re: Why do women make men do things they don't want to do

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You can't get in the I did this for you so you have to do this for me game. That never works out

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Just made this mistake with a woman I dated years ago and almost rekindled with.

Definitely the wrong move. I say this as someone that's agreeing with Roger that you can't just say yes to everything.

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I feel sorry for all of you that can’t understand why this is so insulting and maybe the worst advice I’ve ever read.

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You seem to be a very dramatic person.

Yeah saying yes to everything is not the right move. But, saying no just to say no isn't either. If you communicate better than they'll know what your into and not into. Sometimes she can take a friend, but then everyone meet up for a drink afterwards.


We have this "progressive Christmas party" Saturday night. It's starting at my place. All the guys are going to stay, and the ladies will go from house to house seeing the decorations and having little apps. Then they'll finish back up at our place. I'll make sure to talk to my wife about the decorations she saw, and if she wants to add anything to ours. With Christmas ending all that crap is on sale.

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No need to start a war, fellas.

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nah, I enjoy when they do this

It’s what makes the Ot both awesome and retarded

We all bitch and moan in our heads about the shite we do for our SO, until they look at us with those eyes and mash those titties against us…then we forget what were bemoaning and go back to being happy.

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Most people in here are a lost cause,

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All youre doing is storing resentment fuel in the shadows. One day you'll have a lot of resentment for being such a patsy.

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I feel sorry for all of you that can’t understand why this is so insulting and maybe the worst advice I’ve ever read.

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Everything is important for something, but not everything needs to be reacted to. Not every problem needs solving. Learning to discern and anticipate your partner’s needs and wants from what they tell you about their day is an incredibly important skill that every partner must learn.

However, the amount of information being shared is far too much to commit it all to active memory. When I say “screen”, I don’t mean “tune out”. It’s about learning how to synthesize what is relevant to a given situation versus what is not. You can’t do that if you’re not listening in the first place.

A failure by someone to understand why men must do this shows a complete lack of understanding or respect for their male partners and how/why they communicate. The reality is that men and women typically communicate in different ways for different reasons. Understanding both is important for both partners in a relationship to get what they want. If one partner doesn’t understand how/why their partner communicates, the relationship is doomed long term.

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Guess I'm the a-hole forever and always

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And you’re dyslexic.

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In my opinion, listening to a woman is like reading assignments for law school. You get hundreds of pages to read every day, and your job is to screen this mass of information for the handful of nuggets of information you need to act on and react to. Most of it is noise that they need to vent out, but buried in there is all of the facts and dicta you need to decipher current and future issues. It’s far too much information to memorize, so it’s all about picking up on what bits and pieces need to be remembered and acted upon.


I feel sorry for all of you that can’t understand why this is so insulting and maybe the worst advice I’ve ever read.

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I would love to be a fly on the wall when you are with friends if this is insulting.

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Why do women make men do things they don't want to do
marigny
The whole concept of love has opened up for me as an older broad.

First, I need to root myself in the love of my Creator daily, & to request His wisdom in all my actions. When I inevitably mess that up, I acknowledge it, & start over from there.

Second, I don’t want to require anyone in private life to do anything. Much rather spend time on my own to enjoy an activity, than experience the discomfort of having someone there by coercion!

Third, I think women wanting to hold a man by puppet strings are nuts! That imperils everything sacred in the male-female connection.

Treating our family members and friends as though their presence = our good fortune … this is the Way.

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This is the type of woman you younger fellas should be chasing.