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How is it that loving married couples end up hating each other so often?
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:08 am
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:08 am
Never been married but every relationship I have been in ended without the hatred I often see in couples that divorce.
Other than infidelity I cannot understand how this radical change in feelings occurs.
It’s amazing because these two people once loved each other so much they wanted to share their entire life with each other but now they violently detest each other.
I can understand if differences in attitude or outlook become revealed in the marriage which may cause them to want a divorce but it is a mystery how such deep love can turn so dramatically into deep hatred.
Anyone have light to shed on this?
Other than infidelity I cannot understand how this radical change in feelings occurs.
It’s amazing because these two people once loved each other so much they wanted to share their entire life with each other but now they violently detest each other.
I can understand if differences in attitude or outlook become revealed in the marriage which may cause them to want a divorce but it is a mystery how such deep love can turn so dramatically into deep hatred.
Anyone have light to shed on this?
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Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:09 am to TigerBR1111
No blowjobs
Rarely any pussy
I don’t do that anymore
Sandwich making skills starting to slip
The constant nagging
Kankels
Rarely any pussy
I don’t do that anymore
Sandwich making skills starting to slip
The constant nagging
Kankels
This post was edited on 1/28/18 at 11:11 am
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:09 am to TigerBR1111
She quit making biscuits.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:09 am to TigerBR1111
Familiarity breeds contempt
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:10 am to TigerBR1111
Because people don’t want to put in the work it takes to keep a happy marriage. There are ups n downs, it’s difficult at times. People are lazy and want the easy way out
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:10 am to TigerBR1111
Having kids can change your relationship. Substance abuse, change in work ethic, any number of things can happen.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:10 am to TigerBR1111
Spending too much time with anyone will change your views.
The shite they do that's cute or funny over time becomes annoying. Then it builds from there. Add in stress because of finance or kids or whatever and over time it gets worse and worse
My guess anyways
The shite they do that's cute or funny over time becomes annoying. Then it builds from there. Add in stress because of finance or kids or whatever and over time it gets worse and worse
My guess anyways
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:12 am to TigerBR1111
Relationships come and go...unfortunately, most folks who are married wait far too long to get a divorce when the marriage fails. I too have always had my relationships end on good terms...but if I had been forced to stay with that person several more years, I can't say that things wouldn't have become a lot nastier.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:12 am to PolyPusher86
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Because people don’t want to put in the work it takes to keep a happy marriage. There are ups n downs, it’s difficult at times. People are lazy and want the easy way out
Or some have unrealistic ideals about what marriage is and think that the first time those rough times hit...it's a sign they should just divorce and move on.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:12 am to TigerBR1111
It boils down to one word.
Selfishness
Selfishness
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:13 am to TigerBR1111
Regardless of the saying, people do change over time, especially in the confines of a relationship and parenthood. A couple must learn to continue to love the evolving partner or it will breed malcontent.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:16 am to TigerBR1111
Because when just dating , you break up when it's no longer fun. Not that much of an investment into it.
With marriage there is a greater emotional and legal commitment. People stay longer to try to make it work for many reasons ( kids, house, social pressures etc). So by the time one ends it, it's been building for a long long time. Lots of anger and frustration as well as pain builds up as the dam breaks.
With marriage there is a greater emotional and legal commitment. People stay longer to try to make it work for many reasons ( kids, house, social pressures etc). So by the time one ends it, it's been building for a long long time. Lots of anger and frustration as well as pain builds up as the dam breaks.
This post was edited on 1/28/18 at 3:57 pm
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:21 am to TigerBR1111
People get bored of each other, it’s just nature. I have a couple friends who are married and already they’ve cheated. They’ve all been married less then 3 years, too. I have another friend who just had a kid who is about to turn 2 and he hasn’t had sex since they were trying for it. Marriage is just outdated, really it’s simple as that. I said it in another topic, I was with one ex every single day in the beginning and after 5-6 months, we were ready to slaughter each other. Too many times people hook up with the wrong people thinking they’re “the one” when they really aren’t.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:21 am to Spankum
quote:
unfortunately, most folks who are married wait far too long to get a divorce when the marriage fails.
So married couples should just call it and get a divorce at the first sign of trouble instead of trying to work on things?
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:23 am to Kuzuri
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Marriage is just outdated, really it’s simple as that.
Not necessarily, there are still people getting married.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:24 am to TigerBR1111
People that get divorced are trashy
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:24 am to Kuzuri
quote:
Marriage is just outdated
I disagree. It just isn't given the proper respect and reverence it deserves. Many go into it thinking in the back of their minds "well if it doesn't work out we can just divorce". Or they ignore blatant warning signs that maybe their choice of spouse isn't a suitable match for them...but because they have feelings for that person they ignore those signs and think marrying them will somehow magically fix those issues.
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:25 am to FulshearTiger
By that same token, should they stick around too long when it’s clear they’re not working?
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:25 am to TigerBR1111
“There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her guts. I do. How do you explain that? What happened to that love? What happened to it, is what I'd like to know. I wish someone could tell me.”
-Raymond Carver
-Raymond Carver
Posted on 1/28/18 at 11:25 am to TigerBR1111
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