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Social Etiquette Question About Going Out
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:47 pm
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:47 pm
I’m not the most social person in the world so it very well could be me but I’ll present.
I was asked if I would like to go out this weekend with some people that may be considered friends by some but not really. I said sure, I’d love to. They said “well, join us after the game is over”
After the game, I never heard from them. I figured they either changed their plans or thought better of inviting me.
Guy today was like “where were you, you never texted us,” and we had a discussion on who should reach out to who.
My thought is if they had really wanted me there, they’d have reached out.
He said “it’s not on me when I’m out to micromanage people.”
I was asked if I would like to go out this weekend with some people that may be considered friends by some but not really. I said sure, I’d love to. They said “well, join us after the game is over”
After the game, I never heard from them. I figured they either changed their plans or thought better of inviting me.
Guy today was like “where were you, you never texted us,” and we had a discussion on who should reach out to who.
My thought is if they had really wanted me there, they’d have reached out.
He said “it’s not on me when I’m out to micromanage people.”
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:49 pm to athenslife101
If they said after the game, then you go meet them after the game. What do you want them to text you for?
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:49 pm to athenslife101
Both of you have a point depending on which side you're viewing it from, but I would think if he reached out to you and said to join up after the game, that's a pretty clear indication to reach out to him after the game.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:49 pm to athenslife101
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My thought is if they had really wanted me there, they’d have reached out.
That is correct. However, many people would’ve been texting toward the end of the game, “what’s the plan?” Or something like that.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:51 pm to athenslife101
This is some millennial bullshite if I've ever seen it.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:51 pm to athenslife101
youre making much out of nothing imo. after the game, you could have just sent a text asking whats up
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:52 pm to athenslife101
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He said “it’s not on me when I’m out to micromanage people.”
I don't know the "proper" answer to your question, but the above quoted line is one that only the super flaky friends of mine use. Usually service industry/odd schedule people.
I've learned that I have to be the one reaching out even when they're the ones who originally invited me somewhere. It is what it is. I don't love it, but I'm not going to sit home sulking all the time because I believe they should be trying harder.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:53 pm to Deactived
I would have just texted him after the game and said something like “hey man, I’m over at X, just seeing where y’all are going” to lead off the conversation
After 10 minutes if I didn’t hear back I’d just order a pizza and rub one out
After 10 minutes if I didn’t hear back I’d just order a pizza and rub one out
This post was edited on 11/5/18 at 7:55 pm
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:55 pm to athenslife101
If I'm drunk after a game the last thing I'm going to want to do is be the event coordinator. If you wanted to go you should have asked where they were at.
Going to dinner or something more formal is different, but meeting people at the bar after a game is not something I'm trying to plan.
Going to dinner or something more formal is different, but meeting people at the bar after a game is not something I'm trying to plan.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:55 pm to athenslife101
He is right. HE made plans already, you agreed to meet up after the game. Its not up to him to make sure you follow through. If he didn't want you there he wouldn't have invited you.
you blew off your "friends".
you blew off your "friends".
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:55 pm to dallastiger55
Smoke signals might have worked. Something.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 7:56 pm to athenslife101
You have to be pro-active.
Many times meet up places are fluid. People in cars People in Uber’s arriving at overcrowded destination point A which rolls in to destination point B, or C.
Obviously you should have been on the group text but maybe you’ve not made enough effort to be fully accepted into the group.
Be more pro-active.
Many times meet up places are fluid. People in cars People in Uber’s arriving at overcrowded destination point A which rolls in to destination point B, or C.
Obviously you should have been on the group text but maybe you’ve not made enough effort to be fully accepted into the group.
Be more pro-active.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:03 pm to athenslife101
Same thing basically happened to me. Except I texted everyone in the group asking where they were and no one responded. Pretty depressing
Saturday was just a miserable night
Saturday was just a miserable night
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:04 pm to Walt OReilly
I actually prefer drinking alone.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:06 pm to LouisianaLady
quote:
I don't know the "proper" answer to your question, but the above quoted line is one that only the super flaky friends of mine use. Usually service industry/odd schedule people.
That response is kind of douchy, but I understand his point.
If I tell someone "Hey bro, after the game we are going out if you would like to come with us". If that person is interested, I would expect them to enquire about it, if they just respond "okay" and I don't hear back then it would be easy to assume they are not interested.
If someone text me to inform me they are going out after the game and I am welcome to come.. I am going to ask questions if I want to go "where do yall want me to meet yall?", etc.
So I can understand the breakdown in communication, but if you ask someone if they want to go out, a courtesy text would be appropriate "hey we are leaving son, you coming?"
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:07 pm to athenslife101
you should have texted a "what's up" after the game, baw
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:10 pm to athenslife101
The guy probably thought you just didn’t want to hang out with them. That’s what I would have figured if I invited someone and they didn’t text me when it was getting close.
Posted on 11/5/18 at 8:11 pm to OweO
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If they said after the game, then you go meet them after the game.
Kind of like if someone says they should honor their ban after the game (after Welching on it before) then they should honor it after the game?
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