re: Dealing with work stress.

Your formula is good.

Additionally assess the industry you are in and if your situation is uncommon and you could find better situation or more money for same stress out feelers out.

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What is the best way to do it? I try exercise and sleep. Receiving an end of the day BJ from the wife is always nice. I try to schedule a lot of events to look forward to throughout the week to make it feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. What do you do?

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In all honestly, if you do all that and still can't deal with the stress from work, it's time for a new job. That's easier said than done, I know, but no job is worth your happiness and your sanity.

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Best advice I ever received:

Most of your stress in a given day or week is because of something you don’t want to do or deal with, so…

Everyday, figure out the one thing you are pushing off or don’t want to deal with and get it done first. Then the rest of the day is smooth sailing.

That will knock a big chunk of the stress you are placing on yourself out of the way every day/week.

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I really like this. I think I'm going to try it out.

It's completely accurate in my situation. I put off the shite I'm dreading until last minute and need to just do it, because it's always on my mind while doing things I really don't mind doing, or enjoy usually, and ruins those things.

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The money is above average though. And I have kids in private school. Plus enjoy the work most of the time. There are just some periods that are very stressful.

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Solo practitioner here, so most of my work-stress comes from the responsibilities to my staff.

The clients? frick 'em. They can walk if they're unreasonable. This was a tough position to take as I practice in small town, but I've found that most people are great and the few that I bounce aren't worth the trouble anyway.

I also remind myself frequently that my practice (primarily real estate) doesn't lend itself to "emergencies." We're not dealing in life/death/imprisonment/custody, so...frick it.

I fired a client in February who was in the middle of a $3MM transaction because he sent me a "911" text while I was on vacation. Figuring it was severe (ie- not transactionally related, but something personal), I dropped everything and called him. It was about a question his fricking business partner had. I cussed that motherfricker up and down and fired him on the spot.

Protect your peace. Draw boundaries and hold them.

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Receiving an end of the day BJ from the wife is always nice.

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find someone to do it for you at work

Have to learn how to compartmentalize.

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Attorney.

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Get rich enough that the results from work don't really matter anymore. Stress until you hit that point. Do the math and figure out your number. Hit said number, then quit stressing.

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he sent me a "911" text while I was on vacation. Figuring it was severe (ie- not transactionally related, but something personal), I dropped everything and called him. It was about a question his fricking business partner had. I cussed that motherfricker up and down and fired him on the spot.

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That’s so frustrating. Different line of work but I hated getting calls when on vacation, especially for dumb stuff.

TLDR: Boss who handles stress well, work/life experiences in high stress environments, and/or perspective can help with stress.

My boss who has 40+ years of experience in the industry, been with the company for 30+ years, VP, etc. (you get the point), seemingly never giving a F about big things helps me tremendously with stress.

Our team had a giant F up one year, which I was thinking would cause us to delay publishing the 10k financials (we’re a publicly traded company). He put me in charge to fix it, which I thought was impossible. Most stress if ever been under, and he was so chill about it. Calmed me down, acted like it wasn’t a big deal (it was), and we literally worked through the night and got it done with literally minutes to spare. He knows I love LSU baseball and he even told me to turn game 7 of the LSU baseball regionals on the TV while we worked.

I’ve always operated under the motto of Don’t sweat the small stuff. That project changed the stress game for me. Maybe it’s experience, maybe it’s having a very successful boss with that type of personality, or maybe it’s perspective, but I don’t stress the big stuff anymore either (as much).

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Receiving an end of the day BJ from the wife is always nice.

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There are (on average) only 4 other men on the whole planet who specifically have ever known what that’s like.

You wanna see some pics?