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re: Why is it that even when I win an argument with my wife I feel like I’ve lost?
Posted on 5/31/24 at 11:40 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Posted on 5/31/24 at 11:40 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
That is your wife, wear something nice and go. You are kinda being the a-hole here.
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Posted on 6/1/24 at 2:21 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
After 49 years of marriage, I can't honestly say that I ever won an argument with my wife. I always over think things and things have to make sense. Sometimes logic has to disappear in order to keep sanity. She is the kindest person that I ever met. So, I just find a way to look at things like arguing, as a futile attempt that will yield nothing of value. Forget about winning, marriage is not a contest. You will always feel guilty about your decision. Therefore you lost. Winning is keeping happiness in your home, which sometimes involves personal sacrifice.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 2:52 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
If it’s that important to her, maybe you should consider going?
As for me, I still talk to maybe 5 people from high school. I may go to my 50th reunion in the distant future just to tea bag (figuratively, as I have no balls) the memorial to those who didn’t make it that long.
As for me, I still talk to maybe 5 people from high school. I may go to my 50th reunion in the distant future just to tea bag (figuratively, as I have no balls) the memorial to those who didn’t make it that long.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 7:24 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
She wants to show off to her old friends what a great husband she has. Instead they will see what a terrible husband she has.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 7:25 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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She hasn’t spoken to me in about 30 minutes
Posted on 6/1/24 at 7:31 am to bigberg2000
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never get people like you. SHE wants you there with her. She wants you to meet some of her old friends. It’s selfish as frick to not go. Also it’s sort of sad that you can’t have a good time with your wife. Just think of it as a night out with her.
Old friend: so are you married? Single?
Wife: I’m married, he just couldnt come.
She then has to repeat some made up story 37 times through the night to protect her ego but each time she hates you a little bit more.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 7:49 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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Got out of going to her high school reunion when I explained to her I’m not going to enjoy myself and I don’t know anyone who will be there, but it seems like it’s the calm before a storm. She hasn’t spoken to me in about 30 minutes and seems to be sulking and brooding
For those saying I should just suck it up and go, I would if I was just planning to sit at the house by myself, but instead I am choosing to golf with friends of mine from college I actually know and like.
In a few years when you get home and all her stuff is gone and there's a note on the refrigerator telling you that she's leaving you for another guy, I have a feeling you're going to be surprised.
Remember this post, because I'm telling you right now, you shouldn't be surprised.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:02 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
That doesn’t matter one iota, in the grand scheme of things. Because in the game of life we all lose.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:11 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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Got out of going to her high school reunion when I explained to her I’m not going to enjoy myself and I don’t know anyone who will be there, but it seems like it’s the calm before a storm. She hasn’t spoken to me in about 30 minutes and seems to be sulking and brooding
For those saying I should just suck it up and go, I would if I was just planning to sit at the house by myself, but instead I am choosing to golf with friends of mine from college I actually know and like.
Are you this fricking blind?
This isn't about you. This is one of those times when you are supposed to be there for her. I'd bet good money you've dragged her to some function that she has no interest in. It's your turn.
It's one fricking night. Put aside your selfishness and be there with a smile and your best suit.
OR, go golfing and let all of her classmates see what a selfish a-hole she married. I'm sure that will work out just fine. She will be thinking about you and your golf buddies fondly when she's getting banged by her old high school flame in the back of his Yukon.
This post was edited on 6/1/24 at 8:19 am
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:50 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
Gotta tell you, I think you are in the wrong here. She’s sulking and brooding because you are being selfish and not putting her ahead of your own happiness. Sorry not sorry. But that is how I see it. Been married almost 30 years, and doing things I don’t enjoy from time to time is a small price to pay for her happiness. My opinion, sir.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:55 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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Got out of going to her high school reunion when I explained to her I’m not going to enjoy myself and I don’t know anyone who will be there
How often do you make concessions in the relationship? This comes off as selfish
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:56 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
Like gravity, it's a natural law.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 8:56 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
That's something you need to do for her. Jesus, it's a couple of hours, go have a drink or two and just suck it up.
How embarrassing for her to go alone and have to make up some bullshite as to why her husband can't join.
How embarrassing for her to go alone and have to make up some bullshite as to why her husband can't join.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:00 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
So your wife asked you to sacrifice a tiny bit to make her happy and you said no.
Yes. You definitely win that one.
Yes. You definitely win that one.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:07 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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This post was edited on 9/11/25 at 6:51 am
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:09 am to alajones
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You’re all in your 70s. It’ll be wrapped up by 9:00.
If you’re an old bastard that’s already in your 70’s, you need to be using that to your advantage. Don’t argue in advance about not going, but make it a game time decision. Just back out at the last minute due to a “bad back” , “mobility issues”, or your “heart may be acting up again”. 5 minutes after she leaves for her reunion, then head to the golf course. If you go this route, just make sure you are back before 9:00 when the reunion ends.
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:11 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
Because no man wins an argument with his wife
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:13 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
I’m not seeing how you won any argument in your scenario
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:36 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
You’re being selfish here. Your wife doesn’t want to go alone because then her friends will think she has a bad marriage. She wants you there. I understand how you feel but I’ve learned these small things aren’t worth the fight in marriage. She will see it as you prefer your friends over her
Then she goes alone hurt and mad that you didn’t come. She runs into her old high school boyfriend who recently divorced and well…..
You’re better off just apologizing to her saying you were selfish for not considering her feelings and that you’d love to go with her. You can golf any day with your friends
Then she goes alone hurt and mad that you didn’t come. She runs into her old high school boyfriend who recently divorced and well…..
You’re better off just apologizing to her saying you were selfish for not considering her feelings and that you’d love to go with her. You can golf any day with your friends
Posted on 6/1/24 at 9:51 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
Like you have a wife
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