re: Would you tell your friend if his significant other is going to destroy him?

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prefer an older rich guy

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same

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If they were already married, I would say stay out if it, but since he is not I would tell him, especially if he was a close friend.

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I agree with this. I'd only do it for one of my best friends though, and have in the past.

My old roommate in college and one of my absolute best friends in the world...he was dating this chick and we all really didn't like her and thought she treated him like shite. So they got engaged and on his bachelor party I pulled him aside and talked to him as a friend. Basically told him that I (we) wasn't sure if she was right for him and wanted to make sure that this was whom he wanted to marry. And he looked me straight in the eye and said he appreciated me talking to him, and that he loved her completely and this was the girl for him. And I said I can accept that and I am happy for him.

We moved forward, never spoke of it again, and it didn't really affect our friendship at all. That was almost 20 years ago and they are still married with three kids, and I couldn't be happier for him.

it's hard for guys. especially younger guys to see beyond the pedestal.

I told my best friend that his fiancé would cheat on him based on her past actions. He married her anyway. she cheated, they divorced and she married the guy she cheated with.

It took some time for us to get back to where were but, we'll still close 40 yrs later. but, i've seen that go the opposite way as well.

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90% of women want 1% of men. 90% of men want 70% of women. Guys who get themselves into that situation will always lose, hot wife or average wife.

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Good point if your wife/girlfriend is willing to bang a random guy she sees something in him. Women can have random sex anytime they want.

It's terrible, but my experience is to stay out of it. 2 examples for you:

- Had a friend we advised girlfriend was cheating on him. He confronted her and she confessed to everything and he stayed with her. Not too long after that they got married and the group of friends that told him what she was doing was not even invited to the wedding. Haven't talked to him since.

- One guy had his wife cheating on him and she got pregnant with another guy. He lost his mind and a group of us tried to help him out, take him out to diner, help take care of his kids.... He takes her back, accepts the kid, drops us and we haven't spoken since.

Upset me typing this out remembering this stuff with old friends but hey 3 things undefeated. Time, Taxes, & P*ssy.

If it’s a random friend stay out of it. If it’s a close friend expect them to not care and it could hurt your friendship. Also it’s more than likely you’ll look like the bad guy over the broad even though you’re trying to be a good friend.

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One guy had his wife cheating on him and she got pregnant with another guy. He lost his mind and a group of us tried to help him out, take him out to diner, help take care of his kids.... He takes her back, accepts the kid, drops us and we haven't spoken since.

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What a cuck


That happened to my cousin his wife cheated she confessed and told him she was pregnant. Did a pregnancy dna test wasn’t his and left worst part they met in church. She was also a whore before joining that church.

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Would you tell your friend if his significant other is going to destroy him?

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If he is a real friend he will listen advice and/or concerns because he knows that I am doing it out of concern for him. I would expect my friends to do the same. He might not choose to disregard my advice and/or concerns and that is on him.

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Basically she said she was settling with him

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A woman settles every time a man "out kicks his coverage" that in itself is not a concerning statement.

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would prefer an older rich guy but had to accept what she had. She doesn’t want to work and prefers to be taken care of.

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Sounds like she is panning for gold just like most women.

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Meanwhile my friend is working his arse off paying all the bills

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Respectable

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she shames him for not making enough.

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If she can't live off whatever her man makes and appreciate her man for working his arse off to support her then he needs to run away. Not walk away. Run away.

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He’s a really great guy, one of the nicest most genuine people I’ve ever known. I usually stay out of other people relationships

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He is your friend. You are not being a good friend if you do not tell him your concerns.

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My feelings in no but my wife tells me I should.

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Your feelings are wrong and your wife is right.

When I was working in Russia years ago an American work colleague started dating an age appropriate Russian lady who was a real babe. I met her and saw she was more interested in marrying his American passport than she was in marrying him.

He proposed to her, gave her a ring and then started having second thoughts before he pulled the trigger and married her.

One day at lunch he asked me if I thought he was making a mistake marrying Svetlana. I just said, "Yes."

He was crushed and then he got angry. About two months later he told me he broke off the engagement partly because of my answer to his question.

He didn't marry her and over the years he has probably thanked me a dozen times for being honest with him with my answer to his question.

Take that for what it's worth...which is probably nothing.