Lesbian Couple Who Sought Female Embryo Sues Fertility Clinic Over Male Boy….

Posted on 3/27/22 at 5:51 pm

Posted by Toomer Deplorable

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Posted on 3/27/22 at 5:51 pm

I pity this poor boy.

Anyone carrying around this much deep-seated hate and severe mental dysfunction must have minimal maternal instinct.

Imagine the trauma, drama and mental abuse this child will face over his lifetime?

NY POST

After Heather found out she was expecting a boy, she said she became depressed and had suicidal ideations.

….At our 15-week appointment with our OB-GYN, the doctor went to check the results of the QNatal test [a diagnostic blood test to rule out chromosomal abnormalities which also discloses the baby’s sex]. She said, “Wait, do you know the sex of the baby?”

“We’re having a girl,” I said. “It’s very important to me to have a girl.”

She said, “That’s not what this says … “

Our jaws dropped to the floor. I was convinced it had to be someone else’s result.

I looked at Robbie and said, “What’s if it’s not yours — who is in my body?!” That’s when I flipped out, that’s when I felt my body was taken hostage. I assumed it was someone else’s embryo, not the wrong embryo of ours.

We scheduled an ultrasound for the next day. That was the worst night of my life. I had this overwhelming sense of immobility. I remember lying in my bedroom, thinking, “This can’t be happening!” Not only was the baby in my body not ours, but the baby in my body was male and he was put there against my will, just like rape.

It scared the s–t out of me. I don’t know how to explain this — it felt like there was an alien living inside of me.

When we retrieved both of our eggs for IVF, we were 35 and considered advanced maternal age. We wanted to minimize the risk of anything going wrong, so the clinic recommended genetic testing of the embryos. We selected CNY because they agreed we would be able to select female embryos. We never intended to use the males.

We didn’t want to have a boy because of the assaults and because of the socialization of boys — there’s constant socialization of what it means to be a “real man.” People say, “Oh, he’s a boy, let him hit you,” and all the camouflage and guns don’t help. It reinforces masculinity, and that’s a reminder of the assaults every time.

After we found out I was carrying a boy, the internal investigation to determine whose embryo it was took seven weeks. I was convinced the whole time it wasn’t ours because the clinic knew not to transfer a male: It wasn’t a preference, it was a need.

During that time, I had no connection to the baby inside — I figured I would be giving it away to its real parents. I tried not to think about being pregnant.

Seven weeks later we got an email that this was our embryo. It was indeed male and it was indeed related to Robbie. No one else had our baby: There was no female baby coming. It brought up the loss of our first baby, like she died again.

I was so furious. It felt like a deep betrayal. How the f–k do you mess up that bad? They messed up something so integral; the fact that there are no legal requirements about these procedures should strike fear in the hearts of all parents using fertility services.

Meanwhile, our family and friends were all so happy. Nobody understood the complexity of my feelings. That was the most isolating thing — that we had a healthy baby, but I had no emotional connection and now I had to wrap my head around having a child forever that I wasn’t planning on.

The whole pregnancy, I couldn’t connect to the baby. I hate saying that. It’s painful. It was a terrible experience.

I started experiencing extreme anxiety. I would look at the baby and it would contort into the faces of all these grown men that I know. It was so creepy. Whenever that happened, I had to give the baby to Robbie.

I literally thought I was going insane. There were several incidences of suicidal ideation, some of which were very dangerous. I had complex postpartum depression….