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re: CHS Sr. committed suicide tonight
Posted on 1/11/20 at 7:43 pm to HoustonChick86
Posted on 1/11/20 at 7:43 pm to HoustonChick86
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The storm is never going to pass for me, I am fricking devastated. And nothing anyone says or does will help. Especially your poems.
Look, I’ve been there. I know where you are and my heart hurts for you. I’m not going to tell you the hurt ever stops, because it doesn’t. It lingers. There are moments now...god, going on 7 years out, that I break down. I broke down today after the storm because I felt his energy reaching out to me. It is a wound, but time will heal the bleeding and you’ll bear the scar. The scar will remind you, sometimes it will hurt immensely, but I promise you, it becomes more bearable as you keep living.
It won’t ever go away, no. But it will become...different.
But whenever it starts to get bad, remember that you are still living. You are still loving. You aren’t alone.
And as long as you keep their memory alive they are still with you. But you have to keep living for them. Even if you smile with tears streaming down your cheeks as you relive a happy memory, you are still in the game.
Don’t let the dark and twisties get you.
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Posted on 1/11/20 at 8:42 pm to Martini
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You are a fricking moron.
Great reply boomer. Let
Me know when you have more insight to add from the asphalt plant.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 8:49 pm to HoustonChick86
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And nothing anyone says or does will help
Fact.
But to be clear HC, I am not at all saying I understand what you deal with and have dealt with. I can not imagine what you have been through, but one thing I can relate to is the fact that no matter what someone say or does. There is NOTHING that can get you out of that state..
In fact, I think that might be part of the reason some people do not talk to someone or try to get help. At least in my experience, its as if you know what people will say and that can make you get angry because you wish it was just that fricking simple.
And there is a huge difference between "feeling down" and being depressed. Feeling down when you can change your direction in the moment and feel better. Get your mind off of whatever you are down about. Depression is something you can't understand unless you dealt with it to some degree.
I used to be the type to say "suicide is selfish. They take the easy way out instead of dealing with their problems", but then I learned that it is much more complex than that. Many people are probably in a really dark place to the degree no one can understand. And when someone is in that moment and does decide to end their life, there is/was nothing no one could have done.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 8:51 pm to tigerinthebueche
People act like this is a joke and is not.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 9:02 pm to OweO
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I can not imagine what you have been through,
It's very hard. My sister was my 100% best friend but I had no idea, which makes me feel like a crap person. And I will not say names but I am actually fricking livid at a person right now who acted like they needed help and is currently posting selfies on line like nothing happened. This is serious stuff people. Not play time crap. And yes, I am pissed.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 9:03 pm to HoustonChick86
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People act like this is a joke and is not.
Speaking for myself only, I don’t think suicide is a joke. But I do get tired of people blaming society- of which I’m a part- for its lack of concern or stigmatizing the acts. I don’t know of anyone beyond the age of adolescence that marginalizes or dismisses suicidal thoughts/ behaviors.
Sorry for your loss, but I resent the constant refrain that society needs to do more. At some point we need to quit blaming society and hold the individuals accountable. Regardless of how painful that may be.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 9:32 pm to HoustonChick86
HC, I don’t have anything to add to what has already been posted. I just wanted to add my name to the list of the many posters that hope peace and understanding will find its way into your life with this difficult situation. Take care.
This post was edited on 1/11/20 at 9:36 pm
Posted on 1/11/20 at 9:39 pm to Traveler
Thanks Trav. I'll be ok, I've just lost too many too young and don't really have anyone to talk about it that relates.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 9:54 pm to HoustonChick86
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don't really have anyone to talk about it that relates.
FWIW, there are those here that know your pain. Some helped me through my dark times. As rotten as this den of iniquity can be, there are people here who have been in your shoes and are willing to listen, to share, to let you vent.
The things you are feeling are natural and not uncommon. Your emotions are valid and understandable. My heart aches for you and I can only hope you seek out those who will help you on your journey. You aren’t alone.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 10:05 pm to financetiger
I recently lost my best friend to cancer and actually admitted to him before he passed that I had suicidal thoughts in HS but every time I needed someone to talk to I called and he answered and let him know he saved my life. Just talking helps tremendously.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 11:08 pm to financetiger
He was a great, great kid. Polite, kind, athletic and well liked. Knew him for almost 10 years now. He turned out amazingly well in the face of the obstacles his home life threw at him. I’ll never forget him taking up for one of my kids on the bus many years ago. Nobody asked him to and he never asked for thanks-just did the right thing. I’ve been worried about him since his dad committed suicide a few years ago, but didn’t expect this. God rest his soul.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 11:16 pm to tigerinthebueche
quote:
WTF? What more do you want “we” to do? Holy shite sis, if you don’t feel like you can talk about whatever your problem is I don’t know what to tell you?
We’ve got more programs and people wanting
To help than ever before. If people don’t feel comfortable discussing their issues, that’s a personal problem, not the community.
Some people just can’t be reached.
You really are a fricking idiot.
Its not a matter of feeling comfortable. Well everyone is different, but in general it goes beyond not feeling comfortable. The "personal problem" isn't not feeling comfortable, its depression itself.
And honestly, its such a complex issue that there isn't just one thing to "cure" it. I only know what I have experiences, but I also know that there are different ways people become depressed or have mental illness.
I could go on, but if you think it is as easy as whether someone goes talk to someone or not then you really have no idea what you are talking about.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 11:21 pm to NorthEnd
quote:
He was a great, great kid. Polite, kind, athletic and well liked. Knew him for almost 10 years now. He turned out amazingly well in the face of the obstacles his home life threw at him. I’ll never forget him taking up for one of my kids on the bus many years ago. Nobody asked him to and he never asked for thanks-just did the right thing. I’ve been worried about him since his dad committed suicide a few years ago, but didn’t expect this. God rest his soul.
I remember hearing about him taking up for kids on a bus. His dad was very proud telling the story. For all the issues, he tried to raise those kids with heart. Just terribly tragic.
Posted on 1/11/20 at 11:30 pm to lsunurse
suicide much bigger problem now then in the 80s. just stop the lies. suicide rates now are very alarming dude
Posted on 1/11/20 at 11:40 pm to fr33manator
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FWIW, there are those here that know your pain
Look, I can't speak for HC, but when you deal with something that not many other people have dealt with specifically, the last thing you want to hear is someone saying "I understand" or "I feel your pain".
We all go through tough times. That's life, but some people go through more than others and when you have someone saying "I understand" and babbles on with their cliches and bullshite it doesn't help.
Everyone gets it "things get better with time" and "they are not alone" blah blah blah.
And I know the reaction I will get just because I am posting it, but I am being absolutely serious. Just stop with the cliche bullshite and I am sure HC is aware she isn't alone. He has a spouse and a child who depends on her. I lost my dad when I was 19 years old. There still isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him, but to think about what HC has gone through and put myself in that situation.. To where I would have lost my dad, then mom and then one of my siblings (which are my half brother and sister who are 10 and 11 years older than I who I am not that close to), I just can't understand what that would be like.
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