Your friend/brother is marrying a complete bitch

There's no winning in these situations.

Lose a buddy or have his SO hate you forever... I'd keep my mouth shut and grit my teeth in social situations.

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If thus has happened to you, did you let your buddy know what you thought?

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Nah, we can be miserable together at the bar avoiding our families this way.

Yeah no winning.
If you say something the chick will find out and just not allow your friend to hangout with you any more.

And there's only like a 2% chance what you say will work anyway.

This happened to my best friend years ago. I kept my mouth shut and they were married for almost 20 years and have two awesome daughters

My best friend in high school dated a complete bitch. All of our friends hated her. She didn't care for any of us. I never said shite to him. We were bros, I wasn't going to talk shite about her to him.

He ended up realizing she was a bitch on his own and broke up with her. Had I said something, would it have made a difference? Maybe, maybe not.

Depends on the friend/brother. If he doesn't see that she's a bitch (apparent since he's marrying her), is he going to see it if you point it out to him? Or are you going to piss the dude off for pointing out that she is a bitch?

Yes. She's, eh... let's put it this way - our collective goal as groomsman is to help him realize during the Bachelor Party that he's happier without her & to call off the wedding.

She sucks that much.

All my friends and most of my family made it clear they didn’t like my first wife. I didn’t listen, and 3 years later was divorced. Ended up being the best thing for me because my wife now is awesome. I would tell him, but at the end of the day, it’s his decision.

I’m still friends with all of them that told me they didn’t like her and i am still close with my family. If he’s a true friend he won’t let y’all friendship end because of your opinion about the person he’s going to marry.

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did you let your buddy know what you thought?

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no. my best friend married the biggest bitch i had ever met. nothing i could have said would have changed his mind.

they've been divorced for over 20 years now. he is a much happier person

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If your friend is marrying a complete bitch then she's only a complete bitch in your head. Not in his. He loves her and is happy with her.

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Possibly, but that's definitely not always the case.

Lots of guys (and girls) end up marrying someone for the wrong reasons.

If everyone married someone who they truly love and are truly happy with, then surely divorce rates would be lower.

Let him know, but do it in a kind way. Don't say, "Dude, your old lady's a bitch". You wait until they've had a fight or she's done something awful and say something like, "You're my friend and I think you deserve better than the way she treats you." It'll be enough to plant a seed. He might be having doubts and hearing someone else say it might be the push he needs.

Or he'll ignore you, marry her anyway, have 3 kids with her and owe her a shite ton of alimony after the divorce. Then you can say, "Welp, I tried to tell ya!"