re: For men who are still married

Been married 19 years. I couldn't imagine living alone so I would absolutely do it again.

I always had plenty of ME time even when my kids were young. I got to hunt and fish when I wanted, and it only got better when my son was old enough to tag along.

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Would you do it again?

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yeah, my kids were/are worth it.

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How much of ME time do you get before/after kids?

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i got plenty of ME time before but I recognize that by the time "after" i'll be an old man and probably just miss my time with them.

Marry her again in a hot second.

Hope she'd say the same.

My wife I would marry again in a heartbeat.
Other women, not so much.
Choose wisely.

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Would you do it again?

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Absolutely

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Are married men actually happy?

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Absolutely

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How much of ME time do you get before/after kids?

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Usually either Saturday or Sunday I’ll spend the day in my model room working on my models. This isn’t every weekend of course because we like to travel or just go galavanting. But I get so much vacation time it’s common for me to take a day or two to unwind building a model. This weekend is a prime example. Tomorrow I’m burning a vacation day. I’ll work on a model until my wife and daughter get home from school and work. That’s when we’ll load up and drive to Gatlinburg for a long weekend. So tomorrow I’ll get my “me” time, which I love. Then from tomorrow evening until next Tuesday I’ll be with my wife and daughter, which I also love.

My wife died many years ago. I met her in third grade. She got married at 17. We were bar buddies for years. She came to my door looking for a clean bathroom. I wound up teaching her calculus. Her picture still sits beside my bed.

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Would you do it again?

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Yes. I love my wife, and I plan to be married to her forever. My past isn’t the best, so I can’t say I made the “best” choice for me at the time. Not to say things haven’t worked out, but if you’re pressing me to say I’d marry my wife again, I’m not sure. I probably would have left Alabama after high school if I had any sense of my own identity at the time. Maybe fate would have brought us together anyway.

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Are married men actually happy?

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Pretty much. I’m certainly not unhappy. The responsibilities and costs of having kids put a lot of stress on me, but I’m fulfilled. Responsibility gives life meaning. Though it does get a bit old how many nights my wife and I are too tired to really do anything after the kids go to bed.

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How much of ME time do you get before/after kids?

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In general? Before kids, I did whatever I wanted when I wanted. After kids, it’s constrained but I take care of my needs. I work out. I watch movies or tv shows. I read. I hike. I hang out with friends. I go out and have hobbies. A side job.

It’s just not as unregulated as it was before kids. I can’t just hop up and leave to go play music with a buddy on a Tuesday night. Also, a lot of my “me” time is spent willfully with my kids. I coach my son’s soccer team. I don’t see that as some kind of chore. It’s fun and a choice I made.

If you're asking if I had an opportunity to start my life back over would I get married again, 100% yes.

I would not get married a second time because I feel that my current family has earned the right to the change in my pocket and my favorite recliner when I pass away without the complications that a step widow would cause.

Just go sit in your local bar at happy hour and see those happy old men with nothing to go home to if you think single life is great.

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Would you do it again?

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Unquestionably.

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Are married men actually happy?

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I am. I am sure some are not.

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How much of ME time do you get before/after kids?

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I don't have kids so I cannot comment.

As I write this, I am typing from my get away house while the wife is at the beach house...this is my normal every 2 week schedule for 3-4 days every stay.