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Why is being an a-hole of a parent frowned upon?
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:16 pm
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:16 pm
:travel ball spinoff:
:melt incoming:
Why am I expected to deify my kids and do whatever they want to do at the time? Our culture has seemingly turned parents into glorified servants.
Sure we "serve" our kids in the sense that we sacrifice to raise them. I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about rearranging my life for their "memories" and temporary happiness.
Screw that. Maybe our job as parents is to see beyond the easy happy route and make tough decisions. Maybe it is our job to inspire our children in certain directions instead of just giving in to what they want to do.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but my kids aren't dictating the terms in our relationship. I know that makes me a "bad" parent these days but who cares?
I'm the dad. They are the kids. End of story.
:melt incoming:
Why am I expected to deify my kids and do whatever they want to do at the time? Our culture has seemingly turned parents into glorified servants.
Sure we "serve" our kids in the sense that we sacrifice to raise them. I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about rearranging my life for their "memories" and temporary happiness.
Screw that. Maybe our job as parents is to see beyond the easy happy route and make tough decisions. Maybe it is our job to inspire our children in certain directions instead of just giving in to what they want to do.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but my kids aren't dictating the terms in our relationship. I know that makes me a "bad" parent these days but who cares?
I'm the dad. They are the kids. End of story.
This post was edited on 3/14/17 at 12:17 pm
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Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:17 pm to theunknownknight
its my way or the highway buckO. kids aint tellin me what to do.
This post was edited on 3/15/17 at 9:33 am
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:19 pm to tke857
We are the only two on this board
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:20 pm to theunknownknight
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We are the only two on this board
You know nothing.
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:21 pm to theunknownknight
Parents who let their children rule their lives are creating demons. Don't let your kids go unchecked. Don't bow in to their wants. They need to learn. frick the people who complain about that.
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:21 pm to theunknownknight
controlling helicopter parents >>>> absentee welfare queens
This post was edited on 3/14/17 at 12:22 pm
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:23 pm to theunknownknight
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my kids aren't dictating the terms in our relationship
IDK who says the kids call the shots but you don't need that negativity in your life.
They live under my roof, eat the food I provide, wear the clothes I buy them, and follow my dang rules.
They can hate me now but will thank me later.
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:24 pm to theunknownknight
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I'm the dad. They are the kids. End of story.
Yup, my wife and I were here first: our relationship, wants, and desires in life come first.
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:24 pm to theunknownknight
Kids need something in their lives to push against. It builds character. That's why I don't show up to birthday's or ball games after I promised I would, and if I do, it's usually piss drunk and swearing.
They should know how to have realistic expectations of people.
They should know how to have realistic expectations of people.
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:29 pm to theunknownknight
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Maybe our job as parents is to see beyond the easy happy route and make tough decisions. Maybe it is our job to inspire our children in certain directions instead of just giving in to what they want to do.
These ideas are just "maybe" to you?
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:32 pm to tigerinthebueche
My major issue is kids expecting things and not being appreciative.
Having a cellphone, $ for gas/mall, nice clothes, etc. is a luxury and not a necessity. I don't mind keeping them involved in activities because it keeps them busy and less likely to do stupid shite.
Just my O
Having a cellphone, $ for gas/mall, nice clothes, etc. is a luxury and not a necessity. I don't mind keeping them involved in activities because it keeps them busy and less likely to do stupid shite.
Just my O
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:36 pm to theunknownknight
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I'm the dad. They are the kids. End of story.
People need to be more like parents and less like friends to their kids
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:37 pm to theunknownknight
i don't have kids yet but i call my 2 year old neice a crybaby because my sister is spoiling her
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:40 pm to theunknownknight
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being an a-hole of a parent
Certainly one of the better perks
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:46 pm to theunknownknight
Being a good parent isn't frowned upon by people that I know.
Bring an a-hole generally is though
Bring an a-hole generally is though
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:49 pm to notiger1997
Sometimes being a good parent = having to be an a-hole
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:50 pm to notiger1997
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my kids aren't dictating the terms in our relationship
I don't negotiate with terrorists
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:52 pm to theunknownknight
Depends on the kid. I'll give into my kid's wants as long as she's good and shows that she is learning. If she's acting like a shite, then she can throw a tantrum on the floor.
As far as dance and soccer and basketball and baseball, frick that. I'm not allowing her to anything like travel ball unless 1: she's real good at it and 2: it doesn't interfere with hunting and fishing.
As far as dance and soccer and basketball and baseball, frick that. I'm not allowing her to anything like travel ball unless 1: she's real good at it and 2: it doesn't interfere with hunting and fishing.
This post was edited on 3/14/17 at 12:54 pm
Posted on 3/14/17 at 12:54 pm to theunknownknight
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Why am I expected to deify my kids and do whatever they want to do at the time?
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I'm talking about rearranging my life for their "memories" and temporary happiness
It HAS to be 1 way or the other, no exit ramps in between!!!
Posted on 3/14/17 at 1:06 pm to Motorboat
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If she's acting like a shite, then she can throw a tantrum on the floor.
I go a step further and punish tantrums. Ignoring the tantrum doesn't teach the kid that it is not ok to act that way, just that they won't get a reward for it.
One warning, stop or there will be consequences. The child choses the next part.
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