Interesting topic for OT parents... Sleepovers

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Why My Family Doesn't Do Sleepovers

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Those kids were always weird.

Well, we all know what his daughters are going to do when they get to college.

Your kids are going to have shitty childhoods if they are only in kindergarten and you're buying into crap like this. Better hope you have sons because if you have daughters they are going to be giant whores in college.

Its a different world now than when my kids were around. I'd rather err being over cautious, than too lax,,,within reason. They need socialization, but, it's a very thin line.

Not to take away from the topic, but what does the author imply by saying "visited the South"

Who the hell says that?


Edit: in relation to the actual topic, while I'm sure things can and do happen, as a parent, you take caution with things, but you are also not wanting to prohibit your children from everything...

Don't know.

I agree that you never know what's going on behind someone's else's door.

It's scary to think about how many predators are out there and even enabled by their spouses.

However, I don't think you can completely shelter them from everything.

The children of overly protective parents are almost always socially inept and often face a major shock when they enter college and other stages of life.

While it is certainly understandable to want to protect your children at all costs, denying them the ability to socialize with their friends in a setting such as a sleepover severely hinders their ability to maintain friendships.

If you're worried about certain situations in which your child might be in danger during a sleepover, simply don't let them sleep over at that house. I think it is just as important for the parents to get to know each other as it is for the kids to know each other. If you're comfortable with the setting, let them go. Kids notice things like overly protective parents, and it could affect how they interact with your kid.

Yes you want to protect you kids. My wife says I'm more overly protective of our kids than the Secret Service is with the POTUS. But you can't shelter them totally from the world. That's why instead of locking them up hiding them from the world, you instead get to know their friends and their friends' parents. Let them have sleepovers but before you know, get to know the people who's house they will be visiting.

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Curious to know how other people feel about this topic.

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Couldn't disagree more with the article. Sleepovers were a big part of my daughter's childhood; they helped build her social skills plus they were lots of fun.

Naturally you're concerned about your kid's well being outside you're own home, but we got to know the parents of our daughter's friends, we socialized with them and we established trust that way. We always got a clear picture of other parents ideas on responsible behavior and we were glad to share ours as well.

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Sadly, the world has changed in the last few decades, and it is no longer a safe place for children. Pedophiles and child molesters are more pervasive than ever.

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James Dobson must be an old person who watches CNN/Fox all day and just feels like the above is true. Because it's not true...people are just fricking idiots and are fricking up their kids lives because of it.