re: Why are you husbands so insecure about your wives?

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I said "Hey, we should grab a coffee or bite to eat some time"

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100% asking her on a date

This is the dating line in every tv show we’ve ever watched.

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You don’t have to doubt. You can ask her. Tell her that she squealed, ran up to you and squeezed your neck, and then you asked her to coffee or dinner. You won’t because even in your Asperger’s haze, you understand that you were a weirdo

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Don’t forget to mention the mutual attraction part to your girlfriend when you tell her

Probably everyone in this thread is correct to some degree. I don't think OP was in the "wrong", just in a hurry and being polite. Maybe a little naive. Then you have what the woman's thinking. You people ever figured out what a woman's thinking? It could have been anything from, "ugh, he isn't as cute as he use to be, to, ugh, he is too cute and I'd be tempted, or actually telling the truth." Obviously, the lady knew the OP had past feeling for her and vice versa, a little mutual attraction. Maybe she just didn't want to take a chance? Bottom line, there isn't a correct answer until you know what the lady was really thinking and you got to assume she was being truthful, cause you'll never know.

Here's what you need to do. Make sure you start going to work early so you can watch and get a feel for what time she normally comes in. Then follow her and figure out exactly where she works. See if she normally brings in coffee or gets it when she gets to work. Once you know where she is located and what her routine is then we start with phase two. Break into her office late one night and steal all the coffee in the office. The next morning find a local street urchin or homeless person and pay them to bump into her in the morning and spill her coffee. This way she will need to get a new coffee at the local coffee shop. This is when you strike.
Good luck.

Only takes a spark to start a fire

I thought these were really bad song lyrics.

This is a stalker’s manifesto

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There was a mutual attraction growing up

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It sounds like she is the reasonable one here and you are kind of a creeper. She is married and wants to keep to her commitment. You may not understand that.

There is literally nothing wrong with someone doing what she did.

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Coworker and a boss is nowhere near the same thing as a childhood friend just wanting to catch up

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I agree, but people in this thread seem to be putting forth the idea that eating lunch alone with anyone of the opposite sex is a "no-no"

Hell, I've had lunch alone with a gay co-worker before, does that mean that I'm going to sleep with him, too?

My wife will occasionally go out to lunch with her boss. He basically takes all her ideas and presents them as his own. He's married and I know his family. She basically comes home and does a data dump on me regarding her day and if they went out, I can't help but hear all about it. That's no big deal at all and completely normal. Same with going out with the office.

But people who want to be married long term do not go out alone with people of the opposite sex just because. Again, anyone who wants to remain married won't because they know the potential we all have for one thing to lead to another. It's not because the husband is jealous. It's because she understands life and wants to remain married.

There are words for married people who end up spending more time with single people than their spouse. That would be Cuck, Cheating whore, and divorced. Sure you can do all that while you're married, but you won't be married long. Just ask any of the good timers who have been married and divorced more than twice. The OP doesn't get it. Maybe he never will. There are plenty of people oblivious to what commitment means nor are they willing to give up their single life even once they're married. It only takes one person to make a marriage become a divorce. Looks like the Husband in this story chose wisely.