re: "4 Ridiculous Questions People Asked Me When My 11-Year-Old Came Out as Gay"

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That's just good parenting there. We've been trying to convince my ten year old he's gay for over a year now but he's rebelling because of cis white male propaganda. Does she have any tips for people like us?

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Well, Peter Likes Paul's Penis is still the standard instructional book, but it doesn't really delve into the nuances and intricacies of gender fluidity.

Honestly, it's tough but you just have to keep pushing it on him.

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any tips for people like us?

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we've been making our 4 year old son use bachelorette party penis straws with his juice and milk

you could give that a try

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quote: I completely understand the impulse behind this question: The asker is trying to get the perspective of an adult that spends a lot of time with him. I also resent the unspoken undercurrent of this question that somehow I would know better than him what his sexual orientation is.
#Woke

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I mean, is this a factually wrong statement?

My daughter is 13, there is a kid down the street that is like an acquaintance of hers. He's come over a few times with other kids to eat pizza and watch movies. 4 years ago was the first time I ever saw him and could tell he was gay then. She never said anything about it until 2 or so years after I met him. He has taken cheer camp and is openly out and his parents seem fine with it. They are straight. Kids are born gay.

With those parents the poor kid never had a chance

Some kids are born gay no doubt. Some it is socialized and a choice, where conscious or subconscious.

Who knows the real story with this kid, but considering that being gay has not proven to be genetic, and considering the small percentage of gay people, the odds that both parents are gay and had a gay child is astronomic.

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i'd generally agree,

but i was a camp counselor a couple summers and one summer i had a 9 year old boy in my group that was clearly homosexual

he was as feminine as i've ever seen a child

he was like a caricature of a gay person

we even caught him staring at the other boys when they were getting out the shower

all the other boys in the cabin werent interested in girls yet, but this kid was clearly gay

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yep

I feel like we almost all grew up with at least one kid where everyone kinda knew really early on and then...yep

they are now gay adults

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Anyway, we both identify as bi and queer and we make sure that our kids know that. They have even been to a summer camp for kids in queer families. I know there’s a ton of privilege in being a straight-appearing couple with kids, but queerness is a really important part of our identities and the way we parent.

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The same reason Catholic parents have Catholic children, and Jewish parents have Jewish children.

Kids will do whatever they need to for their parents approval. Sad.

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My daughter is 13, there is a kid down the street that is like an acquaintance of hers. He's come over a few times with other kids to eat pizza and watch movies. 4 years ago was the first time I ever saw him and could tell he was gay then. She never said anything about it until 2 or so years after I met him. He has taken cheer camp and is openly out and his parents seem fine with it. They are straight. Kids are born gay.

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That's similar to what happened with a friend's brother. His brother was 10 or 11 years younger than him.. And when he (friend's brother) was 6ish.. give or take a year, he would always dress up and put glitter on and.. just didn't do the same shite that you associate with boys doing. As for as his family was concerned, that's just who he was and I am sure they expected he would be gay.

When he got to HS he was on the dance team and I actually think he was a really good dancer and was involved in dancing camps, etc outside of school as well. He moved away as soon as he graduated.. And I think it was to go off and do something associated with dancing.. Not sure what he does now, but there are people who think gay people make the decision to become gay. Which isn't the case at all.

This country needs TRUMP now more than ever. Can't wait for him to deport everyone I disagree with