Dating A Runner When You're Not One

Compromise:

You run with her, she lifts with you

I like powerlifting and strongman. My wife isn't really into working out beyond general health.

Part of a relationship is compromise and understanding and supporting the other person's hobbies even if you don't get into them yourself. The greater the ability to so that, the more successful the relationship is.

So ultimately, find your own balance.

I’d get her to pick days She knows she will be at a slower pace/tempo and invite you on those days to start. If she’s trying to get you to jump in cold turkey on her long run days it’s going to be rough for both of you. I’d start slow and jump in on her “recovery” days if she has any built into her training.

Make sure she even wants you to first. Maybe she uses that time to get away to herself

I think it’s good for couples to have different hobbies as well as things they like to do together

Some individuals get bitter when their S/O doesn't attempt, or in some cases excel, in their exercise routine of choice. If she's not bringing it up or constantly badgering you about it, I would just stick to your current forms of exercise. My wife and I are both in our mid-30s. We celebrate the fact that each of us are still fit and exercise routinely. We definitely don't dwell in the fact that we enjoy different forms of exercise.

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I do have inhalers. Shitty deal on the asthma. Any advice how to start building endurance? I'm telling you, 1/2 mile today without stopping would be tough.

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As others posted, I'd talk with her about whether she wants you to. It's ok not to share all hobbies, but if she wants you to try, you could give it a go.

Does she do track workouts? That's the easiest for a nonrunner to start. You're never more than 100 yards from the car. Road running, you get a half mile from home and start puking and you have a bad time.

Track work is the easiest building block because it allows you max control over workload. I am not much of a runner, so I'll defer on building running capacity.

Some lower impact stuff on off days has helped me build a general cardio base, though. It's summer, so hopping in a pool and treading water for 5 min is the sort of thing I'll do.

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Some individuals get bitter when their S/O doesn't attempt, or in some cases excel, in their exercise routine of choice. If she's not bringing it up or constantly badgering you about it, I would just stick to your current forms of exercise. My wife and I are both in our mid-30s. We celebrate the fact that each of us are still fit and exercise routinely. We definitely don't dwell in the fact that we enjoy different forms of exercise.

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this. i'm an endurance runner and she likes HIIT classes and tennis. our twains don't meet to much.

i'll do her classes when they're free on Saturdays on occasion and then she gets pissed that i show up all her friends and i'm terrible at tennis and she hit me with a racket when trying to teach me.

she's slow AF and hates running.

we can do some slow jogs and hikes together, but for the most part we do our fitness separately.

Next time she runs come out of nowhere about 1 block from your house and race her home.

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Next time she runs come out of nowhere about 1 block from your house and race her home.

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Does she carry pepper spray? Might not want to come completely out of nowhere then.

Be glad you have a woman who exercises at all. Have you seen America?