re: Watching parents health deteriorate as they age is hell

Browsing the OT, as I sit here and listen to the ventilator breathe for my Dad...Called from the office to come talk to the doctor. Mom passed in September and my Dad has been dying of broken heart syndrome since...I have a feeling this meeting about his Lung won’t be good—-So, in OT fashion

And to think...It couldve been me! Wait...it is! What time will Dr. Show? Bout three fiddy

I’ve been lucky all my life till 3yrs ago...it’s my turn in the pot I guess...it sucks baws...Keep em comfy and let em see your face, tell em what ya got on your mind, not as you kneel over a box!

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I can’t imagine and I’m so sorry man. Do you have a motorized or regular wheelchair and have people around to maybe help you get outside and get some sun. I know I’ve heard from a ton of doctors that lack of sun is a big reason people stay depressed, and I’m sure that only compounds the other problems you deal with. I pray for you, man. If you need someone to talk or vent to, let me know and I’ll put my email in a post.

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I'm by the window a lot. I get around with a cane but not much reason anymore. I still do what I can. I look back and wish I was still that way BUT I look back and smile at the great life I've had.

I appreciate the prayers but I raised good kids. My sons, DILs, & grandkids are all great and near me.

I had to find the "silver linings" to make it easier to except each loss of health.

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My father died suddenly and unexpectedly at age 75 after having a life free of any health issues. After seeing the anguish and despair that dominated the live’s of many of our friends who spent years caring for parents with dementia, Alzheimer’s and other chronic diseases, my siblings and I feel like we were blessed to have him leave us with so little burden.

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I've always thought the same way. It may be harder in the beginning to suddenly lose a loved one, but in the long run you realize it was easier on the person that died.

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I told her we could build a “pillow fort” around it to cover it, that got a good laugh

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sometimes you gotta be willing to try anything

Enjoy the better days! After a visit to the chiro (very low intensity) a few days ago, I realized my lady had not smiled or laughed in over a week. She was happy as a clam after leaving, at least for a day or two. Gotta enjoy the moments when they come

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I’ve considered going to a legal state and loading up on super high CBD % edibles and stuff like that to help.

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Get a friend in a legal state to FedEx some to you.

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TDemboslice@gmail.com

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E-mail sent broski.

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sometimes you gotta be willing to try anything

Enjoy the better days! After a visit to the chiro (very low intensity) a few days ago, I realized my lady had not smiled or laughed in over a week. She was happy as a clam after leaving, at least for a day or two. Gotta enjoy the moments when they come

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Man at this point if taking her to a witch doctor would help we’d be there in five minutes flat I think eventually I’ll be able to bring her around to trying it, just going to take some convincing. She used to go to a chiro, but she’s had a few necks surgeries, 10 or so surgeries on her right leg, had back surgery on her L-5 S-1 and is really sensitive to any kind of touch so chiro is out unfortunately. Luckily she has been in way better spirits today, and she didn’t get a call back about her bone scan test results, so that’s probably good news. She’s going to call them in the morning. Fingers crossed.

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Sorry, sounds terrible. Her Doc doesn’t seem to be helping her much.

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He’s been her pain doctor for 15 years, and he’s helped her a lot during that time, but he just has a hard stance against medical mj. Workman’s Comp/Risk Mgmt is who foots the bill for her doc visits, meds and procedures, and they raise hell any time her doctor orders anything like trigger point injections or anything like that, and he’s lit into their arse and gotten to them to pay for a lot of stuff, so he has helped a lot, but he could help her a lot more.

I'm there with you man. My dad has lived a good solid life until 2 years ago. Bad joints and his back eat up with arthritis has left him virtually paralyzed. I'm thankful he still has a good mind and that my boys still go to see him when they can.

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Go to a different doctor

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This. And lots of CBD. It will change her life.

This might be hard to understand but the doctor knows a lot more than you do.