Loved one with diagnosed mental issues

I deal with mentally ill folks regularly, at work. Try to understand that their reality, and yours, may be very different. Depending on the condition, using reason or logic with them can be very frustrating for both of you.

BPD (whether diagnosed or not I don’t know but the signs were all there). Didn’t work out well; the lying and manipulation were extreme. Eventually got cheated on.

Other signs include eating disorders and body image issues, and suicidal thoughts or attempts as well so be cognizant of that.

Also—I experienced a lot of gaslighting and projection (accusing me of cheating and spying on me) when it was her that was not being faithful.

If its your gf cut bait

All women are crazy but if they're crazy enough to think they need to go to the doctor for it that's next level

I may be mistaken, but I think that Paige has BPD and has talked about it on here

I dated a bipolar chick. RUN. RUN FAST. I don't care how smoking hot she is or how much of a freak she is.

It's an uphill battle that will leave you feeling defeated most of the time. Like another poster said, it's manageable if the right medicines are in place, but due to their lying & manipulation it's rare these people are properly diagnosed.

My SO has bipolar.

First, does your friend's SO recognize that s/he has a problem? If not, then nothing will help.

Second, it is quite common for mental patients to have a dual diagnosis of mental issues AND substance abuse. Does your friend's SO have the latter? If so, that MUST be dealt with FIRST.

It's hell on the level headed one.

Sorry to hear this bro.


My daughter has been diagnosed with Boarderline Personality Disorder. As a parent, it's devastating. My mother had it and I passed it to my daughter. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Since my wife owns her own business, I quit my job and stayed at home to try and get her through high school. If someone hadn't been at home, she wouldn't have made it and I don't mean just graduating.

With that said, if Boarderline is truly the diagnosis, there are things that you can do. First is medication. Yes, medication helps. Second is therapy. Therapy is a lifesaver. We have found a great one here in Birmingham and she has done wonders with my daughter. Also, family therapy is a must. Not only does the person suffering need to know how to handle it, but the people around them do to. There is also group therapy which is beneficial after individual therapy. There is also inpatient treatment facilities for those with excellent insurance or deep pocketbooks.

I'd recommend a book called, "Walking on Eggshells". It will help you to understand what's going on.

I know it doesn't mean much, but I'll pray for you and your family.