re: Do you consider porn and sex chatting cheating?

if you are in the porn then yes

Porn? No.

Sex chatting? Like talking with online chicks. I would say that's a big deal, most probably would and I would fault anyone for saying that. But even that isn't that big of a deal.

However, I would definitely not say you shouldn't tell him that one isn't cool.

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Start giving BJs and making sandwiches, and earn his love back.

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This list is not necessarily in order, but it is most certainly complete.

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I see porn as a symptom, not a cause. Men seek out porn when they’re not getting any. Women usually want sex when:
A. They feel exceptionally desirable
B. They can use sex as a bargaining chip

Once a couple has been married a long time, the bargaining chips have largely been cashed in. They become desensitized to each other by the routine of every day life and chores. Without constant romance and affirmation, women won’t feel sexy, and will start making excuses for not desiring sex “I’m tired”, “I have a headache”, “I have a long day tomorrow”, etc. They need their man to make them feel special so they can remember why they were attracted to their husbands in the first place.

However, when men have been rejected by their wives enough times, they tend to withdraw. Rather than doubling down on romance, they get discouraged and often stop trying, or get so distracted by life that they focus on the wrong things. They spend so much time on routine chores, work, childcare, etc that they withhold talking about their feelings because they view their wants and needs as burdens, and sharing those burdens as the same as inflicting them on others. So rather than be honest with one-another, couples start nagging each other and resenting each other. It’s hard to be attracted to someone you resent and/or don’t respect. Guys who have given up on getting sex in the foreseeable short term often turn to porn for a little relief, if only to sleep at night. They’re tired of fighting, they’re tired of rejection, they’re tired of not being appreciated, so they masterbate to porn to just try and take the edge off for a little while.

No man ever cheated with a full stomach and an empty ball sack. The porn usage is a symptom of a bigger issue of respect, communication, and insecurity that is likely the responsibility of BOTH spouses.

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WAY over-simplified. Which is surprising given the length. (Twss)

But a lot of truth.

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I’ve known my husband more than 20 years and I’m still happy/excited when he gets home from work - or even when he sends me a text during the day.

I guess I’m weird.

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Not at all. If you show this happiness/excitedness it has much to do with the 20 years.

Absolutely nothing weird about that. It’s awesome. Rock on!

321 down votes.... nice job for only having 2 post.

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his work mates look at it

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are english?

who says shite like this

If your name was "Lady BJ" instead of just "Lady J" you may not be having this problem, lady.