re: As a man, do you cry?

I’m married. Of course I cry.

I haven't cried at a funeral since my mom's 28 years ago.

I've cried since then. Never in public, but it's healthy to let your emotions take over every now and then.

In December my daughter was born 10 weeks premature. Emergency C-section. Her mother was dying from HELLP and the only way to have a chance to save both was to end the pregnancy.

They felt more confident in the baby's survival than the mother's. Mom was in the ICU for 9 days. Baby is still in the NICU, hopefully coming home in the next 2 or 3 weeks.

Not once did I show my emotions in front of family or medical staff. But I would take walks around the 'lake' and parking lot alone at night and let the tears flow



Crying isn't a weakness, it's a release.

I cry constantly. I rarely cried when I was young. I cried today listening to my GF’s woes. Some things are so sad that not crying feels inappropriate. Young Pimp would never believe how raw I go through life. It be what it is.

If you lose one of your children, if you have any, you will cry. If you don't, You aren't a good person.

I cried like a bitch when I put my dog down a few years ago. Other than that, I cant remember crying as an adult. I'm not against it, just am not a cryer.

It’s really interesting to read the range of emotional crying from none to frequently. I listened to a podcast recently about the science of crying that was really interesting.

As I’ve gotten older, I find I get choked up more often: a sad or even just emotional moment of a movie, moving music(particularly if it has to do with dads and daughters), even thinking of my parents passing/daughter moving out or getting married/introducing myself to new teammates at a new job/being nostalgic about old times and friends that have either passed or I’ve lost connections with will get me choked up.

I will say when my Dad’s beloved Boston Terrier was at the end of her life a few years ago and having trouble breathing we were trying to comfort her and decide what needed to be done on a cold Thursday night in January. I went home and slept a couple hours and then went back to check on the dog around 4am the next morning and she wasn’t breathing in her little doggie bed she loved so much. I put my hand on her little head and cried like I can’t remember crying for what seemed like 10-15 minutes, I honestly don’t remember. I helped my Dad get her in the car so we could take her to the vet and get her cremated. A few weeks later, we had to suddenly put down our Maltese, Buddy, bc he was in liver failure due to cancer. We brought him to the same vet office to put him down. I was supporting my wife (Buddy was her dog to begin with but was beloved by me and my daughter over the years) but watching him be so scared and staring at us to calmly passing on, I sobbed again.

A few months later, as I was gearing up for a career change, I began doing speeches for a Toastmasters class. I wrote a story about this and gave a speech to our little group. It was hard but I got through it. Suffice it to say, losing dogs REALLY get me emotional.

I cry at the end of Toy Story 3

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Not once did I show my emotions in front of family or medical staff. But I would take walks around the 'lake' and parking lot alone at night and let the tears flow

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IMHO this how it should be. Healthy or not, I will not argue. Family or friends need to know that there is someone out there is a rock for them to lean upon.

Last time i cried publicly was the old mans funeral. Was good until the horns started. And when they handed the flag to my mom. Put my head down and lost it. Berfore that, it was reading the eulogy at my best friends funeral. Toughest thing I have ever done.

Oddly enough, I have been taught this by both of my parents. Saw my dad cry twice. When our dog died, and when my best friend died at the age of 21. After the old mans died, only time mom I saw my mom cry was when I picked her up to go sign papers for the body. I knew she cried other times, but it was never public.

The older I get, I can feel it coming on more often. My son leaving for college, A Kid reading about his past in his valedictorian speech (was simply an insane life that kid has led). Still try to keep this to myself. Grab a drink, maybe a cigar, and go sit outside. Quiet. Just thinking.

OP, may not have been your intention, but I bet a few tears have been shed while typing their “stories”.

ISWYDT






Btw I do shed tears not very much but I have no problem tearing up if I get feels.