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re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD
Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:27 am to Evil Little Thing
Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:27 am to Evil Little Thing
I never had children because I was afraid of having a child with some issue like BPD or Bi-polar or some such condition.
I didn’t get married until I was 30 and my wife already had 2.She kinda wanted to have another but I was really afraid to.
In my life experience I had come across too many people that had a child with serious problems.
I realize that children can be one of life’s greatest joys and many are.But at same time ,they can be one’s worst nightmare.You can’t just get rid of them like a problem dog,they’re your child forever.
One lady I worked with had 3 children,2 were normal good kids but 1 was an absolute monster and he ruined the lives of the rest of the family.She actually ended committing suicide after many years of dealing with him.
I didn’t get married until I was 30 and my wife already had 2.She kinda wanted to have another but I was really afraid to.
In my life experience I had come across too many people that had a child with serious problems.
I realize that children can be one of life’s greatest joys and many are.But at same time ,they can be one’s worst nightmare.You can’t just get rid of them like a problem dog,they’re your child forever.
One lady I worked with had 3 children,2 were normal good kids but 1 was an absolute monster and he ruined the lives of the rest of the family.She actually ended committing suicide after many years of dealing with him.
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Posted on 4/30/24 at 1:38 am to Leotiger725
Yeah I don’t think you’re alone on that. The only thing I can add that I’ve picked up on from observation is to make a diligent effort to avoid yourself, other family, friends and anyone else to “tell her” she’s bad or this or that negative comments regarding this thing because the whole negative reinforcement and self-fulfilling prophecy (which has different names for it perhaps) - those concepts are very real and very meaningful/consequential. So I suppose to the contrary make all possible efforts to reinforce in her all sorts of positive thinking.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:22 am to Leotiger725
Sorry but she is probably a sociopath like you see and hear on tv shows like criminal minds. Sorry for the cards you were dealt.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:26 am to Leotiger725
Sorry bro. Your child old a sociopath.
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Posted on 4/30/24 at 2:53 am to Oneforthemoney
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You’re kinda a piece of shite. Not that you care, kinda reminds me of a sociopath
Posted on 4/30/24 at 3:01 am to Boondock Saint
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Tough situation, but I can tell you what won't work. Prayer.
I am a non-religious person, agnostic on a good day an atheist on the rest, however, never tell a person of faith not to pray. Even if they are using it as the sole remedy you should only suggest that they pursue other means as well as prayer.
Telling someone not to pray in this situation robs them of two things:
1. As a person of faith if they do not pray and the outcome is not perfect in the long run then they have set themselves up for self-loathing later for not doing everything they could for their child.
2. Persons of faith derive strength and hope from the ritual of praying and if there is anything the OP and their spouse need now it is strength and hope.
Don't overlook the fact that it may be people like us that are wrong.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 4:20 am to Leotiger725
I am bipolar. My sister was diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder). Our mother is bipolar as well. DBT therapy has helped my sister. I take Lexapro to control the drastic mood swings. Marijuana has helped us more than anything else though. I hope this helps.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 6:40 am to Leotiger725
Appears she has conduct behavior disorder .. can’t diagnose someone with a personality disorder until they’re 18… guanfacine er is a med to look into. An adhd med that I use frequently for aggressive impulsive behavior
Posted on 4/30/24 at 6:54 am to Leotiger725
I was dating a woman that was very much like your daughter although she didn't like about stuff and wasn't criminal.
But, she would call me during my air shift (m-f 6p-11p) and say stuff like saying she was going to commit suicide and it would frighten me. I got off the air a 11pm but still had to cut spots, cart music and other production.
This could go on until midnight or longer.
But, she would call me during my air shift (m-f 6p-11p) and say stuff like saying she was going to commit suicide and it would frighten me. I got off the air a 11pm but still had to cut spots, cart music and other production.
This could go on until midnight or longer.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 6:58 am to Leotiger725
I’ve said a prayer for you, your child and your family. I’m sorry that you have this issue and pray for healing and help. God bless.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 7:21 am to Leotiger725
Without reading all the replies, I watched this last night. I'm so sorry for this and your family. Be sure to get several opinions and options. A misdiagnosis at an early age is easily done. please watch this video. it may open up some learnings for you and your daughter.
BPD Misdiagnosis
BPD Misdiagnosis
Posted on 4/30/24 at 8:25 am to Leotiger725
Dayum im sorry man. Some folks are just born with a screw loose. I might lock my door at night
Posted on 4/30/24 at 8:54 am to Leotiger725
The problem with BPD is that it can’t be “fixed” with medication. Sure they can mellow them out somewhat but the issues will always reappear because people with BPD are stuck in an emotional loop.
I would research local therapists who have specific work with BPD. I would also get a psychiatrist to determine if drugs might be an option. Sometimes the right cocktail of of drugs can have results, but mainly they don’t work with BPD.
The only thing that seems to “work” is a really good therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy. A person with BPD has to be made aware that they have this condition, recognize triggers, and have “tools in the toolbox” to work through it with minimal fallout to others.
As parents, I would suggest therapy as it can be a way to learn more about BPD, and how to establish firm boundaries with the BPD child. And also, it’s good to have a place to vent. I would also recommend therapy for any other kids as well. Remember that self care is very important.
BPD is the devil. And I a sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s your child so you have to do what you need to do.
I would research local therapists who have specific work with BPD. I would also get a psychiatrist to determine if drugs might be an option. Sometimes the right cocktail of of drugs can have results, but mainly they don’t work with BPD.
The only thing that seems to “work” is a really good therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy. A person with BPD has to be made aware that they have this condition, recognize triggers, and have “tools in the toolbox” to work through it with minimal fallout to others.
As parents, I would suggest therapy as it can be a way to learn more about BPD, and how to establish firm boundaries with the BPD child. And also, it’s good to have a place to vent. I would also recommend therapy for any other kids as well. Remember that self care is very important.
BPD is the devil. And I a sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s your child so you have to do what you need to do.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:09 am to Leotiger725
quote:I had a coworker with a similar problem. Younger teen daughter that he described as evil. Ended up getting a divorce because of her and the mother continually making excuses for her ever thought she treated her just as badly as him.
The fact of the matter is you cannot force someone to try and be a decent person if they are hellbent on doing the opposite. I never imagined things would get this bad. I cannot relate at all to her and her behavior, and neither can the rest of my family.
He was drinking one time and told me, “I’ve begun to hate her and I don’t think she can be saved.”
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:14 am to Leotiger725
Congrats on the psychopath
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:22 am to Leotiger725
Are you talking Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder (also BPD)??
If the latter? sheesh. You have to take into account the safety of other children in the home first and foremost.
Have you looked into boarding school?
If the latter? sheesh. You have to take into account the safety of other children in the home first and foremost.
Have you looked into boarding school?
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:26 am to TigerBaitOohHaHa
OP, it might be helpful to edit BPD to specify Borderline Personality Disorder so there are a bunch of unhelpful replies about bipolar.
Sorry you're going through this, sounds like you've made the right decision committing her. Hope it works out.
Sorry you're going through this, sounds like you've made the right decision committing her. Hope it works out.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:29 am to Leotiger725
I would seriously be googling an exorcist.
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Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:37 am to Leotiger725
We simply couldn't afford that option. Our insurance wasn't going to cover it and we were quoted over $50K/yr. We ended up in a local out patient therapy thing that was helpful, but honestly it wasn't until my son-in-law came into the picture that everything truly changed.
I pray that it works for yall.
I pray that it works for yall.
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:37 am to Ten Bears
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The problem with BPD is that it can’t be “fixed” with medication. Sure they can mellow them out somewhat but the issues will always reappear because people with BPD are stuck in an emotional loop.
I would research local therapists who have specific work with BPD. I would also get a psychiatrist to determine if drugs might be an option. Sometimes the right cocktail of of drugs can have results, but mainly they don’t work with BPD.
The only thing that seems to “work” is a really good therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy. A person with BPD has to be made aware that they have this condition, recognize triggers, and have “tools in the toolbox” to work through it with minimal fallout to others.
As parents, I would suggest therapy as it can be a way to learn more about BPD, and how to establish firm boundaries with the BPD child. And also, it’s good to have a place to vent. I would also recommend therapy for any other kids as well. Remember that self care is very important.
This is sound advice. I've been dealing with a family member with for 50+ years now. It's not easy. It's more a behavioral problem and not a chemical issue.
You have to develop patience like no other. When they have an episode, I've found to keep silent and let them vent and have their moment. be the bigger person and understand no sane person would act out this way. It's not easy especially when you see them hurting others. Pick your moments but never in the middle of them acting out.
The hardest part about Borderline is getting the person to admit they have a problem. The one I know has tried 5 different ones over the course of many years. It never works because they cannot except fault, wrongdoings, misconduct, etc. It's difficult. At the end of the day, it's you that has to change and accept how it is. Once you do that, you will find a little peace.
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