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re: Would you be okay with your wife dancing with another guy?
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:44 am to chrome_daddy
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:44 am to chrome_daddy
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No, because you trust her. And you bang her regularly. She loves you. It was just dancing.
Besides, if you were there like usual, she'd have been dancing with you.
If you are worried, then either you are insecure or you are not close with your woman.
I'll remind her of that next time I go out and grind my dick on some randos at the bar.
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Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:45 am to goldennugget
Yeah I don't dress up to go to clubs like I did when I was young and single. I mean...I like to dress cute and look pretty.....but I'm not trying to seek out male attention. I'm not a troll though...so I'm used to getting attention from other males when I go out. If a guy offers to buy me a drink or tries to chat with me...I'm very polite. However, I let them know I'm married very early on in the conversation and I politely turn any guy down that tries to buy me a drink(I will point out my single friends in the group with me if the guy is attractive). It's not like a guy starts chatting with me and I quickly flash my left hand and yell "MARRIED" in his face(that is just rude). I'm capable of conversing with others. But I know how to let them know in the conversation early on that I'm not available.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:46 am to RedRifle
If you can't trust your wife, then it sounds like you already have underlying issues.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:46 am to goldennugget
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Are you telling me if you went out on a GIRLS NIGHT OUT with your girlfriends and Brad Pitt and Ryan Gosling invited you and you alone to hang out with them in a VIP room you would say no thanks?
Legit yes. I would turn it down. Flirting & small talk make me uncomfortable in that setting. Always.
That said, I can't tell you the last time I went to a dance club. I think this means I'm afraid of my boyfriend.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:48 am to goldennugget
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Are you telling me if you went out on a GIRLS NIGHT OUT with your girlfriends and Brad Pitt and Ryan Gosling invited you and you alone to hang out with them in a VIP room you would say no thanks?
I'm sorry Brad Pitt and Ryan Gosling pulled an Eiffel Tower on your wife in the VIP room of some bar.
This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 8:49 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:52 am to lsunurse
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Yeah I don't dress up to go to clubs like I did when I was young and single. I mean...I like to dress cute and look pretty.....but I'm not trying to seek out male attention. I'm not a troll though...so I'm used to getting attention from other males when I go out. If a guy offers to buy me a drink or tries to chat with me...I'm very polite. However, I let them know I'm married very early on in the conversation and I politely turn any guy down that tries to buy me a drink(I will point out my single friends in the group with me if the guy is attractive). It's not like a guy starts chatting with me and I quickly flash my left hand and yell "MARRIED" in his face(that is just rude). I'm capable of conversing with others. But I know how to let them know in the conversation early on that I'm not available.
I don't bother with married women, but I have had many girls I have met while out tell me they have a boyfriend(who isn't there, since its a GIRLS NIGHT OUT) and I ended up making out with them or fricking them anyway. They'd be all dolled up, wearing short skin tight dresses that basically screamed "frick ME" and sought out the male attention, all while the good little chump boyfriend was at home or wherever he was.
My experiences tell me you are an exception and not the norm, especially when it comes to unmarried women. It's all about respect but as men there is nothing we can do. If a woman makes the decision to cheat on you there is nothing that can be done. She will do it and be especially motivated to do it if you show signs of clingyness or possessiveness.
Hell 2 of my plates in Seattle even had boyfriends. But if they were so satisfied with their boyfriends why did they need me? Because those boyfriends didn't satisfy them sexually. They were with them for the resources and emotional support.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:53 am to Evil Little Thing
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Legit yes. I would turn it down. Flirting & small talk make me uncomfortable in that setting. Always.
Same.
This guy seriously must have been fricked over by some woman....he really assumes all women are this certain way. He clearly has no clue.
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That said, I can't tell you the last time I went to a dance club.
I go MAYBE twice a year. It's not my decision to go...it's usually a group of my single gfs that organize a large girls night out. I mean....I have fun with my friends, but I could NOT go on a regular basis there. I prefer going someplace where I can actually sit and just have a couple of drinks. Not have to deal with super packed crowds and pushing your way to a bar to get a drink. I'm too old for all that tbh.
Half the music they play to dance to I don't really know. I have gone dancing at clubs where it was 80s or 90s music night...now that was fun. Honestly...I usually leave the club around 12 while the rest of my friends walk to a few more until 2 am.This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 8:54 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:54 am to lsunurse
I like to watch my GF get plowed by strange BBC at Collette's. Dancing would just piss me off.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:55 am to goldennugget
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I don't bother with married women, but I have had many girls I have met while out tell me they have a boyfriend(who isn't there, since its a GIRLS NIGHT OUT) and I ended up making out with them or fricking them anyway
I legit lol'd.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:57 am to lsunurse
After I posted that, I remembered that I've been to bars with cover bands where people were dancing in the past couple years, so I suppose that counts :)
As long as you fear your husband enough, I think you're all good! You'll never leave him if you're afraid. That's the takeaway I'm getting from nugget. Don't stay for love; stay for fear.
As long as you fear your husband enough, I think you're all good! You'll never leave him if you're afraid. That's the takeaway I'm getting from nugget. Don't stay for love; stay for fear.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 8:59 am to Evil Little Thing
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As long as you fear your husband enough, I think you're all good! You'll never leave him if you're afraid. That's the takeaway I'm getting from nugget. Don't stay for love; stay for fear.
Point -> Your Head
When I say fear its not fear of him physically. It's the fear of losing him as a companion and fear of the thought of life without him at your side.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:00 am to goldennugget
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I don't bother with married women,
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My experiences tell me you are an exception and not the norm, especially when it comes to unmarried women.
There is a huge difference in the status of marriage, whether you acknowledge it or not. When you say dating, that could mean a lot of things. Dating for two weeks, casually dating, not that serious, etc. Marriage is marriage, and while that doesn't mean a lot to some people, the one's who take marriage seriously (if you're with someone who doesn't you need to get out anyway) then you shouldn't be worried about your SO fricking others.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:00 am to Evil Little Thing
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As long as you fear your husband enough, I think you're all good! You'll never leave him if you're afraid. That's the takeaway I'm getting from nugget. Don't stay for love; stay for fear.
What a sad way to go through life. If I thought my wife feared me, I'd be devestated.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:01 am to goldennugget
I have hung out with two types of women. The ones you are describing certainly were fun in college, but you are right, they craved male attention. You did not date them since you knew they were looking for that attention when you were there or not. Most had serious issues. But they tended to be very good looking since their entire existence was looking good to get guys attention in the bar.
The other type of girl had fun in the bar, but didn't cry if her friend hooked up and she didnt. She actually had some self worth. Was still good looking, but not so self absorbed. Latched onto those girls when I had a chance and eventually married one. I can promise you many girls do just like to get drunk and dance. Go to a wedding and you'll see the BFF circles forming. So it's not unrealistic for them to go to a club and do the same.
From your posts, you appear to be the self absorbed male equivalent of the daddy issue sluts I knew in college. You probably only see the value in the girl putting it all out there because that's all you know. You've become cynical since you are so used to those girls. You don't know everything. You only know about the girls that fall for the douchey shite you do
The other type of girl had fun in the bar, but didn't cry if her friend hooked up and she didnt. She actually had some self worth. Was still good looking, but not so self absorbed. Latched onto those girls when I had a chance and eventually married one. I can promise you many girls do just like to get drunk and dance. Go to a wedding and you'll see the BFF circles forming. So it's not unrealistic for them to go to a club and do the same.
From your posts, you appear to be the self absorbed male equivalent of the daddy issue sluts I knew in college. You probably only see the value in the girl putting it all out there because that's all you know. You've become cynical since you are so used to those girls. You don't know everything. You only know about the girls that fall for the douchey shite you do
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:04 am to goldennugget
Wait. Are you threatening to shoot me now?
I'm just fricking around on here. I think you take yourself very seriously, which kind of sparks a mocking antagonistic trigger in me.
I get what you're saying, but I don't really find it applicable across the board. It's entirely possible for a woman to fear losing a partner because she loves him, not because she fears she can't do better. I fear losing a parent or a sibling because I love them and don't want to imagine life without them. That is how I've entered romantic relationships, as well.
I'm just fricking around on here. I think you take yourself very seriously, which kind of sparks a mocking antagonistic trigger in me.
I get what you're saying, but I don't really find it applicable across the board. It's entirely possible for a woman to fear losing a partner because she loves him, not because she fears she can't do better. I fear losing a parent or a sibling because I love them and don't want to imagine life without them. That is how I've entered romantic relationships, as well.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:04 am to TigernMS12
I had met this woman at the bar. We shot some darts, danced a lil bit. We ended up going back to her hotel room and hooked up. She was from Birmingham in town for some medical conference.
Well the next morning I'm trying to get her # so maybe we can meet again. She decides to tell me she has a bf back home that she loves very much.
So yeah, that's the type of shite that happens when you go dancing.
Well the next morning I'm trying to get her # so maybe we can meet again. She decides to tell me she has a bf back home that she loves very much.
So yeah, that's the type of shite that happens when you go dancing.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:04 am to KG6
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From your posts, you appear to be the self absorbed male equivalent of the daddy issue sluts I knew in college. You probably only see the value in the girl putting it all out there because that's all you know. You've become cynical since you are so used to those girls. You don't know everything. You only know about the girls that fall for the douchey shite you do
He sounds like one of those idiots that give the "How to get laid" and "How to be a man" talks to the local pussy beta community. Thinks he's the man, but doesn't realize how incredibly naive he is.
This post was edited on 4/13/17 at 9:07 am
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:08 am to TigernMS12
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There is a huge difference in the status of marriage, whether you acknowledge it or not. When you say dating, that could mean a lot of things. Dating for two weeks, casually dating, not that serious, etc. Marriage is marriage, and while that doesn't mean a lot to some people, the one's who take marriage seriously (if you're with someone who doesn't you need to get out anyway) then you shouldn't be worried about your SO fricking others.
Which is why I don't bother with married women. Most of them will shut you down, and those who don't, its an entire different can of worms and pandora's box. Not worth it.
If your wife goes on one or two girls nights out a year, thats one thing, but if its a habit or something that is regular and routine, I'd be suspicious.
The Rollo article I posted addressed this. He said if its an infrequent thing, just let her go and don't worry about it. At all. But...
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Disclaimer: At this point I should also add that this in no way excuses the woman who CONSTANTLY goes on GNOs as some kind of ritual with her girlfriends. This is symptomatic of a larger problem and this, again, is based in desire. If you ever find yourself in this circumstance your best recourse is to NEXT and remove your attentions entirely. Women who have a regular GNO in LTRs are seeking something vicariously through their friends that they feel deprived of and need a fix for to feel completed. It’s only a matter of time until the right circumstances arise for her to consolidate on that deprivation. Better to cut your losses on a bad investment than play the cuckold for a woman who has no genuine desire for you and regularly demonstrates this in her behavior.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:12 am to KG6
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From your posts, you appear to be the self absorbed male equivalent of the daddy issue sluts I knew in college. You probably only see the value in the girl putting it all out there because that's all you know. You've become cynical since you are so used to those girls. You don't know everything. You only know about the girls that fall for the douchey shite you do
I've nailed them all
The summa cum laude 4.0 GPA honor students, the idealistic female role models who are super involved at their church and is in high demand to be a baby sitter because everyone in the community loves her and assumes she is a flawless being of perfect character, the popular local news journalist, as well as the bar sluts and club trash.
Be around enough women and you will learn AWALT. Yeah there are exceptions to every rule but for the most part they all fall into the same predictable behaviors.
Posted on 4/13/17 at 9:13 am to dgnx6
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So yeah, that's the type of shite that happens when you go dancing.
Not saying it doesn't, just saying that painting every person as the same type is simply wrong. Also, marriage does change things for most.
I'd venture to say the biggest factor in all of this is the age of the women. Sure they're are some older crazy women who want to be 21 again, but that's not the norm. The woman that nugget is describing sounds exactly like the 18-22 year old women I chased in college. It's an entirely different woman when you start dealing with women in late 20's/early 30's and beyond, who are mostly married, or want to be, and thinking about kids, family, and careers. They're may be an exception for the newly divorced woman who goes on a crazy streak, but that's beside the point considering we're talking about married women.
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