re: Affairs... (very long)

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I was expecting to walk the dinosaur after all of that

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We haven't had a good walking of the dinosaur in a long time

You're a piece of shite. I hope your wife bleeds your bank account dry.

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Every once in awhile you post some great shite, like this one. Then you go and fricke it up with crazy bullshite. I really want to like you, I really do.

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Don’t. I’m a shitbag. I’ve seen every torrid side of this coin.


Once you peek behind the curtain you can’t unsee the wizard

Starts out just opportunity arse...but the thrill and the high are what keeps you doing it.


It's the rush. The taboo nature of it. It starts out small...there are the little things, the flirting, the "oh no, we shouldn't"...

Next thing you know you're in each other's arms and kissing and the chemistry is exploding. It's an incredible high. A damn drug.

Then the sneaking around, what a rush.

And sure it's Stupid

But it's exhilarating. And every time you swear it's the "last time"

That "we can't do this anymore".

But everything stemming from the dying relationship at home simply serves to reinforce the bad behaviour. To drive you to your lover's arms in a stolen embrace, in a secret place.
And my God is it hot.

Because it isn't real. It's a fantasy. And it only ends in tragedy but while you are on it the ride is incredible.



The only hard step is the first one.

After that it's as easy as can be. The excuses flow like wine.

And people in the throes of a torrid affair will do damn near anything to protect and continue it.

Even when they're caught. Even when they've been damn near busted in the act, they'll try and weasel their way out of it.

Behaviour not unlike a junkie.

They are in a fog. They either refuse to see or just don't care about who they hurt because it feels so damn good. And there's no cure. Relapse is high.

The best advice is not to start. Because you'll fall in that hole no matter how "careful" you try to be

NIP THAT shite IN THE BUD, NOW!

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throwaway082119

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You should tell your wife the truth if you love her.









But tell her right when your kids are like over the age of 17.

1st, you're selfish.

You have a family and you are running your commitment, and other lives.

2nd, and more importantly you're a dumbass.

If she cheats with you knowing you have a family, then she's got no morals, and she will eventually frick you over some day without a doubt.

Lastly, some advice.

Cut off the affair and get your life in order. If you are unhappy then fix it with some help, but don't make your problems everyone else's problems.

Do better dude.

If you bang a guy it will zero out the female so it's like you never cheated


Awesome admins, we get an interesting thread and you anchor it. No wonder this place sucks now

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Marriage is built on trust and communication. Taking a secret like that to your grave is defying the marriage and the commitment to his spouse.

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Agree on the first part. Not the second

If you cheated, and are really remorseful, and committed to your real relationship, then suck it up and deal with the guilt privately. Unless you caught a VD, your tearful admission is selfish. It’s to assuage your own guilt by absolutely destroying your partner.

If it’s dead and buried, leave it in the ground. Throwing bones around ain’t gonna fix the issues.

Confession isn’t going to wipe away your sin and only opens up a new can of worms that will destroy your family. Let that guilt eat at you, a reminder. An emotional scar to remind you of what you did and to stray no more.

People like to act like Mike Pence and Billy Graham are/were insane for having the rule of never being alone with another woman that aren’t/weren’t their wife. This is exactly the reason why.