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re: Mother-in-law in delivery room
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:44 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:44 am to SMACKYtheFROG
No not really. If she’d had asked for you and the baby’s real father then that’d be weird.
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Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:45 am to GRTiger
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They wanted to share the experience, and since we're adults, we realized it was a small effort from us for a huge benefit for them.
I’m not saying that they shouldn’t be in there, just pointing out that the object is the kid coming out with no hiccups in the ordeal. If the doctor is ok with having more people in there, then I’m fine with it.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:47 am to lsunurse
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You just tell her "sorry I know you are terrified right now and want her there, but tough shite...she ain't allowed cause I say so."?
If your wife is terrified and you don't provide what she needs, than she married the wrong man.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:48 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Happy wife happy life.
Don’t try to understand, just give her what she wants
Don’t try to understand, just give her what she wants
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:52 am to Houma Sapien
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If your wife is terrified and you don't provide what she needs, than she married the wrong man.
You are really against this for some reason. I couldn't see myself ever wanting my mom there if I ever do have a child...but I could easily see other women wanting their moms with them.
I could imagine them being scared if it is their first baby. Maybe they just want their mom there(someone who clearly has had a child before) for some reassurance that what they are going through is totally normal. Reassurance they are not gonna get from their husband who is going through this the first time as well.
Not that hard to grasp. You must just really hate your MIL.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:52 am to ctiger69
LOL
You think because the daughter wants her mom in the delivery room that this means 18 years of interference coming?
Now that I think about it I liked having MIL in there taking my some pictures.
At one point I think I was a little too excited and not thinking clearly and I slipped a dumb joke in. The nurse told me the head was crowning and asked if I wanted to look.
After viewing that for a moment I told MIL that a friend said if I looked down there during he birth that I would never want to be near the vagina again.
You think because the daughter wants her mom in the delivery room that this means 18 years of interference coming?
Now that I think about it I liked having MIL in there taking my some pictures.
At one point I think I was a little too excited and not thinking clearly and I slipped a dumb joke in. The nurse told me the head was crowning and asked if I wanted to look.
After viewing that for a moment I told MIL that a friend said if I looked down there during he birth that I would never want to be near the vagina again.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:53 am to Houma Sapien
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To each his own I guess. I'm just thankful my wife felt that our children being born was a moment for us as parents, not a bunch of other people.
That’s because you are normal. The MIL should respect the parents’ relationship and butt the frick out. She already had chance to raise her children and experience everything that goes along with it. It’s your turn now and she’s trying to infringe on that. If you let this happen, it will open the door to her butting in on every parenting decision later on. This is simply a test to see if they can gang up on you 2 vs 1. Congratulations on simply being an observer to your parenting life. You really won’t have a say in anything from this point forward. Remember, this is a test. If you give someone an inch, they will take a mile.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:55 am to SMACKYtheFROG
I have to admit that I opened this thread because I read the title as a "report" that your MIL was giving birth. I was guessing that she gave birth to your mom when she was 10 or so.
Punctuation is important. A question mark at the end of your title would have helped.
Anyway, do whatever your wife wants. Congratulations on becoming a Dad.
Punctuation is important. A question mark at the end of your title would have helped.
Anyway, do whatever your wife wants. Congratulations on becoming a Dad.
This post was edited on 2/25/18 at 12:23 pm
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:57 am to MikeBRLA
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This is simply a test to see if they can gang up on you 2 vs 1. Congratulations on simply being an observer to your parenting life. You really won’t have a say in anything from this point forward. Remember, this is a test. If you give someone an inch, they will take a mile.
Some of you people are seriously fricking damaged. Good God, man.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 9:57 am to lsunurse
Those are just my thoughts.
That being said if my wife wanted the MIL in there she would have been in there. I would have a picked another battle like I get to hold my baby before the MIL does. I still think that should be a special moment for the Mom and Dad.
That being said if my wife wanted the MIL in there she would have been in there. I would have a picked another battle like I get to hold my baby before the MIL does. I still think that should be a special moment for the Mom and Dad.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:03 am to SMACKYtheFROG
My wife wanted her mom for both of ours. She has a very strong bond with her mom that I can never replace. I'm cool with that. She's a good MIL.
Luckily both of ours came so fast that MIL didn't make it in time
Of course the downside was that the second came so fast that the doctor didn't make it either and yours truly had to catch. Still recovering from that but it will be a cool story some day.
Luckily both of ours came so fast that MIL didn't make it in time
Of course the downside was that the second came so fast that the doctor didn't make it either and yours truly had to catch. Still recovering from that but it will be a cool story some day.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:04 am to HoustonChick86
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Yes. That really should just be a time for the father and mother
IMO this. My wife agreed wholeheartedly. Hell my wife didn’t even want people at the hospital besides us until she was back in the room and had fed the babies for all three of ours.
This post was edited on 2/25/18 at 10:07 am
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:04 am to SMACKYtheFROG
What's your concern? It's her mom for Christ's sake.
To clarify, if it's your wife wants that, you better shut up about it.
If it's just your MIL wanting to be there and both of you don't really want it, then that's a completely different story.
To clarify, if it's your wife wants that, you better shut up about it.
If it's just your MIL wanting to be there and both of you don't really want it, then that's a completely different story.
This post was edited on 2/25/18 at 10:07 am
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:06 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Should do what I had to do when my children were born in 65 and 69 - go to the waiting room. Pace and chain-smoke until someone tells you what's going on. (I didn't smoke, but I might as well have in that confined room.)
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:06 am to SMACKYtheFROG
Yes. You're in for a lifetime of intrusion.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:07 am to notiger1997
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Bunch of baws in this thread. It's the kids grandmother and what if people have great relationships with their MIL and want them in our life
What if you don't have a good relationship and when your wife is truthful, she states that she doesn't even really have a good relationship with her mother. But the MIL interjects herself into the situation and it's not worth fighting at this particular time.
But wait, at least it's notbthe last time. There will be a few years of it, so you have that to look forward to.
Also to all saying you'll be thankful to have someone who knows....that's total bullshite. The nurses and doctor that are with you constantly tend to be enough as far as "knowing what's going on" is concerned.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:08 am to 4LSU2
It's really a bonding moment for you and the Mil. Buy a six pack, wear your baseball hats backwards, and bro it up.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:09 am to 4LSU2
quote:It's fine watching other vaginas do that in Nova shows on PBS, but some things can't be unseen. Stay up by your wife's head whispering encouragement to her and don't look around the sheet.
You get to have your MIL with you at the same time you see your wife’s vagina open to the size of a watermelon while she’s shitting on herself from pushing the melon out.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:12 am to SMACKYtheFROG
To help her feel comfortable, my wife and I both get completely naked when she’s giving birth, so having my mother in law there with us would be a bit awkward.
Posted on 2/25/18 at 10:12 am to St Augustine
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Hell my wife didn’t even want people at the hospital besides us until she was back in the room and had fed the babies for all three of ours.
This was actually recommended to us by a nurse at Womans. She recommended no one but the mother and father for the first two hours after birth. Then let everyone come in once you are out of recovery and in a normal room.
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