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re: Who here was whipped as a child but doesn't whip their own children now?
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:29 pm to Mo Jeaux
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:29 pm to Mo Jeaux
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Yes, because that's the only alternative to physically hitting them.
Like most of my convos with you on here, I provide information while you play contrarian. Please, lets hear your method.
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Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:29 pm to toosleaux
My mom beat me relentlessly and made me resent her for many years. She even denied that she beat me or claimed to have no recollection.
I vowed to never hit my kids but we have lightly "popped" them on the butt when they were younger. I used to also get angry and yell a lot years ago but have come to terms that it was me that was angry and not something that my kids were doing. So at some point, I made a conscious decision to not raise my voice unless absolutely necessary. Today they are pretty damn good kids and are more afraid of letting mom and dad down than getting "hit" or yelled at. That usually stops them from doing something out of line.
I vowed to never hit my kids but we have lightly "popped" them on the butt when they were younger. I used to also get angry and yell a lot years ago but have come to terms that it was me that was angry and not something that my kids were doing. So at some point, I made a conscious decision to not raise my voice unless absolutely necessary. Today they are pretty damn good kids and are more afraid of letting mom and dad down than getting "hit" or yelled at. That usually stops them from doing something out of line.
This post was edited on 8/15/18 at 12:31 pm
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:30 pm to cas4t
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But those skinny switches....man, the sting/whip effect is so fricking painful.
I hated the long skinny ones because they would wrap all the way around my legs. That shite hurt! She could swing that thing about 10 times per second too. I will never forget how bad that stung
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:31 pm to Salmon
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raises hand
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Salmon
Now that explains A LOT
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:31 pm to toosleaux
If you do it correctly, you only have to do it a couple times for them to understand the consequences. My daughter knows when I start counting, I’m serious and she will get a spanking if she doesn’t behave.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:32 pm to 225bred
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Now that explains A LOT
What does it explain?
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:34 pm to CoachChappy
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That's because I instilled a little fear early on.
Hmmm.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:35 pm to CoachChappy
quote:Well, what do you think spanking an 18 month old does mentally to that child who is pretty clueless about the world and look to their parents for guidance and basically for help figuring shite out about how the world works?
And what does reprimanding an 18 month to a 5 year old look and sound like without a little spanking?
"No, Aiden, don't do that. Please stop."
You think spanking a kid at that age or 2 or 3 or 4 years old has no effect emotionally and mentally on them?
quote:What? You think spanking is the only possible reprimand other than "please stop?" Are you actually a parent? That's hard to believe considering you see no other options between those 2 statements.
"No, Aiden, don't do that. Please stop."
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:35 pm to CoachChappy
quote:Ruling by fear, not good.
Sure do, I did it last night. That's because I instilled a little fear early on.
Not good at all.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:38 pm to toosleaux
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Who here was whipped as a child but doesn't whip their own children now?
I was whipped so much as a kid my mom carried multiple wooden spoons in her purse at all times in case she broke one on my arse. And she broke them often and with a vengeance. I do spank my kids now, but they're no where near the little shite I was so they've only gotten a small fraction of the whippings I received.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:38 pm to mikelbr
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Two of my asssholes(my son and youngest daughter, who's a diabolical future inmate) will laugh and mock me if I just fuss.
You have to do more than just fuss. They probably interpret that as empty, emotional threats.
What worked for me is talking to them in a calm voice and explaining consequences for what would happen if they did not display desireable behavior. If they did not comply, I immediately followed through with the consequences I described.
To this day, my kids tell each other how compliant they became when I spoke to them about likely consequences to bad behavior.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:38 pm to CoachChappy
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And what does reprimanding an 18 month to a 5 year old look and sound like without a little spanking?
"No, Aiden, don't do that. Please stop."
This is what I hate about these threads. It always devolves into hyperbole.
One side will claim you are being abusive if you spank.
And the other side will claim you are being too lenient if you don't.
I hate parenting threads.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:40 pm to toosleaux
I was spanked. I employ spanking extremely rarely with my children now, but haven't completely abandoned the form of discipline.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:40 pm to CoachChappy
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Please, lets hear your method.
There are many different methods, depending on the nature of the child and their age, among other things. You, yourself, have mentioned some. It's just that you think they are part and parcel with spanking.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:41 pm to Houma Sapien
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There's two schools of thought here
1. Teach a child to behave out of fear of being hit
2. Teach a child to behave because it's the right thing to do.
The second takes more work, but people are lazy.
Good luck reasoning with kids from age 0-5ish.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:43 pm to Willie Stroker
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reasoning with them
This is why kids are assholes.
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:45 pm to slackster
quote:1. That doesn't meant from 0-5 you should not be working to get them to do what's right.
Good luck reasoning with kids from age 0-5ish
2. Hitting them isn't the alternative/correct answer because you can't reason with them. Hell, if you know you can't reason with them, how do you think they're going to process being hit by the person they depend on at that age?
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:46 pm to Mo Jeaux
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There are many different methods, depending on the nature of the child and their age, among other things. You, yourself, have mentioned some. It's just that you think they are part and parcel with spanking.
So you personally have no method, but are going to criticize mine. Spanking is just one tool, and as I posted earlier, I may not have to use again.
Do you have any kids?
This post was edited on 8/15/18 at 12:47 pm
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:47 pm to CoachChappy
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There are many different methods
quote:Bruh, what are you doing right now in this thread?
So you personally have no method
Posted on 8/15/18 at 12:47 pm to toosleaux
I was spanked on many occasions as a child. Open hand worked until the fateful day that I laughed.
Then, I remember seeing a wave of anger wash over my mother's face as she left to find a wooden spoon. From then on, it was wooden spoon to bare arse, and that shite always made me contemplate whether or not I wanted to be an a-hole that day.
I don't have kids, but I will always keep spanking in the playbook. I know for a fact that there were many occasions where I just wanted to see what I could get away with. Spanking was a solid deterrent when used properly. If you think about it, jail is the deterrent in adulthood. Spankings are far milder than prison and will hopefully teach the child consequences and keep them out of prison.
Then, I remember seeing a wave of anger wash over my mother's face as she left to find a wooden spoon. From then on, it was wooden spoon to bare arse, and that shite always made me contemplate whether or not I wanted to be an a-hole that day.
I don't have kids, but I will always keep spanking in the playbook. I know for a fact that there were many occasions where I just wanted to see what I could get away with. Spanking was a solid deterrent when used properly. If you think about it, jail is the deterrent in adulthood. Spankings are far milder than prison and will hopefully teach the child consequences and keep them out of prison.
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