re: Do Affair Relationships Last After Divorce?

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No one here is talking all that much about women who cheat. But, I find that women can be just as unfaithful. Knew a guy who cheated on his wife with one of her "best friends" then left his wife for this woman. New girlfriend wife then goes about having flings with at least 10 guys over their 12 year marriage...said she could not get pregnant.....mainly because she was taking the pill the whole while and she did not want a "mistake".

He finally caught her one day when he missed a flight for work and came home in the early afternoon and ran into the guy naked in his kitchen and the wife on the living room floor naked and freaking out. She then tells him EVERYTHING.....dude had been getting cheated on since right after the honeymoon.

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True love is hard to find. Sometime you think you have it. Then you catch the early flight home and a a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blind-folded like a goddamn magic show, ready to double-team your wife.

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True love is hard to find. Sometime you think you have it. Then you catch the early flight home and a a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blind-folded like a goddamn magic show, ready to double-team your wife.

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For those interested. They really help and not just with affairs but any marriage looking/needing to develop and overcome any significant challenge.

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I get what they are trying to do and I respect that, but I stick with my original statement. Most normal people will not be able to unsee or move beyond the thought of their SO getting railed, or railing someone else. That physical act is one of passion, pleasure, all wrapped up in a neat package. You get to that point, there's no turning back.

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Lol, uh no, it's over if there's an affair.

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Agreed here. Any man who doesn't go the distance here is a cuck. It's simple math.

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he one I see a lot working with couples is that the non-offending party doesn't necessarily struggle with the physical act of cheating

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I know what you do for a living, but I just don't see this as the norm. People create imagery in their heads all day long about various things in life. This one is no different. That person is stained now, tainted.

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emotional aspect of betrayal.

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Ok, so maybe it's just a mix of both? I don't think most people are upset about who their SO was with before the relationship so this is definitely on the mark here. You're getting betrayed, lied to, and cheating is downright abusive. So I get why this is such a big part of not getting over it.

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No one here is talking all that much about women who cheat. But, I find that women can be just as unfaithful.

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Contrary to the narrative that the Lifetime Network and others in the entertainment industry would have you believe, married women are cheating now more than ever before, and some studies indicate that they are cheating as much or more than men do, especially the younger ones, and they’re better at it too because lie better on average I’d say than men do, a very strong poker face.

You’ve obviously heard the cries of the feminists that all men are cheaters, and so many women buy into that garbage because they are all going after the same men, the 10 to 20 percent or thereabouts who are cheating because they are the men that all these kinds of women want to hook up with, and so they size every man up by the same group they are all after who are cheaters. That’s their own doing. These women aren’t interested in a regular baw anymore, because they’ve had it pumped into their heads so often that they are extra special sauce, and their delusion of themselves causes them to waste time on the same bozos while ignoring solid men that are actually better for them in spouse material. They’re delusional. That’s why they end up bitter and unsatisfied, never pointing the finger at themselves, only at an entire gender for them not finding happiness, even when they never lifted a finger to make anyone happy. It’s always receiving, not giving.

I don't think it's possible to get real numbers on this. That said, I think we all probably know or know of some post-cheating relationships that have lasted a while. I certainly do.

I obviously don't support it, but I think it happens. I think it's a pretty dirty pool at that point and you have a lot of subsequent divorces, but not always.

I imagine the relationships that develop over a longer period, like two coworkers who move toward cheating for a few years and are pretty much in a relationship, are more likely to be sustainable post divorce. It's crappy, but there are some circumstances where I suspect the foundation is "better" than others and less likely to necessarily result in subsequent affairs.

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Marriage would be much easier if women would just accept that a man needs a side piece once in awhile

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Sauce for the goose, buddy.

I know two couples that started this way who have been married for 5+ years. The first are both narcissists who I wouldn’t trust to tell me it’s cold outside today.

The second seem like genuinely good people. Have always found it hard to reconcile that he abandoned his ex-wife and kids (though I guess not really because he’s still a big part of their lives) and that she’s a home-wrecker.

They should. You're both starting out knowing 100% that each of you is dishonest and a cheater. That's usually the number 1 question in new relationships. Nowhere to go but up

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Do Affair Relationships Last After Divorce?

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