re: Watching parents health deteriorate as they age is hell

Dementia took my mom last year. It took everything from her, just a terrible thing to witness.

My mom passed away at 42 years old in 2011 when I was 22, and I still saw her decline over the course of about 5 years. She was chronically ill and clearly had some neurological issues as well as autoimmune conditions - seizures, poor deep sleep, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, hypertension, the list goes on. She was always an extremely strong-willed woman with a fire in her eyes so it was especially painful to see her miserable. The fire burned out and she had a dead look in her eyes. Visits would turn into her trying to talk to me but falling asleep in the middle of sentences, having mild seizures, and she was all but wheelchair bound. She had to use a wheelchair to leave the house but used a walker to get around inside the house.

She passed away about 12 hours after getting a flu shot, she passed in her sleep. She had hives and her throat was swollen, so it has been assumed that she had an unlikely allergic reaction to the flu shot. Just another thing to add to the list of her issues.

It was painful, but after a couple of weeks I came to be grateful that she wasn't suffering anymore.

He gives her all the opioids she wants but is against THC?


It sounds like your mother needs a better doctor.

None of us can escape death. Be grateful for the time you’ve had with them and the fact that they’ve lived to old age which maximizes the time you can spend with them. It’s all we can hope for

Prayers sent OP. It’s never easy watching someone you love go through unexplainable pain. Wishing you and your mom the best


Shoot me an email (address on my profile), I may have some advice / be able to help

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I hate to make a heavy topic even heavier, but what’s your stance on assisted death/suicide? Me and Mom have talked about it before, and we’re both Catholic, yet we boyh believe people that live with chronic, incurable illness should have freedom to choice to end the suffering with euthanasia.

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i really wasn’t sure about this at first. It’s hard when you’re not in the situation. Now my SO is at level 8-10 pain delay with only prescriptions or surgery as a cure. She said no to both - we are in a legal state for MJ though. She’s in her 30s and the thought has crossed my mind, what if she wants to do assisted suicide someday. It is an extremely heavy subject, and while I hope I never have to make that decision, one day we all may get to that point. I respect anyone’s choice... it’s their life and ultimately their pain they have to live with everyday. Pain will truly tear your life apart. It would be selfish IMO to judge someone if you haven’t experienced it / seen someone experience it.

THC and CBD will save your mom’s quality of life. Get her to try the CBD you got offline, which in probability has been stripped of the thc, so she shouldn’t be worried. From personal experience they work amazing together as a team. You need the tiny amount of Thc for the CBD to be activated. If she needs a testimony from anyone, get her in touch with me.

It’s hard to think clearly when you’re in constant pain. Praying for her

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My mom has dementia and sometimes it brings me to tears when i realize she forgets who i am in the middle of a conversation.

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My heart goes out to you. My Memaw had it and would think she was in Oregon, where she grew up, instead of La. She always would make a joke out of it when she caught herself. I’ve been through a lot but I’ve always thought that if they could be so positive while going through that much shite, there’s nothing that should make me want to give up.

I was with my grandparents as dementia and alzheimers took them. Glad I got that time with them.


Though my other grandpa is 80 and will likely outlive me he's such a health nut.

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Even if her doctor would prescribe medical mary jane, Medicare will not pay for the visit or medicine. The visit must not be the same time that she gets her regular meds. Most older people can't afford the extra expense. The visit and the Medicine can add up to $250 a month.

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Medicare doesn’t pay for her current meds either, Risk Management does. I’m not sure if they’d approve her going to another doctor without her lawyer having to get involved. We talked about it some this morning, so I’m just trying to slowly get her to be more open to it. We have friends that are in legal states that have had great success with it, and I’ve read a ton of stuff online from people who have RSD that swear by medical mj. I think a great deal of it has to do with that Louisiana JUST started allowing people to use it as an alternative. I’m hopeful that in the coming years it will be more commonplace and the stigma will wear off in addition to the government legalizing it across the board. It’s sad, but honestly I think a Dem would have to take office. I do support Trump, but I pray he can see that he has the power to alleviate millions of peoples suffering and improve their quality of life.

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Watching parents health deteriorate as they age is hell

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I'm 71 and on the opposite side of this.

If you think it is hard watching it (I did) just wait until you are the one being watched.

Was: Raised 3 boys, supervisor of people, worked 1 job + a part time, fished, hunted, health club member, raced cars, dirt bike rider, officer in 2 community organizations. ... more.

Now: Haven't been able to go outside in 5 days..... You don't want to know ALL the details.