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My parents are in their late 70’s and refuse to create a will
Posted on 4/28/26 at 9:59 am
Posted on 4/28/26 at 9:59 am
Anyone else in this situation?
What did you do?
They don’t have loads of money or a bunch of assets, but there are several of us siblings who will be standing with our dicks in our hands if we don’t have something to go by.
TIA
What did you do?
They don’t have loads of money or a bunch of assets, but there are several of us siblings who will be standing with our dicks in our hands if we don’t have something to go by.
TIA
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Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:01 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
My Dad refuses to do any of that (funeral planning as well) when we just went through the shite with my Mom 5 years ago when she passed. All I know is he has life insurance and he wants to be buried with my Mom. That’s it.
Thankfully it’s just me at this point so I won’t have siblings to deal with. But it sucks.
Thankfully it’s just me at this point so I won’t have siblings to deal with. But it sucks.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:03 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
My dad is 82 and mom 8 years younger and never once have asked them about a will, is that not normal?
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:03 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Tell them they are creating big problems for their kids post-death.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:04 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
quote:do finish each other off and get a contract together to split everything.
but there are several of us siblings who will be standing with our dicks in our hands
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:05 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Pretty selfish stance on your parents’ part, but maybe they don’t want to face their mortality. I presume they don’t have burial/cremation plans set, either?
Just have a blunt conversation with them about the burden this is going to place on the parent left behind— and ultimately you and your siblings, when one of them passes. Ultimately, it gives them the chance for things to be handled they way they want them handled, so frame it that way to let them know they have control. Good luck.
Just have a blunt conversation with them about the burden this is going to place on the parent left behind— and ultimately you and your siblings, when one of them passes. Ultimately, it gives them the chance for things to be handled they way they want them handled, so frame it that way to let them know they have control. Good luck.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:05 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
See if you can get them to prepay for their own funeral/burial. That's really the only point of contention for people without complicated estates who don't have wills. Once that's out of the way, whether there is a fight really comes down to you and your siblings.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:05 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Is it necessary to have one in Louisiana - seems asset distribution is pretty straightforward : surviving spouse 50% and other 50% divided equally among children. Could certainly be wrong.
When mother died the 3 of us made no claim on assets - was for our father. Mom made certain requests for the girls [her personal jewelry pieces].
Dad made a will and his assets were directed to the 3 of us at his discretion and were carried out
When mother died the 3 of us made no claim on assets - was for our father. Mom made certain requests for the girls [her personal jewelry pieces].
Dad made a will and his assets were directed to the 3 of us at his discretion and were carried out
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:05 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
My dad is similar that’s why on every visit I’m grabbing what I want. This trip is a matched set of Ruger red label o/u.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:05 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Am I wrong to say as long as you and your siblings get along and have an understanding you should be able to work it out amongst yourselves afterwards?
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:07 am to idlewatcher
quote:no they aren’t. Only the kids would make it a ‘problem’. The ‘kids’ have a choice to say frick it as well
Tell them they are creating big problems for their kids post-death.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:08 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
At least have them update beneficiaries on insurance policies, financial accts, TOD/POD (pay on death) docs updated for taxable accts, etc.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:08 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Well, explain that the only thing you all will be able to do is to have an estate sale and split the proceeds up equally. If someone wants something they will have to buy it at the sale.
Lots of folks do this and it works well,
Fact is, 95% of all of the stuff any individual owns is worthless to anyone but them.
Lots of folks do this and it works well,
Fact is, 95% of all of the stuff any individual owns is worthless to anyone but them.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:11 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
My parents are in their mid 70s and have both a Will and a living will, and have set up me and my two siblings each with different power of attorney's for medical and financial dealings.
They also have purchased a long term healthcare insurance policy
my wife and I are in our early 50s and also have a will and have chosen separate relatives to be guardians and financial guardians for our kids. with reach kid getting a trust set-up with their inheritance
EDIT:
After having set up our will and trusts, a weight seemed to come off of the "what if's" of post death for a surviving spouse and kids
They also have purchased a long term healthcare insurance policy
my wife and I are in our early 50s and also have a will and have chosen separate relatives to be guardians and financial guardians for our kids. with reach kid getting a trust set-up with their inheritance
EDIT:
After having set up our will and trusts, a weight seemed to come off of the "what if's" of post death for a surviving spouse and kids
This post was edited on 4/28/26 at 10:13 am
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:13 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Just sell everything and divide it equally if they don't have businesses and a bunch of assets.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:15 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
I need to talk to my dad about this. My parents are divorced and he is remarried. What happens if no will? 100% to his current wife or 50% her and 50% to his kids? Also, what happens after his current wife passes away? Everything then goes to her kids (who she had from a previous marriage)? In Louisiana
This post was edited on 4/28/26 at 10:16 am
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:19 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Which state are they in?
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:19 am to hubertcumberdale
quote:
My dad is 82 and mom 8 years younger and never once have asked them about a will, is that not normal?
Guess you'll find out when it all goes to probate.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:20 am to danilo
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parents are divorced and he is remarried. What happens if no will? 100% to his current wife
A good friend of mine just went thru this. When he and his siblings were younger, the dad had his current wife receiving 100% of everything.. The dad passed 2 years ago, then she took EVERYTHING, including the money for the house and dipped. Pretty fricked up after being in their lives for over 25 years.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 10:22 am to hubertcumberdale
quote:
never once have asked them about a will, is that not normal?
My parents are in their early 70’s & I have known their wishes for awhile
They showed me where their insurance policies, wills & other important papers are
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