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re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:30 pm to Leotiger725
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:30 pm to Leotiger725
One of my cousins daughters is going thru it and sounds a little similar to your situation.
I found some stuff online for her and will add the links below.
Not sure which link shows it, but they have a video interview about this young boy that was on Dr. Phil and was straight evil and zero remorse for any of his words and actions. And he went thru these therapy and supplements regimen in the links and they later interviewed him and the boy was normal and they showed him old videos of him & he was embarrassed that he was like that. Seemed like a miracle.
Maybe give it a try & report back to us. Prayers sent ??
LINK
LINK ==
Good luck & lots of prayer!!!
I found some stuff online for her and will add the links below.
Not sure which link shows it, but they have a video interview about this young boy that was on Dr. Phil and was straight evil and zero remorse for any of his words and actions. And he went thru these therapy and supplements regimen in the links and they later interviewed him and the boy was normal and they showed him old videos of him & he was embarrassed that he was like that. Seemed like a miracle.
Maybe give it a try & report back to us. Prayers sent ??
LINK
LINK ==
Good luck & lots of prayer!!!
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Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:31 pm to kingbob
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When you hit 12, being weird becomes a HUGE problem. Kids start playing the popularity game and anyone the least bit outside the mainstream will be bullied unless they conform.
Also the fact that little girls from that age forward can be some the most vile and cruel creatures on the face of the planet to each other.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:31 pm to Leotiger725
Brother, I read that, my heart sank, and I have nothing to offer but internet empathy and prayer. I hate that anybody has to go through something this devastating.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:33 pm to PsychTiger
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OP's daughter has Borderline Personality Disorder, a whole different animal and never easy to deal with.
Thats what it sounded like to me.
The most manipulative people on earth. I feel for them.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:35 pm to Mushroom1968
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You always have great posts in threads similar to this
It’s because I’m f$&king crazy and have lived through the consequences of decades of rawdogging life through multiple undiagnosed and untreated mental illnesses.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:35 pm to Leotiger725
You should get a copy of The Bipolar Child by Papolos & Papolos
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:35 pm to Lsupimp
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Brother, I read that, my heart sank, and I have nothing to offer but internet empathy and prayer. I hate that anybody has to go through something this devastating.
yeah man. i think those of us who are familiar with BPD and also have daughters all feel the same way. just brutal, and i hate to hear it.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:36 pm to Leotiger725
My MIL has BPD and Manic is better for her but worse for everyone around her. Depressed is worse for her but better for everyone around her. Its a really rough cycle. The only that helped is that she took some DNA test (maybe 23 and me) and found the exact meds she needed to regulate. She has been on those meds for 5 years now without any serious swings in either direction.
Edit: I though BPD stood for Bi-Polar Depression not Borderline Personality Disorder. Ignore my comment.
Edit: I though BPD stood for Bi-Polar Depression not Borderline Personality Disorder. Ignore my comment.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 2:39 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:36 pm to kingbob
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kingbob
Hey, man - just wanted you to know that I legitimately think you’re a cool dude and I love ya.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:37 pm to Leotiger725
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She threatened to murder her 1 year old baby sister and set a cardboard box on fire in my house.
Probably something you don't want to hear, but if she's becoming a legitimate threat to your other child or family, it may be time to seek out an institutional remedy.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:38 pm to Leotiger725
If you havent already or if it hasnt been mentioned, read the book Walking on Eggshells. It will give a lot of helpful info on dealing with BPD
Edit: i see somebody mentioned the book earlier. Definitely worth a read in your situation.
Edit: i see somebody mentioned the book earlier. Definitely worth a read in your situation.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 2:40 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:38 pm to Northshore Aggie
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yeah man. i think those of us who are familiar with BPD and also have daughters all feel the same way. just brutal, and i hate to hear it.
It is very tough since you have to be careful who talk to about it within your circle because some folks believe it is just because they're a "brat" and all they need is a "good beating."
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:39 pm to Leotiger725
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12 Year Old Girl with BPD
Do yourself a favor and get a 2nd opinion before heading down this chemical Rx superhighway. Doesn’t cost much and in the grand scheme of things, and you just want to make sure it’s not a hormonal imbalance caused by menstruation. Wife is in Pharma sales and the shortcuts some is these Dr’s take can be horrific.
If nothing else, should give you peace of mind.
Does BPD run in her mom’s family?
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 2:44 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:39 pm to bad93ex
If mental illness could have been beaten out of me, I would be the sanest person on earth.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:40 pm to CowboySimpkins
quote:When someone has a disorder a threat won't resonate.
Have you threatened military school??
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:40 pm to Leotiger725
Prayers for you and your family...my adult daughter was diagnosed at 14 with BPD...bumpy road but worth it. Find a therapist that specializes in BPD in adolescents...that is important. Secondly, you may consider family therapy because the events don't occur in a vacuum...lastly, medication and routine are all important. You will be able to determine when she is in her mood cycles...It's important that you and your SO can anticipate the cycle and be able to soften the landing. It is so difficult to navigate, sometimes painfully so...but it's evident that you love your daughter and honestly, that love will get you to the other side. Blessings and prayers your way, my friend. Be safe...take care.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:42 pm to Leotiger725
I have gone through everything that you are going through with my son.
He has been expelled from every school that he has ever been to and ultimately never graduated high school.
He is either ASPD (AntiSocialPersonalityDisorder) or BPD (BorderlinePersonalityDisorder), but has been 100% noncompliant in any (talk) therapy, so we really don't know which---although they are both equally horrifying.
There are no FDA approved drugs for these disorders.
We did have some success with a boarding school and I would recommend this, a behavioral boarding school, or even Military School if you have the means. It may be the only way to keep your sanity.
It is extremely unlikely that your daughter and my son (now 19) will change much or at all at least until their 40s. The disorder(s) does tend to lessen significantly at middle age.
Best of luck to you, Leo.
eta I would be willing to chat about the experience with you if you think it might be helpful for you.
He has been expelled from every school that he has ever been to and ultimately never graduated high school.
He is either ASPD (AntiSocialPersonalityDisorder) or BPD (BorderlinePersonalityDisorder), but has been 100% noncompliant in any (talk) therapy, so we really don't know which---although they are both equally horrifying.
There are no FDA approved drugs for these disorders.
We did have some success with a boarding school and I would recommend this, a behavioral boarding school, or even Military School if you have the means. It may be the only way to keep your sanity.
It is extremely unlikely that your daughter and my son (now 19) will change much or at all at least until their 40s. The disorder(s) does tend to lessen significantly at middle age.
Best of luck to you, Leo.
eta I would be willing to chat about the experience with you if you think it might be helpful for you.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 2:52 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:43 pm to Leotiger725
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The fact of the matter is you cannot force someone to try and be a decent person if they are hellbent on doing the opposite. I never imagined things would get this bad. I cannot relate at all to her and her behavior, and neither can the rest of my family.
Parents that haven't dealt with it don't understand. You feel like you are failing as a parent. And everyone that should be there to help you, won't.
I tell the story all the time. At 3 yrs old, we told our daughter to clean her room or else we were going to donate all her toys. She looked at us, went to the kitchen, and came back and handed us a trash bag. We packed up her toys and gave them away. You can't parent a child that does that.
We lived this with my oldest daughter. Finally, through a combination of medication, therapy, and the husband, she is a productive member of society. I know that this could change quickly, but for the last 5 years or so, she's been great.
If you don't have a good therapist, go get one. I'd also recommend a camp of some kind. Teen Challenge is a good one: LINK. There was a survival camp of some kind that we also looked into but never pulled the trigger on it. One of those were they are reconditioning the kid. Literally give them a cup, a spoon, and a blanket and leave them in the woods.
I'll be praying for you brother.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:44 pm to Leotiger725
I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. I have no specific advice to offer, but I will offer you a small consolation: as bad as this is, take some solace in the fact that she is not a male. It can get worse. Much worse, in fact.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 2:45 pm to Leotiger725
This post doesn't even seem real.
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