re: Do you agree with this mans stance on child support?

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Should there be a time limit to how long the ex should fund her lifestyle?

I mean if they divorce when the kid is 5 and the mom was a sahm, should the ex pay support for the next 13 years while the wife works no or a minimal job? Is there an expectation in the system where the husband's payments decrease in a adequate time for her to get a job?

I'm genuinely asking as I'm fairly ignorant on the topic but have plenty of opinions.

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So in the state of Texas, you can be re-evaluated every 3 years or if something life changing occurs.

I would personally say no. If the children are in school full time, I feel like the mother can work while the children are in school to help provide for her children. That being said, if they children aren't and daycare costs are greater than her working, child support should be provided or the father should pay for the daycare costs.

That being said, I'm pro father route. Being a mother I don't understand WHY women would keep their children away from their fathers (unless abuse, criminal etc). There is no reason why women should not give the same amount of time to their exs.

I am 100% for equal time. My children LOVE their time with their father. And I would never deny my children of that because I'm pissed off at their dad. Sadly I see this so much and its ridiculous. My ex WANTS to be a part of his children's lives. And I'm so grateful for that.

You sound the least damaged of the llotot. Welcome to the board

Even though divorce makes you trashy by default.

Kind of...but you have to be responsible if you're a real man.

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I’ve been paying child support for the past 16 yrs @ $1000/mo. It was justified because he went to a Christian school and the tuition was rather high. But now he goes to a public high school I still have to pay the same amount. Bull shite If you ask me! Then recently I was on disability, for 3 mos, so I couldn’t pay support. She bitched about how she had to get help from her dad in order to pay bills! Well bitch, what are you going to do in 2 years when I’m done paying? And let it be known I have my son 3-4 days out of the week.

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If you have him 3-4 days out of the week, you are getting screwed. Why not take her back to court?

But then again, you just called the mother of your child a bitch, so there's that.

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Child support should pay for the child's expenses depending on their age and activities.

For example, I divorced my ex husband. We both pay for child care and school.

Its 50/50. We both make the same amount of money and its all going towards the children.

I do feel differently if the mother is a stay at home mom in an abusive relationship that she can't get out of though.

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The problem is that isn't the norm. At least amongst the divorcees I know.

If you graduate with a general studies degree with a concentration in marketing then you cannot blame your husband because you are a stay at home mom. That actually makes financial sense. Now if you graduated from Law School and decided to be a stay at home mom because of husband then I think there is an argument there that a career was ruined.

So he’s saying to stay in a relationship when your partner is miserable despite doing everything in your power to make things better?

He has 3 years left @ 36K. Its just going to cost mediation (not full fledged court). I would say at the most 5-10K. That's 26K left over.

Chances are he's going to win, as long as his proof lines up with what he said about having the child for 3-4 days a week etc.

But then again, this is Texas I'm talking about, so what do I know.

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used to pay 5k/month to the ex, when I had the kids they would show up in rags, one time my youngest came over with two left shoes, I asked them where they got their clothes and they said their mother got them as hand me downs from the neighbors, where were all of the clothes that I would buy them? I asked, "mom throws them all away"

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yea i think if the court were to require mt to pay 60k a year to a dead beat mom, i would take the kid on a long summer vacation to Belize.

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agree that there should be a system of checks and balances to assure that child support goes to the actual financial needs of the children because that rarely seems to be the reality

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Yeah they spend it on new dicks, booze and smokes.

The child wears rags and sometimes doesn't eat.

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guess what I was trying to say is, I understand why a stay at home mom would need child support to help support her new life. She doesn't have a job (Maybe hasn't had one in years) , needs to pay for daycare, rent etc.

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I know everyone has diff situations, but when I was younger I worked for an agency that helped get women jobs that had been out of the work force raising children. Most of them just stop showing up, or complain about getting less in support now and want you to falsify how many hours they work.