re: Anyone Ever Divorce a BiPolar Spouse

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He needs to check himself in and get some help. Its unfortunate many men will not go see a counselor who can truly help them. I know people hate the meds and it sucks seeing them when they are going through a down phase.

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This is what he won’t do, yesterday afternoon breaking front door glass window and locking his dog in bedroom.
Sis in law calls cops they bring him to hospital.
He won’t listen or stay long.
No kids in this relationship by the way.

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bipolar aint got shite on borderlines.

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This. I lived it.

So much for, for better or for worse.

She needs to PEC him and they will force meds on him.

I wish I had gotten mental health support before my divorce. I had no idea I was bipolar back then. Today, therapy has made me so much more self aware of my up and down cycles and how to manage them. I really should be on medication, but I have a crippling fear of the stuff, and the one time I tried it, I really didn’t like the side effects, which only served to justify my fears in the first place.

I completely understand dumping someone who won’t get help. It took a lot of therapy for me to realize or understand what a burden I had been placing on others. A bipolar partner who is just letting that stuff fly can cause HUGE problems, and it’s frustrating because they’re often so great, and don’t even notice what they’re doing is unusual in the moment. It’s like being in a throuple relationship with Dr. Jackyl and Mr. Hyde. If they’re not working on keeping those flips somewhat moderated, the roller coaster will eventually break everything down.

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Question is why would anyone marry someone that is Bipolar?

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When they’re manic, everything is great. They’re the most charming, intelligent, interesting, brilliant, funny, caring person you’ve ever met, or their neuroticism will be cranked up to 11.

When they’re depressive, they suck all of the life, color, and joy out of the room.

When you’re dating, bipolar people just tend to stay in when they’re depressive. They just cancel plans or avoid seeing their SO if it’s not inconvenient to do so. They’ll go out with them when they’re manic, so it’s easy to only show their partner one side of them for quite a ways into a relationship.

Often times, one really won’t see any problems until they’re living together, which means the relationship is already pretty serious with strong feelings having been developed. At that point, feelings can cloud the eyes that see a problem until it spirals out of control. The thing is, no matter how bad one side of the cycle is, the other side is usually equally great. So, things oscillate often enough that partners begin to normalize the bad behavior because it’s balanced with great behavior. This continues until the constant emotional whiplash wears their partner down, the one with bipolar disorder gets help, or the one with bipolar does something simply too awful to ignore or forgive.

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Question is why would anyone marry someone that is Bipolar?

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Sex with a crazy woman is fantastic!

In regards to BPD: if a fun girl will frick you in the bar bathroom the night you meet, she’ll also burn your house down.

Also, many times the bipolar disorder doesn’t rear its head until closer to 30. Louisiana ladies rope you in years before that happens.

All 4 of my exes did…

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Sister In Law has this problem.
Does it take different steps than normal divorce?
Bro in law doesn’t take medication or want to go to doctor/hospital.

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Wait, if they're married, how can you have a sister in law AND a brother in law? One of them has to be your brother or sister.

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bipolar aint got shite on borderlines.

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Meds don’t help without lifelong counseling. Actually the meds enhance the counseling. But get someone borderline to comply with both.