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re: Do you consider porn and sex chatting cheating?
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:56 pm to LadyJ
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:56 pm to LadyJ
I’m a woman and looking at porn isn’t a huge deal, but being on hookup sites and getting sexually charged texts from other women is cheating and a big hell no.
If you were doing these things, he wouldn’t put up with it.
quote:Major issue.
hookup sites
quote:Major issue.
porn associated texts
If you were doing these things, he wouldn’t put up with it.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:56 pm to TulaneLSU
Your shtick is so stupid.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:58 pm to LadyJ
In all honesty ladies.... you should be more worried if your husband is NOT looking at porn.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:58 pm to BabyTac
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when you refuse sex with your spouse because you’ve already cranked one or more out that day
Does this happen?
quote:
when you start perferring erking off to porn as more enjoyable than sex with a spouse
- when you have a hard time maintaining an erection because porn has desensitized you
These are symptoms of bigger issues, imo.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:58 pm to LadyJ
I cheat at least four times a day if porn is cheating.
This post was edited on 12/20/20 at 2:58 pm
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:58 pm to LadyJ
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I can't eat, sleep, or do anything but cry.
I’m recently divorced. I haven’t eaten in six months. Gimme a break.
If I thought this was real, I’d be a little more sensitive.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:59 pm to LadyJ
Porn has killed many marriages. It's poison.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 2:59 pm to LadyJ
Porn? No.
Sex chatting? Assuming this is live one on one phone/video sex, yes.
Sex chatting? Assuming this is live one on one phone/video sex, yes.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:00 pm to LadyJ
Porn no in my marriage but it isn't like her browser history is "clean" either. If you had no overt agreement then I would say 90% of men think nothing about porn but too much can be a bad thing. If you had an understanding about no porn that is a different issue.
Given your apparent naivete, I am not sure you can discern between porn ads, hookup sites, and random instahos he has zero chance with anyway...unless he pays. This is a potentially bigger issue but you have to understand what exactly you are dealing with.
I have no idea why I typed this much for a stupid troll thread.
Given your apparent naivete, I am not sure you can discern between porn ads, hookup sites, and random instahos he has zero chance with anyway...unless he pays. This is a potentially bigger issue but you have to understand what exactly you are dealing with.
I have no idea why I typed this much for a stupid troll thread.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:01 pm to GardenDistrictTiger
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Porn has killed many marriages. It's poison.
Agreed. I think if some man or woman watched it once a month and did their thing it probably wouldn't be a big issue but that's not generally what happens. I've had a friend that admitted to me that it ruined his first marriage.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:03 pm to LadyJ
I can’t imagine being this bored
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:03 pm to LadyJ
quote:
LadyJ
You're not satisfying him
Find out why
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:08 pm to LadyJ
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my husband of 25 years
Your vagina looking like a punched lasagna doesn’t do it for him anymore
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:09 pm to GardenDistrictTiger
I see porn as a symptom, not a cause. Men seek out porn when they’re not getting any. Women usually want sex when:
A. They feel exceptionally desirable
B. They can use sex as a bargaining chip
Once a couple has been married a long time, the bargaining chips have largely been cashed in. They become desensitized to each other by the routine of every day life and chores. Without constant romance and affirmation, women won’t feel sexy, and will start making excuses for not desiring sex “I’m tired”, “I have a headache”, “I have a long day tomorrow”, etc. They need their man to make them feel special so they can remember why they were attracted to their husbands in the first place.
However, when men have been rejected by their wives enough times, they tend to withdraw. Rather than doubling down on romance, they get discouraged and often stop trying, or get so distracted by life that they focus on the wrong things. They spend so much time on routine chores, work, childcare, etc that they withhold talking about their feelings because they view their wants and needs as burdens, and sharing those burdens as the same as inflicting them on others. So rather than be honest with one-another, couples start nagging each other and resenting each other. It’s hard to be attracted to someone you resent and/or don’t respect. Guys who have given up on getting sex in the foreseeable short term often turn to porn for a little relief, if only to sleep at night. They’re tired of fighting, they’re tired of rejection, they’re tired of not being appreciated, so they masterbate to porn to just try and take the edge off for a little while.
No man ever cheated with a full stomach and an empty ball sack. The porn usage is a symptom of a bigger issue of respect, communication, and insecurity that is likely the responsibility of BOTH spouses.
A. They feel exceptionally desirable
B. They can use sex as a bargaining chip
Once a couple has been married a long time, the bargaining chips have largely been cashed in. They become desensitized to each other by the routine of every day life and chores. Without constant romance and affirmation, women won’t feel sexy, and will start making excuses for not desiring sex “I’m tired”, “I have a headache”, “I have a long day tomorrow”, etc. They need their man to make them feel special so they can remember why they were attracted to their husbands in the first place.
However, when men have been rejected by their wives enough times, they tend to withdraw. Rather than doubling down on romance, they get discouraged and often stop trying, or get so distracted by life that they focus on the wrong things. They spend so much time on routine chores, work, childcare, etc that they withhold talking about their feelings because they view their wants and needs as burdens, and sharing those burdens as the same as inflicting them on others. So rather than be honest with one-another, couples start nagging each other and resenting each other. It’s hard to be attracted to someone you resent and/or don’t respect. Guys who have given up on getting sex in the foreseeable short term often turn to porn for a little relief, if only to sleep at night. They’re tired of fighting, they’re tired of rejection, they’re tired of not being appreciated, so they masterbate to porn to just try and take the edge off for a little while.
No man ever cheated with a full stomach and an empty ball sack. The porn usage is a symptom of a bigger issue of respect, communication, and insecurity that is likely the responsibility of BOTH spouses.
This post was edited on 12/20/20 at 3:11 pm
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:13 pm to LadyJ
Porn, no. Sex chatting I'm not ok with
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:14 pm to kingbob
Some married couples have decent sex lives. I swear, TD makes me feel like my marriage is some one off minority situation sometimes. You have to work on it.
And no, it won't be 6 times per week like when you were dating after 20 years, but there's no reason that you can't still have a fairly active physical relationship either.
And no, it won't be 6 times per week like when you were dating after 20 years, but there's no reason that you can't still have a fairly active physical relationship either.
Posted on 12/20/20 at 3:15 pm to BabyTac
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When watching porn affects the relationship negatively, it is basically cheating. By that I mean:
- when you refuse sex with your spouse because you’ve already cranked one or more out that day
- when you start perferring erking off to porn as more enjoyable than sex with a spouse
- when you have a hard time maintaining an erection because porn has desensitized you
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