re: How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?

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. My tax accounting teacher said "Pre-nups are not meant for the rich, they are meant for everyday people."

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I don't know if I'd take legal advice from an accountant

The clinical answer would probably be they probably didn't witness healthy reciprocating treatment and respect between their parents when children.

If a woman did not witness a mother who showed her father respect, understanding, willingness to communicate, and behaved with an even-temper and strong desire to hold her family together while she was a young girl, she won't be able to navigate the rough waters of marriage.

If a man was a boy who didn't witness his father treat his mother with respect, patience, and was a big enough man to NOT let his pride, ego, and need to be "right", endanger the security of his family and children, there's a pretty good chance he won't be able to set the example needed to hold his own household together in a way which he is respected.

When mutual respect leaves, all bets are off, husband and wife both feel wronged, begin to blame each other for their individual misery, the fuse is lit, and eventually detonates into animosity and hatred.

I don't date very much. I have never been married. In the past three relationships that I participated in, I gave my very best to the woman. Never abused her or insulted her. Have her money to pay bills and treated them like queens. Unfortunately, the relationships were long distance (300-500 miles ) and I guess it that was difficult to overcome. When it became apparent that neither she or I were willing to move, the relationship became strained. Neither of the three ladies want any kind of friendship either. I don't understand how some women can be so ungrateful and spiteful ?

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That's the "princess" mentality. Avoid at all costs

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Solid advice. I dated one of these for 3-4 years. Thank God I didn't marry her

Marry the wrong woman, have kids, and you can answer your own questions. Good luck.

Best advice I ever heard and it goes for both the husband and the wife-“ don’t wear the ring so tight that it strangles you and makes it hard to breath,but don’t wear the ring so loose that it falls off

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because I can't so easily walk away

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Exactly. Being married makes a lot of people take one another for granted because you are "stuck" (legally, perceptively, etc.) Mine can just walk, I have to keep him entertained,

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$30-60k in CC debt is life changing bro

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What if someone has that in student loan debt? What's the difference?

shite like that makes me think a prenup is mandatory. I'm not worried about my riches (which I'll probably never get) being taken. My credit? That's another ballgame. I was up to 846 last month. I sacrificed a lot to have a low student loan debt load and to pay it off quickly. I'm about to get tree of it all by 35-36 and then I can ramp my shite into a higher gear.

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I’m not one to judge but I can’t imagine tossing my wife because of some shopping. when someone has made a mistake they need you more than ever, not for you to dump them. And does that even resolve the debt?

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well the shopping wouldn't be the main issue, the deception would.