re: Am I being paranoid

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Honestly trust your instincts. Something’s not right.

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This. I have been around a lot of elderly abuse cases in the past with my prior job. The description in the OP has all the red flashing alarms going off in my head.

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He has an in home caregiver while I’m at work, but nothing that leads me to believe she’s asking him for money

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Short of one of them confessing or seeing it for yourself, what insight could you possibly even have?

She getting paid.

Caregiver could be sneaking him out to the casino.

When my grandmother was still alive she would always have me take her to “the boat” (it was a building, on land) whenever I would spend a day helping her with errands, appointments, and whatnot.

She would toss a couple hundred bucks at me and tell me to shoo.

I think I’m just going to swap caregivers. Peace of mind in this situation is what I need. He’s not cognitively impaired but my gut tells me it’s not simply a matter of wanting some cash in his wallet.

I would bet he is giving it to her. However, the reason is what is important. Maybe he is buying sex. Why would you stop him? Its his money, and unless he will run out soon, why not let him indulge his desires?

But if he is just getting blackmailed, or something negative towards him happening then you have a problem

Best thing is to hide a camera, but if she is just pleasing him, be ready to burn your eyes out. And if he has money to spare, leave him alone.