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re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:06 pm to Leotiger725
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:06 pm to Leotiger725
That’s not Bi polar disorder. That’s way more serious. Get her to an inpatient facility asap! If she won’t go willingly go to the courts and have her committed for as long as it takes. Sorry to hear that you’re dealing with that. That’s tough.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:16 pm to Leotiger725
My brother dated a girl like this in high school and she got sent away for a little while.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:18 pm to Bert Macklin FBI
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I don't know the details, hell I don't even know if 23 and me is the exact test she took but for some reason it rings a bell. What I do know is that based on that test they were able to determine what she was deficient in (chemically I guess) and matched her up with the meds that fixed that issue. Prior to the test, it was just trial and error where they would try a med for a few months and then if it didn't work, they would wean off it and then try a new med.
I think he’s looking for Genesight
My friend did this and as I understand you get either red, yellow or green markers next to medications, with green being the best match for you. It was very helpful for her.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:26 pm to Leotiger725
BPD can be heart breaking
Prayers for healing and support.
Prayers for healing and support.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 9:35 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:31 pm to makersmark1
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if they are hellbent on doing the opposite.
Heck of an adjective.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:34 pm to WyattDonnelly
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That’s not Bi polar disorder.
again, the OP is not talking about bipolar disorder...he's talking about BPD, borderline personality disorder...
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:35 pm to Leotiger725
I’ll be praying for you and your family. Peace be with you.
Good luck.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 9:36 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:40 pm to Leotiger725
Id educate her as much as possible about the disease. The more she understands her emotions the better she can cope.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:41 pm to Leotiger725
Has she had a lot of exposure to social media and does she have access to her own smart phone?
Posted on 4/29/24 at 9:42 pm to Leotiger725
quote:I wish you all the strength in the world to keep her safe. And if you find a solution, post it here again and again.
Leotiger725
Posted on 4/29/24 at 11:09 pm to Leotiger725
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I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
Who pays for this? Your insurance covers it?
Posted on 4/29/24 at 11:09 pm to Leotiger725
Did you spank her growing up? Maybe she missed out on quality, lesson-filled spankings.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 11:23 pm to LSUGrad2024
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Did you spank her growing up? Maybe she missed out on quality, lesson-filled spankings.
Yes. I’m sure the vast majority of inmates and serial killers just weren’t spanked enough.
Such a stupid fricking comment in this thread.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:14 am to Leotiger725
Leo, your family will be in my prayers.
Lot of good stuff ITT, just want to share some personal observation. Not suggesting I know more than the next guy, just sharing in case it’s helpful to anyone.
(Not directed at OP, but some of the other comments) I’d advise to be careful on being so sure the suicide threats are always manipulation. Yes, that certainly happens a lot, but BPD has very high rates of attempts and success. I saw years of loud threats, some barely drawing blood “just let me bleed out”s, etc. But she hid and was sneaky when she actually did attempt. Pills. Threats were for me, the real attempts were for her. I have real guilt about not seeing things, possibly because I “knew” she’d never do it for real, and just being lucky she wasn’t good at it.
Something most of us will never understand is how absolutely devastating it is for them to perceive being abandoned. Makes even less sense when they actively and aggressively push “their people” away. Do everything you can to reinforce that she’s loved and you have her back when she’s not asking for it/acting out. Hopefully fill the void. Hug her. A lot. Just because. And despite her protests :D You can’t control whether she accepts it, you can only control whether you put it out there.
My wife calls it going dark. I don’t know if this is normal for everyone, but she would do everything she could to hide it. Shame, mostly. Which leads to feeling more isolated and make everything worse. It took a very long time for her to be willing to me know when things start going South. But we got finally got here. And it beats the hell out of getting blamed for not seeing things that are purposely being hidden from you ;)
I’m not that guy who’s going to say living right, diet & exercise solves everything. But I have a lot of experience that physical activity and eating right at least correlates with if not causes being “better”. Find a way to incorporate these, bonus points for making it quality family time.
Get therapy for the family with someone who knows bpd. She’s going to lash out. She’s going to figuratively blow things up, or literally set boxes on fire. She’s going to push your buttons. You need tools. Also, read the books that have been recommended.
Some have suggested that this is evil. I don’t follow that line of thought. But I do feel there is similarity in how to fight it. Weeds only grow where they are allowed space. Darkness can only exist in the absence of light. If your bucket is full to the brim with good, there’s no room to slip in something bad. Don’t allow space for the weeds.
The rule of (at least) 51. If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to take care of others. Same concept of putting your air mask on first. You can’t rescue anyone if you’re passed out on the floor.
DBT is the way. Good news is it can definitely work to repair what is broken. (Potentially) Bad news is she has to want to and be open to it. Try to be sure to always frame it positively.
God bless you Brother. You have a lot of dudes here that love you and want to support and help. At the very, very least, you know you have a place to come to vent.
Lot of good stuff ITT, just want to share some personal observation. Not suggesting I know more than the next guy, just sharing in case it’s helpful to anyone.
(Not directed at OP, but some of the other comments) I’d advise to be careful on being so sure the suicide threats are always manipulation. Yes, that certainly happens a lot, but BPD has very high rates of attempts and success. I saw years of loud threats, some barely drawing blood “just let me bleed out”s, etc. But she hid and was sneaky when she actually did attempt. Pills. Threats were for me, the real attempts were for her. I have real guilt about not seeing things, possibly because I “knew” she’d never do it for real, and just being lucky she wasn’t good at it.
Something most of us will never understand is how absolutely devastating it is for them to perceive being abandoned. Makes even less sense when they actively and aggressively push “their people” away. Do everything you can to reinforce that she’s loved and you have her back when she’s not asking for it/acting out. Hopefully fill the void. Hug her. A lot. Just because. And despite her protests :D You can’t control whether she accepts it, you can only control whether you put it out there.
My wife calls it going dark. I don’t know if this is normal for everyone, but she would do everything she could to hide it. Shame, mostly. Which leads to feeling more isolated and make everything worse. It took a very long time for her to be willing to me know when things start going South. But we got finally got here. And it beats the hell out of getting blamed for not seeing things that are purposely being hidden from you ;)
I’m not that guy who’s going to say living right, diet & exercise solves everything. But I have a lot of experience that physical activity and eating right at least correlates with if not causes being “better”. Find a way to incorporate these, bonus points for making it quality family time.
Get therapy for the family with someone who knows bpd. She’s going to lash out. She’s going to figuratively blow things up, or literally set boxes on fire. She’s going to push your buttons. You need tools. Also, read the books that have been recommended.
Some have suggested that this is evil. I don’t follow that line of thought. But I do feel there is similarity in how to fight it. Weeds only grow where they are allowed space. Darkness can only exist in the absence of light. If your bucket is full to the brim with good, there’s no room to slip in something bad. Don’t allow space for the weeds.
The rule of (at least) 51. If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to take care of others. Same concept of putting your air mask on first. You can’t rescue anyone if you’re passed out on the floor.
DBT is the way. Good news is it can definitely work to repair what is broken. (Potentially) Bad news is she has to want to and be open to it. Try to be sure to always frame it positively.
God bless you Brother. You have a lot of dudes here that love you and want to support and help. At the very, very least, you know you have a place to come to vent.
This post was edited on 4/30/24 at 2:16 am
Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:27 am to Evil Little Thing
I never had children because I was afraid of having a child with some issue like BPD or Bi-polar or some such condition.
I didn’t get married until I was 30 and my wife already had 2.She kinda wanted to have another but I was really afraid to.
In my life experience I had come across too many people that had a child with serious problems.
I realize that children can be one of life’s greatest joys and many are.But at same time ,they can be one’s worst nightmare.You can’t just get rid of them like a problem dog,they’re your child forever.
One lady I worked with had 3 children,2 were normal good kids but 1 was an absolute monster and he ruined the lives of the rest of the family.She actually ended committing suicide after many years of dealing with him.
I didn’t get married until I was 30 and my wife already had 2.She kinda wanted to have another but I was really afraid to.
In my life experience I had come across too many people that had a child with serious problems.
I realize that children can be one of life’s greatest joys and many are.But at same time ,they can be one’s worst nightmare.You can’t just get rid of them like a problem dog,they’re your child forever.
One lady I worked with had 3 children,2 were normal good kids but 1 was an absolute monster and he ruined the lives of the rest of the family.She actually ended committing suicide after many years of dealing with him.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:38 am to Leotiger725
Yeah I don’t think you’re alone on that. The only thing I can add that I’ve picked up on from observation is to make a diligent effort to avoid yourself, other family, friends and anyone else to “tell her” she’s bad or this or that negative comments regarding this thing because the whole negative reinforcement and self-fulfilling prophecy (which has different names for it perhaps) - those concepts are very real and very meaningful/consequential. So I suppose to the contrary make all possible efforts to reinforce in her all sorts of positive thinking.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:22 am to Leotiger725
Sorry but she is probably a sociopath like you see and hear on tv shows like criminal minds. Sorry for the cards you were dealt.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:26 am to Leotiger725
Sorry bro. Your child old a sociopath.
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Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:53 am to Oneforthemoney
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Oneforthemoney
You’re kinda a piece of shite. Not that you care, kinda reminds me of a sociopath
Posted on 4/30/24 at 4:20 am to Leotiger725
I am bipolar. My sister was diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder). Our mother is bipolar as well. DBT therapy has helped my sister. I take Lexapro to control the drastic mood swings. Marijuana has helped us more than anything else though. I hope this helps.
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