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re: How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?
Posted on 1/28/18 at 12:58 pm to SECdragonmaster
Posted on 1/28/18 at 12:58 pm to SECdragonmaster
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It started just like AIDS.
Patient X.
One divorced woman was unhappy and she nagged all her friends about how much happier they would be if they got a divorce too.
Eventually a second woman got a divorce and the problem grew and grew into what we have today.
If divorced women would admit the truth- that they are more unhappy than when they were still married, it could stop.
But if one woman is unhappy, she won’t stop until all women are too.
What the frick is all this nonsense?
If your woman was able to be "talked into" getting a divorce by her friend down the street, you've got bigger problems, obviously.
You're focusing on the symptom and not the actual underlying issue.
Happily married people aren't gonna hear an infomercial, of sorts, on getting a divorce and then think, "you know what, sounds great. I think I'll try one."
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Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:01 pm to TigerBR1111
You get that new relashionhip high but then it fades. There were days that i didnt want to go home after work. My ex used to tell me she would never leave me. At the end our marriage she told me she couldn't stand to be around me.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:03 pm to SlowFlowPro
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ou can have the best sex ever and you still roll over 10 minutes later and find yourself back in the 5-figure CC debt of your spouse and any gains the sex gave you are gone. money is the primary driver of divorce
People throw in the towel over five figure debt? They really weren’t in love then.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:05 pm to SECdragonmaster
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It started just like AIDS.
Patient X.
One divorced woman was unhappy and she nagged all her friends about how much happier they would be if they got a divorce too.
Eventually a second woman got a divorce and the problem grew and grew into what we have today.
If divorced women would admit the truth- that they are more unhappy than when they were still married, it could stop.
But if one woman is unhappy, she won’t stop until all women are too.
That's a load of crap.
I have girlfriends that are divorced. Hearing their stories only made me want to try that much harder to not ever be in their shoes. My marriage is farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr from perfect...but it's still mine and I'll do whatever it takes to keep it that way. Unless my husband started beating me or had multiple affairs, divorce is just simply not an option in my mind.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:07 pm to lsunurse
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had multiple affairs
So one affair is ok? Kinda like a free pass?
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:10 pm to Displaced
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So one affair is ok? Kinda like a free pass?
No it is not a free pass. But one discretion could possibly be forgiven and with counseling...the marriage survives.
Multiple affairs...that just shows he has completely given up on the marriage and has absolutely no respect for myself or the marriage anymore. Like I posted before...both people have to want to do the work for a marriage to survive.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:20 pm to TigerBR1111
Because the courts decided there are no consequences for women in marriage.
Did you cheat on your spouse? Did you emotionally shut yourself off from the marriage? Do you have kids? Are you a man? Then prepare to lose your livelihood, monetary sanity, and be paying your ex without consequence for the next decade or more.
Did you cheat on your spouse? Did you emotionally shut yourself off from the marriage? Do you have kids? Are you a woman? You're so brave.
Did you cheat on your spouse? Did you emotionally shut yourself off from the marriage? Do you have kids? Are you a man? Then prepare to lose your livelihood, monetary sanity, and be paying your ex without consequence for the next decade or more.
Did you cheat on your spouse? Did you emotionally shut yourself off from the marriage? Do you have kids? Are you a woman? You're so brave.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:22 pm to TigerBR1111
My wife hates me because I don't close my drawers and leave small pieces of pube hair on the toilet seat.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:23 pm to TigerBR1111
The nagging of the wife seems to increase exponentially to the years married per my my uncle and friends who are divorced. I haven’t experienced constant nagging yet 5 years in thank God. I’ll report back as needed 
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:25 pm to jcaz
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My wife hates me because I don't close my drawers and leave small pieces of pube hair on the toilet seat.
Pretty sure your wife hates you cause you don't shave your junk
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:25 pm to Kuzuri
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Marriage is just outdated, really it’s simple as that.
It sure is for men. Once you put a ring on it, she wins...simple as that.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:34 pm to lsunurse
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I'm talking how some foolishly compare their lives to those presented by others on fb and feel like their lives are lacking.
My SO does this constantly and just can't understand that her buddies from high school don't put up all the negative stuff out there.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:36 pm to TigerBR1111
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How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?
Have you ever shared your life with someone?
Little things add up. And if you never address them they snowball into an unstoppable destructive force. An ice cube is manageable. An avalanche is not.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:39 pm to SECdragonmaster
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One divorced woman was unhappy and she nagged all her friends about how much happier they would be if they got a divorce too.
So true...when I got divorced her 2 BFFs decided they'd do the same in the same week.
Side note...none of them are friends now.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:46 pm to TigerBR1111
Lack of forgiveness.
Unrealistic expectations.
Unrealistic expectations.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:50 pm to TigerBR1111
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the hatred I often see in couples that divorce
I just said this. Never married, no desire to sign a legal and financial contract to someone if I don't want kids and am not religious. I bought a house with my SO and he gets the house if I die and vise versa, otherwise we are 50/50. My tax accounting teacher said "Pre-nups are not meant for the rich, they are meant for everyday people."
I feel like I try harder as a girlfriend, because breaking up is easier than divorce, so I make it worth his while to stay.
Just my thoughts.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:53 pm to TigerBR1111
Mismatch personalities
Mismatch priorities
Stupid decisions.
If a couple doesn't really enjoy spending time together and doing things together, it's doomed.
Mismatch priorities
Stupid decisions.
If a couple doesn't really enjoy spending time together and doing things together, it's doomed.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:54 pm to elprez00
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elprez00
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:54 pm to Robin Masters
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People throw in the towel over five figure debt? They really weren’t in love then.
$30-60k in CC debt is life changing bro
And if one spouse is responsible for the vast majority of that? He/she basically ruined your life (for your average Joe's)
Posted on 1/28/18 at 1:58 pm to SlowFlowPro
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narcissism and unrealistic expectations are major issues in marriage and social media 100% exacerbates these issues
Agree.
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