re: Divorce Board Spin-Off: If you have been married, why did you get married?

Fell in love with someone I felt was interesting, intelligent, and a good person. Been about 40 years now. Hasn't always been easy, but my estimation of her has not changed.

We got married because we had similar interests, enjoyed spending time together, she was hot, and we also are in the same profession.

We are still young, late 30's, but haven't really had any major marital issues. Certainly nothing that would even remotely be something resulting in divorce.

I think one of the biggest benefits for us is not having to worry about finances. We are both doctors, so both make a good living, but more importantly we are both like-minded about finances and spending.

Eta: Kids are also a big benefit to our marriage. We have always made a point of never arguing in front of our children. It eliminates 99% of the retarded spats spouses get in each day.

I had a few reasons:
1. I really relied on her for everything emotional. I didn’t really know how to function without her. Still haven’t really figured it out 100%.

2. I wanted to live with her, but she was very religious and traditional.

3. I wanted a family and to raise kids with her. I didn’t find out I couldn’t until after we were married. That information ended what was already a rocky marriage.

4. I had zero self-esteem and saw zero chances of anyone else ever wanting to be with me. Considering she was my first real gf, but we had dated for 5 years and been through all kinds of crap together before getting married, it seemed a wise choice.

5. I didn’t want to call off the wedding and have to move in with my parents after having already given up my rent house. I decided to bet on the relationship. I lost.

My family introduced me to a girl and told me I had to marry her so our countries would stop waging war with each other every other decade or so.

Plus she had a dowry and some land.

ETA - seriously..:met a girl that worked in my building. I was 25 she was 23. She was hot, sexy, smart and fun. Best I’d ever dated…and of course I’m a fricking catch. I dumped the girl I was dating, she cut her stable loose and we were together ever since. After a few years of dating….dating seriously…living together and engagement we got married - now for 24 years.

Success? We spent a few years together traveling and having fun before kids. After that it was all about moving the family forward. Still love each other even though we drive each other crazy at times. We both come from traditional families too so that helps.

Also, we dated a long time. You have to have long vetting process. Anyone can hide crazy for at least a year.

Success - discuss finances, goals, and family values. You must align on all three.

Failure - she was hot and liked me. The sex was good.

I got married because I was young and stupid.

And because she was smart, she was hot, she was fun, she loved to frick, and she had a family with frick you money.



Got divorced because .....that bitch crazy.

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And for the successfully married OTers, what do you feel like has made your marriage last?

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Been together for 15 years and honestly, I think our alignment on faith and frequency of intimacy has made a big difference. We also just enjoy each others company.


I don’t understand people who say the “opposites attract” line. My wife is a conservative, hard working, physically active, Christian woman that like to have sex. It’s hard not to like her honestly.

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Spoiler alert…The whole thing was fraudulent, but he got his permanent green card.

I still look for his story, which is full of murder and intrigue, to hit dateline or 48 hours. He did not murder anybody, but was somewhat involved in a case that was pretty big news in Kentucky. You live and you learn, I guess.

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OT Detectives, ASSEMBLE

I was promised sex for life. Should have read the fine print

I love being married, and they loved being married to me.

Mutual interests, a relationship based on God's word, respect, patience, and kindness.

Recognize that every day isn't a bed of roses, but understand that you complete each other.