re: Getting F u’ed by your sig other

Sticks and stones.

They're just words.

You've never said anything in anger?

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Got into it last night over something stupid and was called a MF.

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She finally said the silent part out loud.

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Not sure I could normalize name calling

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Depends on the context for me.

I’m a big “this little MFer over here..” type humorous thing when joking around with friends. But never in a fight.

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How did you make it 21 years before being called a motherfricker??

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exactly. I usually feel accomplished if I can get through a weekend

You learned to normalize it, and it’s your fault for not setting boundaries. I just learned that men are allowed to set them too. The 1st time your wife ever MF’d you, you should have said, “frick no. You are not going to disrespect me like that. Ever. fricking ever. That’s 1. I “may” give you 2. The 3rd time and you better start looking for a new place to live, because it will not be with me.” She’ll either learn or she’s not worth having in your life:”

And every time you take it, the less respect she’ll have for you. And the less respect you’ll have for yourself, which will make your respect you less. Nip that shite in the bud immediately. And not with the “when you MF me, it makes me feel like….” It makes you look like a bitch. Just tell her no. That is acceptable. If she wants a man she can MF, she best get to looking, cause you ain’t it. If she’s worth a shite, she’ll not only stop, but become more attracted to you. If she’s not, she can kick fricking rocks.

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Sticks and stones.

They're just words.

You've never said anything in anger?

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bullshite. Words absolutely matter. They are an indication of respect/disrespect. Women who show their man such disrespect are likely a result of having a bitch father who never told her “no.” Or never told her mother no.” Men are responsible for creating these monsters. Stop it. Stop it fricking now. You may have been brainwashed dumb fricking feminist who have convinced yourselves you don’t need men. Women—whom I genuinely love—are the ones who are not needed. Y’all could disappear off the face of the earth, and men would figure it out and find a way. Delete all men from the earth, and the human race would go extinct in 2 generations. You’ve deluded and lied to yourself into believing you are worth WAY more than you are. You ain’t. We need each other, but you need us infinitely more than we need you. Bet.

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Been married 21 years. Got into it last night over something stupid and was called a MF. Finding it tough to move on

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Not sure how you made it through 21 years of marriage if you find it tough to move on from being called a MF. If that's your first time being called a MF in 21 years of marriage, either you or your wife is possibly a saint.

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bullshite. Words absolutely matter.

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Oh boy, there are some recurring conversations on TD you have been missing or avoiding on purpose.

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They are an indication of respect/disrespect.

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Oh, you are definitely purposely avoiding daily conversations here.

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Y’all could disappear off the face of the earth, and men would figure it out and find a way.

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That shows an interesting view on biology.

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Delete all men from the earth, and the human race would go extinct in 2 generations.

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Anyone care to explain to him that his penchant for buggering dudes will not produce further generations?

There is so much emotion spilling out of you I would have sworn you were a woman based on tOT's definition. It is highly unlikely any woman of worth has ever respected you. Real respect is earned, not demanded. What reads as respect via demand is just fear.

Coming to the OT to ask how to handle this situation is like going to a homeless man at the crackhouse and asking him to analyze your MRI results of your cancerous malignant tumor, as well as asking him to walk you through how to do a Rankin Cycle Thermodynamics problem set. In other words, a very, very bad idea that will get you nowhere .