re: CHS Sr. committed suicide tonight

I’ve worked 20+ years in the medical field with almost 13 in the ER.

People need to stop blaming themselves when this happens.
Society needs to stop blaming itself. We’ve been hearing it and reading it for years, just as we are in this thread, that there’s not enough help for those individuals who end up taking their own lives.

There are programs, there are groups, there are hotlines, there are family, friends, and loved ones that are all there for these people. Many people still take their own lives whether they seek out these options or not. Many people take their own lives when absolutely no one knew that they would even consider doing this to themselves.

I keep hearing and reading that suicide is preventable? How? In many instances, we’d have to literally lock people up to prevent them from doing this to themselves.

I’ve known far too many people both personally and professionally that have taken their own life. It’s horrible. It’s tragic. It’s devastating. It’s selfish.
Every single one of them had either been counseled or definitely knew where and how to seek counseling. Suicide was still the choice that THEY made.

We can’t comprehend the mindset of these people for doing what they did. Even those of you who did contemplate it at one time can’t, because fortunately you didn’t make the same decision.

Life is precious, and awesome, and adventurous, and has so much to offer.

DO NOT blame yourself.

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WTF? What more do you want “we” to do? Holy shite sis, if you don’t feel like you can talk about whatever your problem is I don’t know what to tell you?

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Really? We regularly see people comment that suicide is selfish, religious pressure that you’re going to Hell if you do it, etc. I literally had the parent of a kid who had a plan to commit just last week say “Well she just needs to suck it up because I did.”. There’s still a huge stigma.

Then there’s the issue of the affordability of mental health services if they do want to talk about it. For most people, long term services is not affordable. And depression doesn’t just “go away”.

A whole lot of misinformation you’re spewing right there that just supports the negative stigma.

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Single dad, wife left, lost a career, lost a brother...all in 6 months.

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I know its not everyone, but it does seem like a lot of people go through a time in their life when everything comes within a short period of time.

One of my relatives wife left him over the summer, he had just started working from home and liking it.. About a month after his wife left he gets laid off. Then learned that the wife who filed for divorce, took the credit card in both of their names, maxed it out and was coming after half of his 401k.

It just reminded me of that, but I can think of other situations in which someone had unexpected events all happen within a short period of time. Like they say, when it rains.. it storms.

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We regularly see people comment that suicide is selfish

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By definition it absolutely is. Your passing the pain from to everyone else.

It's m friends with two men who had kidskill themselves over a breakup, now they're stuck with a lifetime of trauma.

It's not always that simple. I understand some people are just wired for despair and life is hell. But too many young people check out becaus they lack coping skills to deal with life's twists and turns. Some are overachievers and feel too much pressure.

You can feel empathy and acknowledge an act is selfish.

So sad a kid gets to this point. Wish schools focused more on mental health and confidential options for kids in distress.

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The idea that suicide is so prevalent is sad...Just from this thread.

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Seems like the obits almost daily have someone in their teens or twenties that have passed on. Anytime there is no "extended illness" listed, you have to wonder if it's drugs or possibly what the OP is talking about. I would imagine even health care experts are sometimes caught off guard by this! I know this first hand from a doctor who recently lost a very bright son to suicide and he counsels people daily about this. Can't imagine the hurt he feels when it happened right in his own home!

I think before it was hopelessness. Now it is lack of attention and hopelessness. Younger kids now.

Damn Free, that hits hard.

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wish it was as easy for everyone as you think it is.

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I don’t think it’s easy at all. And I don’t mean to be insensitive. But I don’t know what more “we” can do to help people. We have counselors, ministers, volunteers, help lines, hot lines, support groups, FB pages, advocacy groups, a multi billion dollar industry,etc dedicated to mental health. We are so sensitive to mental health that we have boys dressing as girls, girls who think they are boys and a homeless population we allow to shite in the street cause we have to be aware of and sensitive to “mental health” without hurting their feelings. I honestly don’t know what more we as a society can do to let these troubled souls know there is someone there for them.

Thus my response. I don’t feel you can say society needs to do more. Some people just can’t be helped.