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re: Would you be okay with your wife dancing with another guy?
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:30 am to RedRifle
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:30 am to RedRifle
Any woman who goes to a girls weekend or girls night out without you doesn't respect you.
Rollo Tomassi has a great article about the "GNO" aka the "Girls Night Out"
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TLDR, if a woman wants to go on a girl's night out or a girl's weekend without you, its not a good thing. If she actually respected you and feared losing you she wouldn't go. It's an implied boundary. Because ultimately women go on "girls night outs" to live vicariously through their single friends. They don't go just to hang out with their girlfriends, they go to be around other men.
However if she wants to go on one there is nothing you can do. It's best to just let her go and act like you give no fricks about it. Your silence and lack of caring one bit will ultimately cause her to feel the guilt. If you go full mate guard and try to tell her what she can and can't do it will only strengthen her decision to go and make her more likely to cheat on you out of spite because she feels you are too possessive and clingy.
Rollo Tomassi has a great article about the "GNO" aka the "Girls Night Out"
LINK /
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“You do know what happens when your girlfriend ‘gets drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..’?!!” Yes, I’ve been the guy who nailed your girlfriend.
“You do know that ‘taken’ girls just want to live vicariously through their single girlfriends?” I’ve written volumes about it.
In fact, in doing so the frame automatically transfers to a woman the moment you become possessive, because you confirm for her that you lack the confidence to generate new options (i.e stimulate competition anxiety) – to be a man that other women would desperately want should she decide to cheat. You must be a Man that your GF/Wife doesn’t want to cheat on.
Sometimes a woman can’t appreciate this because she’s too immature to get it, but you have to be the Man confident enough to say “do what you want” while communicating higher value. As I’ve stated before, when your silence inspires more dread than your words, you’re probably an Alpha.
A lot of guys have a real tough time with possessiveness. What they tend to overlook is the element of desire. If you’ve got a girl who want’s to go off with the girls to Vegas for a weekend the operative in the whole situation is that she WANTS to go. While I do understand the necessity of ‘mate protection’ this desire is already established BEFORE you issue any ultimatum (which is a declaration of powerlessness). If she had a fear of loss to begin with she would’ve passed on the trip because she had a genuine desire to do so. In fact considering it wouldn’t even be an afterthought.
TLDR, if a woman wants to go on a girl's night out or a girl's weekend without you, its not a good thing. If she actually respected you and feared losing you she wouldn't go. It's an implied boundary. Because ultimately women go on "girls night outs" to live vicariously through their single friends. They don't go just to hang out with their girlfriends, they go to be around other men.
However if she wants to go on one there is nothing you can do. It's best to just let her go and act like you give no fricks about it. Your silence and lack of caring one bit will ultimately cause her to feel the guilt. If you go full mate guard and try to tell her what she can and can't do it will only strengthen her decision to go and make her more likely to cheat on you out of spite because she feels you are too possessive and clingy.
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Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:32 am to chrome_daddy
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No, because you trust her. And you bang her regularly. She loves you. It was just dancing.
Besides, if you were there like usual, she'd have been dancing with you.
If you are worried, then either you are insecure or you are not close with your woman.
Do you know why women go to clubs?
It's not to hang out with their girlfriends.
If your woman goes on a girl's night out - there are millions of places they can go to.
So why go to a club?
I'll let you answer that question
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:33 am to goldennugget
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TLDR
And...
you are either a pretty solid troll or are a completely wackadoodle virgin.
This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 5:35 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:36 am to Bayoumike
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you are either a pretty solid troll or are a a completely wackadoodle virgin.
It's funny how you retards always resort to ad hominems and name calling, and never actually point to what was wrong out of what I said.
It's because you know I am right, you just don't want it to be right, because you guys are options-less losers who are stuck in relationships in which you have no leverage
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:45 am to chrome_daddy
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No, because you trust her. And you bang her regularly. She loves you. It was just dancing.
Besides, if you were there like usual, she'd have been dancing with you.
If you are worried, then either you are insecure or you are not close with your woman.
GTFO with that new-age hippie nonsense
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:45 am to slackster
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If my wife is on an all-girls trip to Miami and dancing with multiple men in the club, I'm envisioning something like this...
Was halfway through the thread and was thinking the exact same thing. Was about to jump to the end and post.
Dancing is one thing, however I would be concerned that she couldn't contain herself for a night or two. Dancing is an intimate act with bodies and nether-regions sliding against each other. I don't want strange guys junk rubbing on the thigh belonging to the mother of my children, and hands feeling on her lower back / arse. That shits for me.
R-Kelly bump and grinding is not okay, at all. One could argue, that is not "dancing".
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:54 am to patchesohoulihan_007
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Was halfway through the thread and was thinking the exact same thing. Was about to jump to the end and post.
Dancing is one thing, however I would be concerned that she couldn't contain herself for a night or two. Dancing is an intimate act with bodies and nether-regions sliding against each other. I don't want strange guys junk rubbing on the thigh belonging to the mother of my children, and hands feeling on her lower back / arse. That shits for me.
R-Kelly bump and grinding is not okay, at all. One could argue, that is not "dancing".
Which is the whole point
Women don't go to clubs, especially in Miami or Las Vegas, to simply sit at the bar and just hang out with their girlfriends.
They go to grind up against other men and flirt with them and see how high value of a man they can get attention from. And if the man plays his cards right he will take her to a place where "well we had a drink... one thing led to another and .... it just happened... it totally not my fault though! It just happened! It's nothing! It means nothing! It was meaningless sex! I love you and you only! I made a mistake! It was rape! Yeah! That's what happened! I got raped! I didn't actually want it!"
Posted on 4/13/17 at 5:58 am to goldennugget
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how you retards always resort to ad hominems and name calling,
So, you're a troll then?
You want me to address your silly argument? Fine. Your "implied boundary" argument sounds like it was written by someone who has never been in a relationship.
You set boundaries through honest communication in the relationship, not by making the partner guess or infer and then you responding by issuing various levels of negative reinforcement until they learn how to "respect" you. Besides, It's absolutely impossible to have an "implied boundary" because each relationship is different, borne and fostered under different circumstances.
Drawing a line in the sand after your partner's unknowingly crossed it is a good strategy for a frustrating and failed relationship.
This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 6:02 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:02 am to Bayoumike
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You set boundaries through honest communication in the relationship, not by making the partner guess or infer and then issuing various levels of negative reinforcement until they learn how to "respect" you. Besides, It's absolutely impossible to have an "implied boundary" because each relationship is different, borne and fostered under different circumstances.
Some boundaries are implied whether you like it or not.
"Dont have sex with other men" - Do you think this is one that needs "honest communication" to get across? I mean this one should be pretty obvious and implied.
There are some boundaries that perhaps do need to be communicated. But then there are the blatantly obvious ones... "Don't frick other guys" or "Don't grind up against men at clubs" that don't even need to be mentioned because they are common sense standard boundaries.
Again... if your woman thinks its perfectly OK to go to a club without you, and dance with other men... something is wrong. It means she doesn't respect you and thinks she can do better. A woman who actually loves you, is attracted to you, respects you and wants to keep you would not find a girls night out without you at a club appealing. Therefore she would not consider it.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:06 am to RedRifle
What kinda dancing? We talking tango, square, slow dance, or bumping and grinding?
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:12 am to RedRifle
that's how affairs start
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:14 am to goldennugget
I refuse to address your reductio ad absurdum.
My point was that assuming that thinking that you have a bunch of "implied boundaries" in your relationship is setting yourself up for eventual crushing disappointment
...or it's a tool for manipulating your partner into compliance by fear alone, which will also end poorly.
Good luck with that.
My point was that assuming that thinking that you have a bunch of "implied boundaries" in your relationship is setting yourself up for eventual crushing disappointment
...or it's a tool for manipulating your partner into compliance by fear alone, which will also end poorly.
Good luck with that.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:21 am to Evil Little Thing
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Ex-H would've thought it was hot. Current BF would rage. There has to be a middle ground between cuck & insane jealousy, but I haven't found it.
I'm your huckleberry.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:21 am to Mung
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If you don't trust your wife, you shouldn't be married to her.
I trust my wife but I don't trust the hard legs she's dancing with. Those "honorable" gentlemen hear "I'm married" at some point and don't say, "Well madam, out of respect for your marriage let's keep three feet between us". Then there's the inevitable presence of the one friend trying to get laid who needs a buddy slut. Add alcohol and even the most trusting woman can end up sucking a random dick in a hotel room.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:21 am to Bayoumike
37+ years married and I can count the times my wife went out without me on one hand. And on that one hand, when she went out, it was with other family.
In fact, I had to force her to go do dinner just last Monday night with friends and family without me.
Now, out with her and her dancing with another guy, I never had a problem with it.
In fact, I had to force her to go do dinner just last Monday night with friends and family without me.
Now, out with her and her dancing with another guy, I never had a problem with it.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:22 am to goldennugget
You should have your own reality show.
So, you think men shouldn't get guy's weekends? I go on guy's weekends all the time. To the hunting/fishing camp, sporting events, etc.. is that disrespectful to my wife? Or is that just the alpha way. Who gives a frick how she feels about it. I'm so pumped with my rock hard bod after going to the gym, that I can get any chick I want due to her primal desire to frick me. So I know she'll be waiting at home on her hands and knees dehydrated because she lost all her moisture to her panties.
My wife goes have dinner and drinks with friends. I go grab drinks after work sometimes. That's incredibly normal. I couldn't imagine having to be attached at the hip to her for my entire life no matter how much I love her.
Now dancing with guys......I'm sure she's aware of the line. Group of girls dancing next to a group of guys is one thing. Jamming a chubbed up dong in her arse to the beat of the music is another.
So, you think men shouldn't get guy's weekends? I go on guy's weekends all the time. To the hunting/fishing camp, sporting events, etc.. is that disrespectful to my wife? Or is that just the alpha way. Who gives a frick how she feels about it. I'm so pumped with my rock hard bod after going to the gym, that I can get any chick I want due to her primal desire to frick me. So I know she'll be waiting at home on her hands and knees dehydrated because she lost all her moisture to her panties.
My wife goes have dinner and drinks with friends. I go grab drinks after work sometimes. That's incredibly normal. I couldn't imagine having to be attached at the hip to her for my entire life no matter how much I love her.
Now dancing with guys......I'm sure she's aware of the line. Group of girls dancing next to a group of guys is one thing. Jamming a chubbed up dong in her arse to the beat of the music is another.
This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 6:24 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:25 am to goldennugget
Serious question have you touched a boob since you stopped nursing?
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:28 am to RedRifle
Fiancee would probably be more uncomfortable with it than me tbh. But if she wasnt, hell to the na
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:30 am to Mo Jeaux
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Yes
This & my wife wouldn't
Posted on 4/13/17 at 6:34 am to jonboy
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Then there's the inevitable presence of the one friend trying to get laid who needs a buddy slut. Add alcohol and even the most trusting woman can end up sucking a random dick in a hotel room.
As I pointed out.... most women live vicariously through their single friends. A woman in a relationship or marriage who is not satisfied will try to get a taste of her single friends' lives, and the taste will turn into a full on multi course meal.
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