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How long did it take you to know your spouse was marriage material? Study says 172 days

Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:13 am
Posted by dyslexiateechur
Louisiana
Member since Jan 2009
35698 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:13 am
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According to a new study, it takes around six months, or 172 days, for a person to decide if the person they are dating is marriage material. Researchers polled 2,000 coupled and uncoupled people and found that married and single people have very different ideas of how long it will take them to find the person they wanted to marry.


I’d say I knew within 6 months, so I don’t disagree.
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Posted by Rockbrc
Attic
Member since Nov 2015
9362 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:24 am to
Day 1-not sure she thought so, though
Posted by Bard
Definitely NOT an admin
Member since Oct 2008
57877 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:26 am to
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I’d say I knew within 6 months, so I don’t disagree.


Same here.
Posted by gizmothepug
Louisiana
Member since Apr 2015
8509 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:34 am to
Not long at the ripe old age of 16, that was 28 years ago.
Posted by evil cockroach
27.98N // 86.92E
Member since Nov 2007
8890 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:35 am to
About 6-7 months
Posted by CunningLinguist
Dallas, TX
Member since Mar 2006
19157 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:38 am to
1.5 years or so.
Posted by Indfanfromcol
LSU
Member since Jan 2011
14888 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:40 am to
It takes at least 2 years for people’s true crazy to show.
Posted by Grnbud
Member since Jan 2025
215 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:41 am to
If I had waited 6 months, I definitely would have chosen a different path.
Posted by OceanMan
Member since Mar 2010
22680 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 5:42 am to
Hard to say because I knew mine well before we started dating or considering marriage, but it didn’t take 72 hours after we did to know that she was marriage material.

I’m still waiting for her to realize that I’m not but so far so good.
Posted by thegambler
Louisiana
Member since Oct 2012
2034 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 6:06 am to
It usually only takes 6 months for someone to stop with their best behavior and let the psycho loose.
Posted by Loup
Ferriday
Member since Apr 2019
15642 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 6:23 am to
When we met I was a 27 year old full time student and broke as a joke. She caught on pretty quick that I didn't have money and told me that she didn't mind paying for dates if it meant she got to spend more time with me.
Posted by tigergal918
Member since Feb 2022
368 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 6:58 am to
My husband went home & told his mom after our first date (we were 15/16) that he could see himself marrying me. She laughed at him. 29 years later I think she was wrong…
Posted by Septiger
Member since Nov 2020
2917 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:06 am to
You can’t possibly know enough about someone in 6 months to decide you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Posted by whitetiger1234
They/Them
Member since Oct 2016
6392 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:15 am to
Spent 14 hours with her first time we met, and told my roommate at the time that I met my wife.

Married 2.5 years later. Do not regret.
Posted by SallysHuman
Lady Palmetto Bug
Member since Jan 2025
13747 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:24 am to
It took us a year and a half to get married... but I think I knew he was a keeper within 6mo.

26 years married next month- best decision of my life.
Posted by Carolhdg
St George, LA
Member since Nov 2022
293 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:35 am to
Two months for me. My mil said she knew I was the one for her son as soon as she met me. That was 40 years ago, and we've been married for 39 years.
Posted by Locoguan0
St. George, LA
Member since Nov 2017
7024 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:36 am to
Then by day 2922 you figure out that you may have made a mistake.

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The average length of a U.S. marriage varies, but statistics often point to around 8 years for marriages ending in divorce, commonly linked to the "seven-year itch"...
Posted by dyslexiateechur
Louisiana
Member since Jan 2009
35698 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:37 am to
One of my friends is getting a divorce after 15 years. He was the one who filed.
Posted by BeepBopBoop
Northshore
Member since Dec 2023
1141 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:41 am to
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how long it will take them to find the person they wanted to marry.


The moment I saw my wife I knew......I was in love and wanted to see her naked.

But to be sure we lived together for a year and a half before I asked her to marry me. Been married 21 years.
Posted by F1y0n7h3W4LL
Below I-10
Member since Jul 2019
3592 posts
Posted on 12/9/25 at 7:43 am to
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It takes at least 2 years for people’s true crazy to show.

Yeah, I think that's about right.

If you marry prior to the end of that two years, the craziness will reveal itself within a few months after the wedding or around the first Christmas, whichever comes first.

It is said that a man marries a woman thinking they'll never change, but they always do. A woman marries a man and thinks she can change him, but she can't.
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