re: What type of grandparents do your children/grandchildren have?

My kids only have one set (my parents) and they are super involved. Every school function, sporting event etc. My mom even takes my son to mass even though shes not catholic. All those kids have to do is pick up the phone and one of my parents will be there in heart beat. Its crazy to watch though because growing up my parents were very reserved and not really "young kid" people (we were treated like little adults) but now all thats out the window. They are like completely different people when the kids are around. Love seeing it though, thankful that im lucky that they have that.

Wife's Mom/Stepdad - will gladly watch our son whenever/wherever. Go to 99% of his soccer/basketball/football games

Wife's Dad/Stepmom - Holiday grandparents. Don't see our son unless it's a holiday or someone's birthday. Terrible parents to my wife, terrible grandparents too. They live just as close to us as my wife's Mom too

My parents - Live in another state. Will gladly watch him when we see them and he will probably go to their house for a week over the summer.

My family and husband's family are like stray cats.

So, not very present or helpful grandparents.

Didn't matter, we didn't need them anyway.

Neither my parents (now deceased) or my in-laws are the type to always ask to watch the kids. In-laws will always do it if we ask, but they don't usually offer and we feel like it's a burden on them if we do ask. But they do come to some sporting events for the kids. MIL is pretty involved with them.

My mom lives with us and helps out pretty much with everything except cooking (which is a good thing)

My husband’s parents have not spoken to us in ten years because they are selfish, vile people. And that too is a good thing.

We are the ones

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who want to babysit and are involved

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as much as possible, seems like we are the last ones asked between 3 sets of grandparents

As a single dad, my mom helps me out a ton with my kids (4 & 3), especially after work on weekdays. Keeping them entertained while I fix dinner, watching one while I bathe the other, etc. My dad attends all soccer & t-ball games for both kids. My ex wife’s parents live 3 & 6 hours away, and see the kids about once a year.

Sometimes I feel guilty about how much my mom helps me out with my kids. But I know she cherishes getting to spend so much quality time with them. She is the grandparent they spend the most time with and have the deepest relationship with. I am so blessed in that regard and am very grateful for this. Growing up, I was fortunate enough to have wonderful and deep relationships with all four of my grandparents, so it means a lot to see my kids get to have such a close relationship with at least one of their grandparents. Grandparents are the best.

My parents live several hundred miles away and come to visit at least once every 4-6 weeks. We also go to them a few times a year. They're awesome with our son and we trust them implicitly. We don't have any other family anywhere nearby, so it's an absolute godsend when they are here. It makes me really proud when my wife says how great they are, too. Really wish we lived closer--maybe one day.

My in-laws also live several hundred miles away and have never visited once, nor have we brought our son to them. The only times they have seen him since his birth have been meeting up for a few days in destination places (beach vacation, family reunion, etc.). If they were good people, we would regret that they aren't more involved, but they're not good people, so we're kind of okay with it. It obviously hurts my wife more than me that she doesn't really want her parents around our son very much.