re: What happened to the cheating wife thread?

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he realized that he loves his wife and going to try to make it work.

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Bad choice

Funny how women always get a pass

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A wife cheating is deeper than the sex part. Sex is just the symptom of a larger issue. It's more about the "why?" and the painful answers that follow.

More importantly, it's the broken trust that will ultimately end this dude's marriage, no matter what earnest-but-temporary bandaids are applied. Every time she's hours late, or unreachable by phone, or gets a text, etc., no matter how innocent/benign, the dude will make himself (& her) miserable with the "Where've you been?", "Why didn't you answer?" & "Who's that?" pre-fight questions. It's irreparable now, no matter how long they fool each other that it's working.

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Yep. It ain't sex, it's attention.

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yep, 75% of the time when a spouse cheats its because they are they are missing something in the marriage

some people are just assholes and whores but most of the time if a guy cheats...its because he isnt getting any from the wife or she belittles him at all times so even when he is getting some, she makes him feel like shite and its usually only duty sex. These women usually are miserable people and spend tons of time on social media comparing themselves to others. They are always riding their husbands arse about something, no matter what. No matter how much he does, things around the house, things for the kids/her etc etc its never good enough for her. He finally gets tired of it and ends up cheating with someone that may not be as pretty but is softer, quieter, nicer, and serves him.


if wife cheats, it may be he sucks in bed(usually one of the causes) and usually he doesnt even date her, communicate with her, and 99.99% of the time the sense of security across the board is broken. Usually its a combo of all these. Husband ignores her most of the day, his idea of sex time is rolling over and asking for it randomly, then she ends up never satisfied both sexually and emotionally. Usually guys like this think because they provide, thats all they should have to do and their wife should swoon over them just because. Wife usually falls for someone that shows them attention and actually allows them to talk and flirts with them so it makes the women feel special.


TLDR: dont be a dick and treat your spouse like you are just starting to date no matter how long you have been together.

So what was his last post about his marriage before it was deleted?

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4. Posted a pic in thread at 2am with wife’s boyfriend’s cock in his mouth and thread got scrubbed

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And I missed it. God DAMMIT!

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Wrong. It's both actually. There are people like me that could never get over the visual too. So it's most certainly about both. So while it may be some emotional disconnect for her that caused it, I can't ever forget or forgive the sex.

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They are talking about what it is from the woman’s perspective, not the man’s.

It’s 100% correct. Wives who cheat rarely do it solely to get laid. It almost always starts with an emotional connection with another man, or a lack of emotional connection with their husband causes them to jump into bed with someone they believe will emotionally connect with them.

If your wife cheats and you are willing to try to save the marriage, this is important to know. You can’t assume her motivations are the same as yours. If you focus on the sex (understandable because that’s what makes you feel most betrayed), you might underestimate the more dangerous emotional component that lead her to another man in the first place.

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Wrong. It's both actually. There are people like me that could never get over the visual too. So it's most certainly about both. So while it may be some emotional disconnect for her that caused it, I can't ever forget or forgive the sex.

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uhh yea im with you. sorry but if my wife cheats....im not getting over it. the imaginary visual, the overall feeling of betrayal that comes with that etc etc

sorry not getting over it. Im done.

its the same reason i could never have a threesome with my wife, guy or girl, same reason I would never cheat...i would never want to put that visual and burden on someone i love.



one thing i never understood is the spouses that are unwilling to work on the way they treat their spouse but will go out and have an affair, essentially putting same effort it would have taken into someone new.

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They are talking about what it is from the woman’s perspective, not the man’s.

It’s 100% correct. Wives who cheat rarely do it solely to get laid. It almost always starts with an emotional connection with another man, or a lack of emotional connection with their husband causes them to jump into bed with someone they believe will emotionally connect with them.

If your wife cheats and you are willing to try to save the marriage, this is important to know. You can’t assume her motivations are the same as yours. If you focus on the sex (understandable because that’s what makes you feel most betrayed), you might underestimate the more dangerous emotional component that lead her to another man in the first place.

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usually it starts with the sense of security being broken. That doesnt mean what guys think as in the women doesnt feel safe...it can mean that but also may mean she doesnt feel like he follows through with things , he may push all decision making on to her, may make fun of her behind her back, etc etc

usally this happens because communication sucks, usually from both parties.

then they start feeling emotionally unsafe, emotionally unheard etc etc then that leads to accepting of flirts being shown towards her...then onto physical touch etc etc

the physical act of sex, is the culmination of a multitude of failures of the spouse along the way.

atleast 75% of the time. Not always the case, but every time i have seen someone cheat that wasnt just a whore...this was the issue.

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Post history, username

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ah duh. That makes sense. I'm a tard.

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Pretty sure he claimed to live within a couple of miles of Live Oak High School -

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This. It was in his post about power outages I urged him to delete it, obviously afterwards he realized he was most likely busted.

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This. It was in his post about power outages I urged him to delete it, obviously afterwards he realized he was most likely busted.

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How was the realtor post related to him? Someone made a joke about using a particular realtor and another poster told him to delete that and he did. Her initials were LH.