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re: Dating as a 40 Year Old Man, How Realistic is it?
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:30 am to TheMountaineer
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:30 am to TheMountaineer
Just from reading, I think lack of confidence is your biggest weakness. Also likely more hookups come from the gym than anywhere. Hire a hot female trainer and start working out. Also puppies pull ton of tail.
Don't leave the bat on your shoulder, swing at every pitch. It you're out walking your puppy at the park and a nice looking woman walks by with her dog say, "nice looking lady you got there," if she replies, "it's a boy dog," you respond, "I was talking to the dog,"
Don't leave the bat on your shoulder, swing at every pitch. It you're out walking your puppy at the park and a nice looking woman walks by with her dog say, "nice looking lady you got there," if she replies, "it's a boy dog," you respond, "I was talking to the dog,"
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 7:36 am
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Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:31 am to TheMountaineer
Younger women are dying for a traditional man that is willing to invest in a relationship more than golf and/or video games.
I’m 50 and my wife is 35. We’ve been together for 10 years and married for 7.
We have all the challenges of any marriage but the point is that it’s very possible. I’m not an OT baller
I’m 50 and my wife is 35. We’ve been together for 10 years and married for 7.
We have all the challenges of any marriage but the point is that it’s very possible. I’m not an OT baller
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 7:32 am
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:31 am to TheMountaineer
These threads are starting to legitimately confuse me. 40 is PEAK dating for a man with his shite together. Are you reasonably attractive? Do you have some natural charm ? Are you a good listener? Do you enjoy being in the presence of women?
If so , just go where women you like hangout and start chatting. Stay off the dating sites and just go to where the women are and smile and chat and do your thing. Women are waiting for you to make the first move and find it attractive. Even though the dating scene is screwy , it’s still relatively easy to make an IRL connection based on your good energy and natural charm. You are overthinking this.
If so , just go where women you like hangout and start chatting. Stay off the dating sites and just go to where the women are and smile and chat and do your thing. Women are waiting for you to make the first move and find it attractive. Even though the dating scene is screwy , it’s still relatively easy to make an IRL connection based on your good energy and natural charm. You are overthinking this.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:32 am to TheMountaineer
Best bet is to see if any of the Massage Parlor ladies needs papers.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:32 am to TheMountaineer
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Considering that most of America is going away from religion the idea of meeting through "Church/Religious Group" seem slim to none. I'm religious but don't go regularly anyway. I also don't know a single person who met that way.
Well, we know your No. 1 problem. Not only is church a great way to improve yourself and your happiness, but it's a great way to network with some really good people. If you are just in for the babes, obviously it's not going to work.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:34 am to TheMountaineer
Where do you live?
If you’re in a large city, you’re in prime time. If you live in a rural area or small southern city, sadly it’s the divorced mom life
If you’re in a large city, you’re in prime time. If you live in a rural area or small southern city, sadly it’s the divorced mom life
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:35 am to jrodLSUke
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Well, we know your No. 1 problem. Not only is church a great way to improve yourself and your happiness, but it's a great way to network with some really good people. If you are just in for the babes, obviously it's not going to work.
Yeah, church girls are going to know pretty fast if you're a believer or not. You can't fake that for long.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:35 am to TheMountaineer
Ancestory.com
Just kidding. I liked Ron Rick’s and freemantors posts.
Get you right. People are attracted to happy fit people.
I’ve never used a dating site but maybe the eharmony or one that makes you fill out a stupid long survey. That seems like it might weed some of the attention deficit disorder whores out and focus on people who are serious with like minded stances on life.
I know two guys who have used that. One met his wife there forever ago. the other is just a bag of problems.
Just kidding. I liked Ron Rick’s and freemantors posts.
Get you right. People are attracted to happy fit people.
I’ve never used a dating site but maybe the eharmony or one that makes you fill out a stupid long survey. That seems like it might weed some of the attention deficit disorder whores out and focus on people who are serious with like minded stances on life.
I know two guys who have used that. One met his wife there forever ago. the other is just a bag of problems.
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 7:55 am
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:35 am to TheMountaineer
quote:Depends on where you live. There's still plenty of available, decent women out there if you're outside of NYC / left coast.
Considering that most of America is going away from religion the idea of meeting through "Church/Religious Group" seem slim to none.
If you live in any kind of city, Meetups abound. Hiking, pickleball, playing cards, dinner groups, all with available women.
Personally, I've never lacked for female attention ever since I learned some basic dancing skills about at 30. Salsa, swing, 2-step, whatever people do in your area.
No offense but it sounds like you have a bunch of excuses. I'm older but have a couple of single / divorced 40 yo friends and they do well. But they are involved. dodgeball, volleyball, gym, wine club, etc.
Get out of your comfort zone if you want to suceed.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:37 am to TheMountaineer
Easier than in college! Just depends on how much you want to "date" and how many kids are you willing to deal with is the only question you have to ask yourself. As long as you are semi successful and not socially awkward it is very easy but here to warn you, it gets old fast....
I would focus more on hobbies and just date women to suppliment that life style if I had to do it over again.
I would focus more on hobbies and just date women to suppliment that life style if I had to do it over again.
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 9:00 am
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:39 am to Jcorye1
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Hit the gym, join hobby groups for stuff you enjoy, and make sure you have your shite together.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:39 am to TheMountaineer
Go to your local Drive thru Carwash and Vacuum every Sunday around 11:30 am.
I dropped my wife off at an event yesterday and needed to kill some time so washing her car was one of my ways of doing so.
The amount of good looking middle aged women was mind boggling.
Also: Hit the gym - Not hitting the gym is not an option in this situation
I dropped my wife off at an event yesterday and needed to kill some time so washing her car was one of my ways of doing so.
The amount of good looking middle aged women was mind boggling.
Also: Hit the gym - Not hitting the gym is not an option in this situation
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 7:46 am
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:39 am to chrome_daddy
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Depends on where you live. There's still plenty of available, decent women out there if you're outside of NYC / left coast.
If you live in any kind of city, Meetups abound. Hiking, pickleball, playing cards, dinner groups, all with available women.
Personally, I've never lacked for female attention ever since I learned some basic dancing skills about at 30. Salsa, swing, 2-step, whatever people do in your area.
No offense but it sounds like you have a bunch of excuses. I'm older but have a couple of single / divorced 40 yo friends and they do well. But they are involved. dodgeball, volleyball, gym, wine club, etc.
Get out of your comfort zone if you want to succeed.
Solid analysis. You can't just sit on the sideline and hope you cross paths with a single woman. You're no longer in high school or college to build rapport daily. You have to find events where you can build attraction.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:41 am to MasterJSchroeder
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Go to your local Drive thru Carwash and Vacuum every Sunday around 11:30 am.
I dropped my wife off at an event yesterday and needed to kill some time so washing her car was one of my ways of doing so.
The amount of good looking middle aged women was mind boggling.
What car wash was this? Yesterday, I had a milf that wouldn't give me her number, but asked for mine.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:42 am to TheMountaineer
Ukraine or Thailand.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:44 am to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
I can feel the negative attitude in your post, lose that, get in the gym and get some confidence is step 1.
Sure the dating pool is smaller, but there are still plenty of opportunities and all the places you mentioned from online dating to church, friends, bars, etc still has single women at them.
Sure the dating pool is smaller, but there are still plenty of opportunities and all the places you mentioned from online dating to church, friends, bars, etc still has single women at them.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:44 am to TheMountaineer
If you're just looking for sex then there are plenty of dudes that want to share their wife on Fetlife. Just get into decent shape. The hubby might want to DP every now and then. It's definitely in a gray area, but not gay as long as the balls don't touch. 
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:46 am to nolaTiger24
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I can feel the negative attitude in your post, lose that, get in the gym and get some confidence is step 1.
I already go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week. I get plenty of female attention, but it's never a woman that checks most of my boxes, unfortunately. I end up being the bad guy if I pretend to be emotionally interested just for the sex.
This post was edited on 4/15/24 at 7:49 am
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:49 am to TheMountaineer
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40 Year Old Man
Oklahoma State board.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 7:49 am to TheMountaineer
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Tinder, Bumble, Facebook Dating, they are all a joke.
I've had good luck lately on Hinge. Went on several dates and am really starting to develop a nice relationship with one in particular. I'm in my early 40's and I had tried these apps without much luck about a year and a half ago not long after my divorce. Like you, I didn't have much luck and I gave up. I know it sounds cliche but I focused on myself ever since then. Spent more time with my children and family, traveled more, been in the gym and getting in shape, going to church, etc. Basically all the good advice I read on this board. A few weeks ago I decided to give the dating apps another try and this time around it's going great. I updated my pictures and apparently the new pics are much better because I'm getting a lot of likes. I think it's because I'm happier and healthier all around. Also I think women dig the travel pics.
TLDR: get in shape, travel more and take a lot of pics. After that, update your profile and the action will come. Good luck
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