up with somebody, anybody, every single day takes work. It takes uncomfortable conversations and openness.

And, they forget to make time for just two for that and frickin.