re: Who here was whipped as a child but doesn't whip their own children now?

Look, I'm not necessarily philosophically opposed to spanking. I was spanked some. But a three or four year old? I don't know about that.

Don't have kids, but when/if do, I'll spank them. But whipping them with a switch or a belt? Nah. I honestly don't know how someone could do that to their own kid and not feel horrible about it. Not to mention if you miss, hit the kid on the back of the leg and leave a bruise. Good luck when a kid sees that in the locker room, and tells a teacher.

There's two schools of thought here

1. Teach a child to behave out of fear of being hit
2. Teach a child to behave because it's the right thing to do.

The second takes more work, but people are lazy.

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. I was in deep shite if I had to pick my switch.

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#meToo! It didn't matter what I brought my mother. She could beat my arse with a toothpick and make it hurt.

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But a three or four year old? I don't know about that.

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Children learn to begin manipulating their surroundings at about 6 mos. By 12 months, they start understanding relationships and boundaries.

There is a reason many parents call it the terrible 2s. These parents didn't instill any discipline or boundaries for these kids. They are now mobile, verbal, and have an understanding that there are on consequences for their actions.

Also, spanking at a young age is not the same as with an 8 year old. A little pop on the diaper, a loud command like "no," and temporary isolation (20-45 seconds) gets the job done. The sound of the diaper getting popped usually scares them more than it hurts.

We've not had to, yet. That said, I'm pretty opposed to it so far. My oldest doesn't always understand his own feelings, and can't articulate them at all. When he acts out, it's rarely cos he's a little prick, and mostly because he struggles to process the world. Hitting him would destroy him.

My daughter is far more adventurous/rebellious. I'll have to figure out what her currency is, as she gets older.

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i spanked my kids with my hand

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What are the spankable offenses? Trying to figure out what a kid could do that deserves corporal punishment

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Spank them and send them to their room. Once they are in the room and have deescalated, you go have a talk with them about the appropriate behavior for next time.

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You realize this can be accomplished without the spanking part, right?

If you can't discipline your kid and have a good kid without spanking them, you may want to consider your parenting skills.


If you're hitting a kid but not hard enough to inflict pain, they'll eventually not give a shite about you hitting them. If you're hitting a young child hard enough to inflict pain, you're essentially abusing that kid. Be a better parent and parent without the threat of pain.

Hitting your kid is also just a short term fix. It may stop them from doing that thing you don't want them to do, but it's a detriment to a child's mental makeup to have the person they look up to for literally everything in life hit them to the point of causing pain.