re: Working parents with young school kids…how do you pull it off?

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Wake up about 645, think about killing myself, realize that would be too good a thing for the wife. Go make coffee.

Make sure the squirts are up and getting ready by 7. From 715-730, I will flip on a kids show.

730, load them in the car and drive them to school, which is in my neighborhood. I return home by 745 and prepare for my work day.

Noon, nanny arrives: cleans up, folds laundry, organizes.

3pm, nanny goes and gets kids, takes them to after school activities, etc.

6pm, wife and I are done working, nanny leaves—I make dinner, play with kids for a bit, they’re in bed by 830.

Rinse, repeat

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2 Qs
1. y’all both work from home?
2. How much that run ya?

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This would work out well if my mother in law was somewhat healthy and reliable.

Guess what? She ain’t. She’s early 60’s going on mid 80’s. She can barely move, and has a “mystery” illness that she is routinely sick (while eating like a 5 year old).

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Holy shite, we’re either BILs or we married the same woman and don’t know it

Set up an FSA for the after care. It doesn't solve your problem, but it'll take some of the sting out. And tell them to do their homework while they wait. Honestly, it's just a part of middle-class life.

If you think it's hard married, try doing it divorced. Busses will only run to one house, and of course it isn't mine.

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We’ve had her a long time. And she was young when we hired. $500/week.

My wife works from home half time. I’m always home.

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Gotcha. Might be expensive but you getting more outta the money than I am lol

We always had a few other neighborhood families in similar situations and traded off with them... one parent didn't go to work until 9 would take all the kids to school and another who go off work mid-afternoon would pick them all up.

For my mother in law, it's textbook Munchausen syndrome. She's seen so many doctors and not one of them can figure anything out. That's because it's not real, and she is staying sick for attention. Wife and her sister dote on her a great deal. That's incentive enough for her to keep the charade up for as long as possible. I just want it out of my routine, and so I can stop flushing $260 every two weeks on something that doesn't work properly.

I think this whole thread is a waste because where daycare really gets us by the balls is the holidays. If they can’t go to my parent’s, where the hell they gonna spend 2 weeks for Christmas vaca & a week for Thanksgiving?(well, hopefully in a deer stand most of thanksgiving)

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It is very possible. You just have to accept that you aren't both driving Tahoes. You will have to live on less money.

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Well, neither one of us drive Tahoes, and I did make my wife settle for a Traverse because it was 20K cheaper and still had all the bells and whistles...

Did you see what the cost of the housing market is today?

Everything is expensive my man...

we have 3 in school, luckily i have a ver flexible job and my wife owns her business and can make it work if need be. Plus my Mother in law works at the school and lives with us.

mine are 3 boys, all same school 5th through K.

I Wake up 5:30 am- get dressed, make lunches, breakfast and lay out uniforms

615- kids wake up, get dressed, eat, exercise with me quickly(pushups and squats as a family)

Wife and I leave at 645

kids ride with MIL and leave at 710

after school, 1 of 2 options- after care and i pick them up, mother in law takes them. most days we have something after school so we divide and conquer.

usually i leave work at 345 or 4. wife usually home by 530.

my oldest plays baseball(off from travel right now but still has pitching, hitting and outfield lessons weekly) and is currently wrapping up football season( I coach, have 2 practices a week plus games on sat) and just started basketball practice twice weekly, games will start soon on saturdays

middle kid is still doing baseball right now and will until decemeber before a month break. has 3 practices a week plus 3 lessons a week plus 2 football practices and games on saturday.


youngest just finished soccer and is about to start basketball before going back to baseball during spring.


in other words, you have no life, let your kids live their best life adn suck it up butter cup. and yes paying for private then after care sucks donkey dick but its worth it imo