re: Do you consider porn and sex chatting cheating?

Don’t focus on the act, focus on the why. It’s probably something he’s been doing for 25 years. It’s an addiction like any other, serves to provide a missing emotional necessity that’s not sexual. It almost fulfills but always leaves them unfulfilled wanting more.

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He said that his work mates look at it

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Any chance you are an alter better named Dame Winston?

Porn is the cause of the decaying state of men in our society. The same guys who bash today's misguided youth are the same guys in this thread defending porn use. Stop normalizing it. Don't believe the lies, you can kick the habit. I haven't jacked off to porn in about 6-7 years now.

Question for this thread, do you have discussions with your wife about porn and masturbation? How do they feel about it? Have boundaries been set in your relationship? From my personal experience the subject is discussed openly amongst young couples who grew up with an increased access to pornography. I do wonder how the older couples deal with it. Is it a taboo subject that rarely or never comes up?

Friend,

You are correct. I knew a delightful young lady once and we were close friends. I might have even fancied her a bit. She confided in me and one day we discussed pornography. I brought it up as a matter of a recent legal ruling that made the papers.

“TulaneLSU, do you really believe it is that bad?”

I responded to her a bit dumbfounded because I assumed that she, being a good Episcopalian, understood the rot pornography caused. “Yes, it is absolutely bad. There is nothing, not even the smallest part of it that is redemptive. It is rooted in evil and fundamentally is wrong.”

She became quiet and then looked at me as though I were a priest there to hear her sins. “Well, (name redacted) and I watch it sometimes. I don’t want to watch, but he says it is good for our relationship.”

“Friend, that relationship is crooked. Either straighten it or end it. I cannot budge on this matter.”

She didn’t talk to me for a few weeks.

About a month passed and I got a call for her. She wanted to meet at Le Madeleine at the corner of St Charles and Carrollton. So I went not knowing if it was going to be awkward or not.

After some pleasantries she confided in me that she caught her boyfriend asleep with another woman the week before. He tried to justify it by saying they just share the bed together as friends, and that no sexual activity happened. She wanted to know my take on it.

“Friend, he is a liar and he is trying to drag you down in the mire of sin. End it now.” I really was thinking of her, and even though I fancied her, I still do not believe I was acting out of selfish interest.

She did not listen to me. She later told me that they again watched pornography and she lost her virginity while it was in the background. A week later she found him in an act of concupiscence with another woman.

I realized through that incident how our culture had so perverted the moral compass of someone who should have known the straight and narrow. We are bombarded with anti-Christian morality all the day long, and pornography is just one of many ways Satan chips away from our civilization. Though lust and objectification can be subtle, and even seem harmless (just look at all the disgusting photos shared on this site, even by Larry Leo), they destroy.

After learning all that, I never again saw that friend as anything more than a friend. I sometimes wonder how our lives would be different had I convinced her to turn away from that perversion.

Yours,
TulaneLSU

It is a lesson all should learn, I will spread the message.

Not sure why you chose me to respond to. I am not defending porn. But anyone who says she is having sex with her husband three to four times a week after 25 years of marriage is stretching the truth more than a bit.

Life is full of personal hurdles Lady J. Most of the the things you feel are impossible to overcome is stupid and petty. Grow a pair of hairy balls and tough it out. He’s done nothing to disrespect you.

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This alter.

Take the porn out of it

Every masturbation us to be thoughts of you as well

Seems unrealistic

Need to let off some fantasy steam do no real life mistakes